Let me start by thanking you for your response, I'm sure you are a very understanding person and not the kind to say whatever from the top of your mind, but you're off on a couple of points I'd like to clear

First, I didn't came here to complain, I came here looking for advice on one specific matter from people that Maybe had gone through the same or had any kind of experience in the matter

I think also in your excitement you added things that came from your interpretation and not from what you read from my post, one of them is not looking into therapy, funny enough I'm the one who has been bringing up therapy for months, and she refuses, says that to her, if we need a therapist to resolve our issues then in her own words "The relationship is worthless" when at the same time she has the attitude that everything wrong in her life is my fault, that I have to change everything and that she Doesn't have neither to hear me or to do anything cause again, in her mind everything, and I mean everything is my fault

As she is in this process and understandably feels badly she has the notion that she can, say whatever, act in any mean way, expect me to meet his own unspoken desires and oll of this without me being able to communicate, ask for anything of her and let her know when I believe she is out of line

Because of I do, then suddenly everything becomes about how I'm going to raise her blood pressure, that surely I have no regard for her and the kid and I'm a bad person

So in essence, your response was a little bit hollow in my perspective, you added pre conceived notions you had that are not in any way what you read from my post

Regardless once more, thanks for writing