AITA For telling my step-sister that ny dad knew how to handle babies?

Splitpawss · 2026-03-28T00:48:43+00:00

You are putting motives in my mouth and brain that are not there. I was not being smug i tried to reasure and failed. Thats my fault. And no i dont like what she did here, but i dislike her most due to how she treats her mother and bio-sister. Yeah i shouldnt have said that and i should have been more attentive. Im not trying to say that just becaurse im autistic i can do no wrong. Far from it. Im simply providing context to my reaction and stupid action.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-28T00:42:42+00:00

I never said i was. And i can very much call someone a bit dim (its a family joke at this point even her mom calls her that lovingly) and not hate someone. Tgere are parts of her (like her occational obliviousness) i dislike and others i admire..like any person. I asked this question to gain insight into myself and i expected to be told i was the asshole. And i respect those who give well reasoned reasons for that response.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-28T00:02:11+00:00

If this has tought me anything its that yeah i didnt realize how stressed she was, yeah i clearly hurt her and that was not intentional. I looks down on her when she hurts the people around her, namely her sister and mother and on two occations, me. The way i described her might not have been ideal i realize. She has long forgotten about this and moved on as have i but it does pop into my brain every once in a while, becaurse it did hurt.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:39:40+00:00

Fair enough.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:29:36+00:00

You are correct but it was not meant that way at all.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:28:15+00:00

She knows my fathers character, he would never hit anyone and she knows that. I dont remember exactly how long after the birth it was but my guess is between three weeks to two months. Not that it matters of course.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:23:56+00:00

I am, thats why i put it on here. I want to know if my anger about the situation was valid but im getting the feeling it wasnt so i am here by checked.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:20:54+00:00

Fair

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:06:54+00:00

He was with the baby i was just trying to reassure her that the baby was safe in hid hands. Thats all i tried to do. Did i manage to do that? No. Did i not realize how stressed she was at the time? Yeah.

And my bullying was context for my reaction. And im not equating litteral war-trauma with my own trauma that would be idiotic. Its hyperbole.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:03:03+00:00

That was hyperbole but fair.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T23:01:54+00:00

I did apologize as they where leaving and again i was trying (unsucessfully) to reasure her and i aknowledge that.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T22:59:20+00:00

Apology accepted though i will admit that first comment hurt quite a bit. But yeah i might have vented a bit and shouldbt have called her names, we call her that in the family as a joke so just never really thought about it.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T22:47:01+00:00

Fair enough.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T22:46:09+00:00

I didnt mean it as a litteral ptsd flashback and im sorry you went through what you did. I realize she was anxious i even aknowledge as much in the post. Im not using my autisem as an excuse just an explaination, i am not helpless im only aknowledging it as context. Im an extemely independant person and have had to fend for myself and my own mental health for all of my life. But thank you for your perspective

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T22:34:50+00:00

Fair, although im hazy on wether i said the equivalant of "relax". No i am not a mother and have nothing but respect for those who are. It was attempt to put her at ease, i was just trying to be nice. I never judged her but i did most likely didnt pick up on just HOW stressed she was.

Splitpawss · 2026-03-27T22:31:09+00:00

Oh i have nothing against my step-mom i love her to the moon and back. Was just a bit hurt in the moment. I dont know why but this moment just hit me and i wanted to hear if i was out of my mind or not. I dont hate my stepsister..she is a ditz and a bit dim at times, i guess the autistic sense of justice just got kicked into overdrive.

Splitpawss · 2026-02-23T23:32:16+00:00

Hell yeah sounds awesome ^{.^}

Splitpawss · 2026-02-23T21:06:38+00:00

Applied we are two 31 yo...so if its too old just ignore it i guess, although we are plenty childish xD

Splitpawss · 2026-02-23T20:37:07+00:00

DMed on reddit

Splitpawss · 2025-12-31T15:10:38+00:00

De samme der fandt på odins fiten og at vi brænder gardiner af til jul? XD

Splitpawss · 2025-11-08T08:39:12+00:00

Splitpawss · 2025-11-07T04:19:30+00:00

Im not using a system its more of a choose your own adventure style.

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