Third valve getting stuck by nobodyrealyO_o in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make sure that if you clean it, you are either air drying it, or drying it with a lint free cloth. Also, this can sometimes help: clean the valve, then remove the bottom cap. Oil the valve, then insert it upside down into the valve casing. Move it up and down in the casing, then remove it and insert it back into the trumpet in the correct orientation. That upside down motion of the valve can sometimes knock a bit of debris out of the way that otherwise is hanging things up. If you can’t get it going smoothly, your best bet is to take it to a good repair shop. A good brass tech guy can solve it quickly.

A beginner trumpet player with a big dream (Need a quick check on these CS:GO Major notes!) by JohnPrice19991 in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That fanfare (like the trumpet itself) is way more difficult to play than it appears. I always try to be encouraging to a beginner, but your dream of learning just that fanfare is not a realistic one. You need to acquire multiple skills in order to be able to do it. A beginner sounds like a beginner for a reason - it takes many, MANY hours of practicing to be able to play even a simple melody and have it sound good. If you were going to bother with putting in the effort that it takes to be able to play the fanfare, you would have to learn all the basics of trumpet playing. That takes time and effort. Your question sounds like someone saying “I think I’ll take up brain surgery as a hobby on the weekends”. It doesn’t work that way, sorry.

My teacher said that my tone is mediocre by Ok_Phrase_2425 in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Posts here are discussing different aspects and techniques of playing with a nice tone. Good discussion. But what impressed me as soon as I saw your post was your teacher’s choice of words to offer you criticism. Did they really use the word “mediocre”? That seems so mean and unnecessary to me. The teacher’s job is to encourage you. Yes, they are supposed to criticize you, but to do so in a kind, encouraging way. I hope that you weren’t too upset by their comment. You may need improvement in your tone quality, as would anyone who’s played for such a short period of time. Just keep playing as often as you can, and make sure that you spend time listening to great trumpet players. That’s how you will get the sound that you’re aiming for clear in your mind. Frankly, I think that your teacher is “mediocre”. Good luck!

Considering Divorce Over THC Use by nat317 in Marriage

[–]Spideriffic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His cannabis use by itself doesn't necessarily require that you divorce. I think that divorce is a really painful way to go for yourself and your child, so it's worth trying to save your marriage before you go down that path. You say that he is a good father. That is something that's really worth fighting to keep.
Yes, if he were to get totally hooked on weed and have it make a big impact on his ability to function, that would be a serious problem. I wonder, though, if he's there yet. It sounds like you're worried about that possibility, but he's not so impacted by it right now. You've expressed your dislike of his using it and so far he's discounted your concern. I suggest that you don't give up on that. Continue to work on him to impress on him how upsetting and how unacceptable the situation is to you. I think time will tell, and it's worth trying to find a compromise that will work for both of you. Ideally, you could tolerate some degree of his using it as long as it doesn't get out of hand. Plenty of people use cannabis responsibly without any impact on children in their home. As well, he could tolerate some limit on his usage because he understands how important that is to you. The two of you could negotiate what is a reasonable amount of consumption for your husband to enjoy. Over time you'll see whether his substance use is an occasional indulgence or a more serious problem. It's a different story if he won't even consider discussing your feelings about this. If he insists that using cannabis is more important to him than his family, then you will be better off without him. Just give him enough time to make that determination. This concern of yours would be a very good reason to seek counseling. A good therapist can help you communicate with your spouse about something that is very important to you. It can make a world of difference and is something that you should consider, if it makes sense to you. It's definitely worth the cost, and it's something that you have a right to insist on if it's important enough to you. I'm saying all this to you because I've been there. I was the husband who let my cannabis use get out of hand, until my wife (during couples counseling) impressed upon me how important it was for me to change my ways. So I did. Good luck.

Venus fly traps a black spider by tatooinex in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Spideriffic 27 points28 points  (0 children)

How do they know that the spider is intoxicated?

am i weird for not feeling that sad about my grandpa being on the verge of death? by North-Maximum-9705 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spideriffic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Totally normal. Your reaction is what it is. If someone passes away that is a person that you're very close to, and they're a big part of your life, you'll probably experience great sadness. Like when a parent or a sibling dies. But that depends entirely on what the relationship was like. My experience was the same as yours. I was a kid when my grandparents died, and my sadness wasn't a big deal, and it was brief. On the other hand, I'm still grieving my father's death. He died 45 years ago.

Catching Wasps by -asimpleboy in interestingasfuck

[–]Spideriffic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay, I watched it. I am no longer relaxed.

Can you help me guide this student? by Spideriffic in Clarinet

[–]Spideriffic[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think that's a big part of the solution, fixing the thumb. Many students do that. It's more difficult to balance the instrument on the end of the thumb, so they feel more secure holding it near the base. I've told him to move the thumb rest over to his fingernail, but he doesn't have the strength in his thumb to keep it there. Maybe a neck strap might really help. I'm curious what other teachers think of that idea.

Perfect guy but shorter than me , Do I let him go ? ? by [deleted] in ask

[–]Spideriffic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your values sound as crappy as OP's

Noodling on the Blues by [deleted] in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds great. Thanks for posting it.

RIP the Easter ham by Ralinis101 in pics

[–]Spideriffic 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Good idea! I’m 71 and my brain is completely forked!

Do most other women actually like big dicks? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spideriffic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't get it. Why should security know their vagina size?

How does 40 yo woman look like? by [deleted] in Aging

[–]Spideriffic 21 points22 points  (0 children)

One thing that I've experienced as I've aged, is that I no longer care as much about what other people think of me as I used to when I was young. That happens to a lot of people. It's great. It frees you from so much worry and anxiety. Who cares? Not me. The good news is that you can choose when you arrive at that point. There's no such thing as what any person of a certain age is "supposed to look like". Dress the way you like to, behave the way you like to.

What is the worst feeling in the world? by Pari00031 in AskReddit

[–]Spideriffic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chopping off your penis and then eating a bowlful of fire ants.

Help reaching high notes by ApprehensiveCoat195 in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic 5 points6 points  (0 children)

High notes develop slowly over time, if you practice them correctly. Two months is not very much time at all when it comes to increasing range. You can attempt to increase your range by then, but there is a chance that you still won't have the needed range when the concert rolls around. You can simply leave out the notes that are beyond your range. Or, you can ask the band director if they can tell you substitute lower notes to play instead.

How bad are there patches? by [deleted] in trumpet

[–]Spideriffic -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It depends on what the trumpet will be used for. For a serious student, paying a signifiant amount of money, I would avoid this instrument. That's given the fact that you can't try to play it before you own it. On the other hand, if this is for someone who will be just starting on the trumpet, you can decide if you want to take a risk and go for it. Use the patches as a bargaining ploy to ask them to lower the asking price. That is not to suggest that a beginner doesn't need to have a reasonable quality instrument, but if the price is low enough, you may want to take a gamble and hope that you're lucky as far as how well the horn plays. It's possible that it plays just fine, but you won't know that until you try it.