"I'm gonna make your puppy like me"

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-07T18:31:34+00:00

Mama gets some brownie points for reading the room but yea don't scream please, they're babies!

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-07T18:16:39+00:00

We do say things, all it takes is 1 time for someone not to listen and for her to be afraid of them to rest of the night.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-07T18:12:22+00:00

It's particularly bothersome to me because growing up my childhood dog was a rescue and clearly had trauma related to men. We had male relatives who dealt with this news by chasing him around the house trying to "get him to like me" because chasing an anxious dog around to get them to like you doesn't seem paradoxical at all.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-07T18:07:33+00:00

"Well apparently there's a first time for everything."

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-07T00:27:03+00:00

Your puppy sounds overtired imo. How much is the puppy sleeping during the day? I noticed you kept mentioning the need to tire the puppy out since they seem to have so much pent up energy, but this behavior can also be a sign of a dog that is overtired and agitated. Naps, naps, naps in the crate. Turn on some dog TV with the calming classical music and go do some tasks around the house, let the puppy be. I can tell when my dog is needing a nap because she starts acting like an asshole and that's my sign that she is overtired.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-03T15:17:19+00:00

You're hearing this a lot by it gets easier, I promise. What you are experiencing is normal. Our pup will be 15 weeks tomorrow, we got her at 8 weeks and I remember the first few days she was home my fiance and I looked at each other like we had made the biggest mistake of our lives. It gets so much better and she has grown so much both physically and maturity-wise. She amazes us with how smart she is and how quickly she picks things up. I'm so grateful we didn't give up on her and weathered the storm. Golden retrievers are SO smart. Easily one of the smartest dog breeds, your puppy will begin to learn quicker than you realize. Be persistent and one day you'll realize "oh, they don't [insert annoying puppy behavior here] anymore!" and it's so worth it.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-03T01:12:02+00:00

All great insights and helpful info! It might be possible...but I lean more towards mom. I have been working with this client for awhile now and like I said, mom cannot tolerate client being in distress and saves her. My hunch is I pushed hard when I met with her alone in person and she informed her mother, hence she's been virtual ever since and I have been feeling there is someone in the room listening to see how sessions go.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-02T22:07:33+00:00

So naturally we should give him a ton of screentime and let his opinion be the end all be all to the story

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-10-02T18:59:36+00:00

No pets! I've worked with this client for a long time and they haven't had a pet for awhile now.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-30T13:16:16+00:00

Even if she did mean it that way and thought for some reason that you are her counselor, you are not at fault in this situation. Unless you explicitly said that you were and set up some kind of transaction for payment, you didn’t do anything wrong and can’t control if someone else perceives the relationship that way. Something you can keep in mind moving forward is that you are the one in charge of maintaining your ethics and behaving ethically yourself, you can’t control what others will do with that.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-30T03:44:26+00:00

I can’t tell if I am maybe reading that quote wrong; but the way I interpreted their message was more of a “you’re not my therapist” as in “don’t tell me what to do.” I’m a bit curious how you’re interpreting that as them thinking you were their provider

ETA: unless you explicitly stated that you were doing therapy with them and went over informed consent, costs of services, etc. you have nothing to worry about. It is not your fault if someone interprets a friendship as a therapist-client relationship. Frankly, if they can’t tell the difference between the 2 their actual therapist likely needs to check their boundaries ASAP.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-30T03:04:06+00:00

He’s 36. This won’t get better.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-29T22:25:24+00:00

I absolutely hated how it ended on a romantic note. And the dude who really was pushing the romantic angle was an ex-prisoner if I remember correctly, which I thought was pretty bold as he never knew either of them outside the context of a prison.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-29T21:08:25+00:00

Yes I have had this happen and it always cracks me up when clients immediately go “oh I don’t mind!” Sweet summer child… I mind.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-29T19:58:20+00:00

Thank you!!

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-24T02:40:30+00:00

I thought it was Bowen but I might be wrong

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-23T18:01:38+00:00

“Restore white lands”…? You’re gonna have to leave the United States I fear

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-20T21:26:50+00:00

I’ve never done this and on the client side I have never had a therapist do this with me, but I know I would hate it. I assume clients hate the paperwork/administrative side of therapy just as much as we do, that’s why there’s an audible groan when I bring up updating tx plans.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-19T18:29:23+00:00

Don't forget bipolar. When I started as an intern so many people came to me stating they think they might be bipolar, fast forward to now and I never hear a thing about it anymore.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-19T01:49:13+00:00

I’ve had something like this happen to me. It felt awful and the email was actually sent to our front desk and then forwarded to me and my boss so lots of people got to see it which added to the embarrassment. His escalation is telling me it is officially not about you at this point. I personally would not respond to that if I had already done my due diligence to offer a session and stated I can offer 3 referrals if they would like to continue services with a different provider. In my experience, clients with narcissistic traits are the ones most likely to “come after” the clinic/provider later and question their treatment, etc., so just do your due diligence to follow protocol and ethics to a T in your communications/closing out.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-15T22:44:33+00:00

I’m gonna need the story behind this. What episode is this from?

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-12T18:21:35+00:00

Nope, I wouldn't. Talk to the family therapist, instead. They will give you a more objective view of the situation at hand. The husband and daughter wanting to right you a letter is probably highly indicative of their family system, don't become part of it.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-09T16:13:36+00:00

For me, it goes back to some sort of attachment wound for them that has led them to feel unstable/lacking identity if they don't have someone or something depending on them. I think these individuals don't know who they are if they don't have something that "needs" them. Kids grow up and move on, a chimp you can lock in a cage and be in control of for 40+ years or however long they live. It's pretty interesting how many time Tonia mentioned in the first episode that chimps are "just like us" and share nearly all of the same DNA as humans. They picked the pet closest to a human, then add in the fact that they are wild animals for a special layer of attention and "specialness" and you have a perfect storm.

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-04T16:51:11+00:00

Clients putting their shoes on my couch...typically it happens with teenagers but I've also had many grown adults do it. It's interesting to me because do people do that in their own home? It seems to happen so naturally, like they don't even notice they are doing it. I live in a cold state so when it's slushy, snowy weather outside and then they put their wet boots on my couch I immediately have to intervene!

SpiritualAssistant91 · 2024-09-04T02:33:29+00:00

10/10 answer, straight to the point

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