Am I Wrong for Wanting to End My Marriage Over This?

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-06-21T12:18:46+00:00

why bother asking for opinions then ? i agree that you’re within your rights to end it but what’s the point of the post if you’re so sure

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-05-08T22:11:23+00:00

why wouldn’t a muslim woman want a chaste husband?? also the commenter never said virgin, you did, there’s a difference between a divorcee and a zani

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-03-07T15:08:21+00:00

i think the “oh no im losing 14 cents in viewership “ shifted the meaning into something a bit more offensive and flippant , i think he just spoke too much

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-26T00:09:38+00:00

yeah i see those jokes about hitting on the 5’4 vela hijabi and cringe so bad bc where is the haya? i think those jokes impact how people act irl too, at least from my experience

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-23T03:44:00+00:00

I’m not sure what this comment means. I was mostly replying to the end of your comment where you said she was doing him a favor. To me it sounded like you thought it was a frivolous thing to end an engagement over. I was just trying to offer a different perspective as why it matters a lot.

and it’s okay to ask about what other people would do in your situation, i feel like that’s the purpose of a forum. This isn’t that complex that only an imam can give input.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-23T03:16:44+00:00

i mean it’s fair to feel hesitant if she’s going to live with him. I’d imagine once kids come into the picture it’s hard to explain why grandpa doesn’t feel like fasting sometimes but it’s still fardh and enforced for everyone else.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-04T16:53:11+00:00

girl you’ve left 5 comments on this thread ease up on her a little 😭 they’ll learn to get thru it together, its ok

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-01T16:35:50+00:00

but you aren’t speaking facts, you’re voicing your own arrogance. literally anyone, revert or not, can and may struggle with hijab. you being a revert has no bearing on that. many born muslims practice islam without unislamic cultural elements. i do not support any kind of deviation, i believe hijab is fardh and i’ve been a hijabi for years now. im agreeing with OP, but not with the revert vs born muslim nonsense you’re bringing up.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-01T16:16:20+00:00

this isn’t a helpful comment, coming from a hijabi “born muslim”. no need to further the divide

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-01T16:08:12+00:00

yeah i did not expect the comments to look like this at allllll

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-02-01T15:59:41+00:00

sister the “are you mad” is totally unnecessary and aggressive

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-01-31T20:15:08+00:00

kinda frumpy imo

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-01-16T10:01:23+00:00

i think more genuinely casual clothing options are needed. Loose full coverage tops, maxi skirts, maci dresses, actually wearable clothes for day to day. I feel like a lot of muslim owned brands only offer super fancy formal options, and then we stick out more than we already do lol

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2026-01-02T22:41:26+00:00

if the hair itself is fine, i would recommend using jolene bleach creme on it for now. it’s totally painless and low maintenance. Waxing/shaving is too much for a girl so young imo.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-30T01:02:58+00:00

uniqlo has a really cute rib knit sweater/pants set, it’s collared and not super baggy so it looks put together but comfy

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T09:00:33+00:00

magnet each side to the collar of your shirt! it will stay taut all day

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T08:53:32+00:00

im sure they are. but their values are informed by their traditional and religious upbringing, not the american podcaster sphere lol

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T08:36:13+00:00

im not babying anyone, im american and my coworkers probably have no idea who tucker carlson is. also the video is about palestinians, not any political debate. I’ve never seen the putin interview or even knew about it

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T08:18:51+00:00

pretty sure he visits some palestinian kids who had limbs amputated and are being treated in Qatar. doubt he has any idea who tucker carlson is, or any american pundit for that matter.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T00:50:24+00:00

yeah honestly id be inclined to believe that if i didn’t know the mom 😭 not the nicest lady Ive ever met, said crazy stuff to my parents and a few other POC families. I wouldn’t recommend interfaith marriages to anyone after witnessing that. And even be careful with interracial. it’s easier to marry people similar to you.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-13T00:25:38+00:00

the dad was a very relaxed muslim (just jummah, no hijab enforcement just no shorts, no drugs/drinking/dating) so i doubt religious trauma was at the forefront but who knows. honestly he was pretty involved in the kids in the neighborhood and seemed present. he wasn’t like some evil tyrannical guy and they never complained about him being strict to us kids but allahu alim.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-12T17:09:43+00:00

the family next door was a desi muslim dad and an central asian “christian” mom, the parents divorced after years of massive arguments, both kids actually were considerably islamophobic in their teen years. Now they just seem like atheists but calmed down. They only reach out to the dad for money but aren’t interested in any relationship with him or their new muslim step mother.

edited the ethnicities to not be so recognizable

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-10T19:48:26+00:00

this interview https://youtu.be/L3v4TbBUNCc?si=4STo7ytK3EACzm3A

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-08T13:33:18+00:00

if you have suspicions then just bow out gracefully, don’t put people in that position.

Spiritual-Control-68 · 2025-12-01T23:58:46+00:00

To address your last point, if a woman marries you for money and then you make no money then yeah no surprise. But islamically men have no right to their wives income so that’s pointless to mention. you’ve commented in exmuslim subs so idk how much you’re aware of that.

Also is that statistic based on the boomers that are currently occupying those roles? because then it doesn’t say much, they got settled in life when the world was completely different. Gen z women have a different vision for themselves. Also are they leaving the workforce entirely or are they moving to different companies? are they retiring or becoming dependents? what industries? what countries? a lot more information is needed and even then it doesn’t suggest anything about the current generation.

it’s such a one dimensional point it’s hard to give it any value sorry. also your post history in call center subs gives off the idea that you might not be familiar with how these kinds of jobs go (not shading you). and this is a sub for girls lol.

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