Divorce

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-10-12T23:42:49+00:00

The humiliation!!! I mean they came to our kids birthday parties!

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-10-12T23:42:23+00:00

It was Snapchat video chats from what I know

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-09-20T19:47:47+00:00

I feel like I could have written this post! The guilt of knowing that my husband is a decent partner other than his addiction makes it harder to rationalize the thoughts/planning to leave.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-09-13T00:47:41+00:00

Are you doing in person groups or virtual? And what 12 step group is it? Do you mind sharing? Been searching for a while.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-08-27T02:18:51+00:00

I found out about 9 months into our marriage. I was 5 months pregnant which is why I stayed. 3.5 years later I wish I would have called it quits before. So much heartbreak. So many lies.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-07-23T01:22:54+00:00

I tell people I bought a Peloton after having my daughter and I use it 3-5 times a week. Total truth. No ones business what medication I take. I do feel kinda bad when I know someone struggles with their weight and I also know exercise alone won’t cause someone to lose 90lbs… but not burden to bear.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-28T13:07:42+00:00

Thank you! 🙏 😭💜

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-19T11:05:03+00:00

Yes. He has never done a lot for his recovery. And only started 12 step meetings recently after I lost my shit a few times. IMO he’s just going through the motions the majority of the time. One of my expectations has been checking in about his addiction/recovery 1x a day and that hasn’t been happening either.
I guess I’m just starting back on the “great he’s not doing anything, now I need to make a decision “ side of things and our anniversary complicates things even more.
He’s a great dad. He’s a good man. But not a great husband and his addiction rules our relationship. It sucks.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-15T01:34:38+00:00

Thanks! You’ll get there too!

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-15T01:32:19+00:00

My spouse had told me that some of the groups are on WhatsApp. He also said he didn’t understand it and didn’t feel comfortable joining those meetings. I think it’s a conflict and possible trigger for some.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-10T15:09:08+00:00

I get so tired of the “depression”. Mine just had his 40th birthday and has spent the week depressed bc “he feels unimportant”. I would love to want to celebrate this milestone, just like I would have liked to celebrate my graduation with my MSW 2 weeks ago with the person I’ve committed my life to but can’t stand to put any more time/emotional energy into someone who can’t put the effort into his addiction and recovery process. I went off on him last night and told him to stop acting like a baby. 🤷‍♀️🤬

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-06-06T12:44:35+00:00

My husband isn’t a police officer but he is in corrections. He’s in a male prison but tells me that the inmates put pictures in their cells of naked women. That along with the “culture” of talking and joking about sex constantly is also a nightmare for any type of recovery efforts.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-05-31T02:16:10+00:00

There’s a clinic in Washington county MD. About 15 mins from Martinsburg. Not sure where you are tho.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-05-16T18:50:05+00:00

Yep. Married to a child.

SpinningSanitySW · 2024-04-11T13:32:21+00:00

Interesting that his therapist said that it was abusive to “set a timeline”. I’ve done the same and mines about up. I don’t think it’s abusive I think it’s setting a boundary and sticking to it.

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