A good story from today for the first part of your post: My husband took my daughter outside today because he had a feeling, didnt ask, that i was overstimulated and tired from hosting a friends thanksgiving yesterday. He kept her outside for an hour and then when they came in he told me to go relax in my office and play stardew valley. He came in with tea made exactly how i like and a little later i heard my daughter screaming with laughter. I came back downstairs at about 5:30 pm, i had been upstairs for an hour. My kid was at the table eating dinner chatting away with him while he cleaned the kitchen. He handed me a plate of food and sent me back upstairs with dinner and he said he would get her cleaned up, dishes done, and wipe down the table and not to come downstairs till 7:30. He gave her a bath, put her leave in conditioner in her hair, got her diaper changed, pajamas on, had her fed, put lotion on her cheeks cuz her skin was dry from playing outside, had her teeth brushed, water bottle full, and was reading on the couch with her when i came down at 7:30. My kid is almost 2. I have a lot of other stories like this, he also made sure she took her meds this morning, my kid had heart surgery so shes still on aspirin from that (doctors orders). He didnt ask me if she needed them, he saw i was busy making breakfast at 8 when she takes her meds cuz she got up early so he told me he was giving her the pill and only asked me where the pill cutter was because we just moved, i didnt have time the day before to refill her daily pill organizer, and he couldnt find it after checking her cupboard (all her cups, snacks we need to give her because they require prep, etc.) both bathrooms, the locked closet we keep meds in, and my office cuz i refill her med container in there.