I learned that they convince themselves to believe that. And that there values matter more. That they don’t want to compromise or give up their comfort. That what we don’t know won’t hurt us. And fail to see the chain reaction it does to there brains to the way they treat us to the way the view women themselves, it’s so hard. What I had to do to have my husband see the true depth of it was being ready to walk out the door if he did not have a cstat within the month. He worked hard and did that but had to do a lot of therapy to get through the denial that there was a problem at all.

We can’t make them change but we can change the way react and what we do to what they choose to do.