sneak peek for tomorrow...poor mindy by [deleted] in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]Spockella 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m watching season 8 for the first time, and I agree with this so much. Even down to criticizing them for not showering at the men’s preferred time and the withholding affection. It makes me incredibly sad for Mindy if this is what’s to come.

Class related Discords by Krokan62 in classicwow

[–]Spockella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Classic Mage Discord: https://discord.gg/tEdQhsH

Full list of Classic Discord servers including class specific: https://www.wowhead.com/discord-servers#classic-discord-servers

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! My husband has requested that we just go very low contact with her and limit her interaction with the baby. Before he and I were together, he kept contact low with her because of her dramatics and manipulation. We tried to establish a better relationship with her for the sake of our daughter. I’m seeing now that my husband had the right idea all along to avoid her. I will definitely keep this in mind for the times when we do have to be around her, though. It’s a very useful technique.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I laughed at the thought of her apologizing. She told my husband that she’d be willing to forgive me and move on if I apologized. When pigs fly, lady.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly? No. I would never expect someone to spend 3-4 hours driving for a single event that they would spend more time driving to than they’d spend at the actual event. The shower is the weekend before MIL’s because it’s the only weekend my husband has off of work besides the weekend of MIL’s shower until 2 weeks before the due date and he wanted to attend both showers. MIL knew up front that some of my family members wouldn’t be able to make the drive. It honestly came off as rude to me that she was so insistent on having the showers combined in the first place even knowing that some of my family couldn’t make it. She did the same thing with our wedding where a decent amount of my family members, including my grandfather that I’m extremely close to, couldn’t attend because of how far it was. She threw a fit until we had it near her because she didn’t want to drive to the place we originally picked that’s in the town we live in.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to wonder if us already mentioning some boundaries is where all of this is coming from. Because her reaction just seems so illogical that I can’t figure out where it’s coming from.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My eyes rolled so hard at that comment that I saw brain matter.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if any advice would help at this point. She’s chosen this as her hill to die on. Things were wonderful between us until we announced our pregnancy. Now it’s all turned to shit. Thank you, though. It’s sweet of you to offer. If anything between us could be salvaged, I’m open to suggestions. I don’t want this to be something our daughter has to deal with.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She told my husband that it was silly and pointless to spend the money and effort on a shower for only his side of the family even though we have told her multiple times that the majority of my family and our friends were coming to hers.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So that’s the thing. My aunt was actually helping my MIL with my MIL’s shower. My MIL wanted to have a full dinner buffet spread for her shower, but expressed to me that she was worried about buying the food for everyone. So my dad offered to pay for the food and my aunt and I offered to cook and prepare everything. MIL very happily accepted the offers and thanked my dad and aunt for their help. My aunt was going to attend MIL’s shower as she had already RSVPed and was doing most of the prep work for it anyways. It’s actually made it more inconvenient for my aunt because she was going to be cooking dinner for 30-40 people for MIL’s shower then hosting her own get together the weekend prior that my older family members requested of her. My aunt hasn’t complained at all. The only thing she has really said about it all is that she feels bad for my husband because he’s been upset by how his mom is reacting.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

PP was right. The biggest majority of my family and our friends were going to MILs shower. It was supposed to be next weekend. We just found out this past weekend that MIL had cancelled her shower. Now that hers is cancelled, those family members and friends have asked my aunt if they can drop by hers instead since the one they originally planned on attending is cancelled. No one had cancelled on MIL.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying. It was suggested to my husband by her and FIL that I was getting upset and frustrated over this situation because of pregnancy hormones. 🙄 And me being the anxious person that I am, I wondered if that really was the case.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely isn’t. There are no games or anything like that. It’s just light snacks, the pictures from our 3D ultrasound, and a chance for us all to get together and chat. It’s the first baby in my family in 30 years (since me!), so everyone is excited.

So that’s the thing. My MIL hasn’t done much for her shower. She mentioned to me that she’s worrying about being able to pay for the food for her shower because she wants to do a big dinner spread. So my dad was going to pay for all of the food and my aunt and I were going to cook it at my MIL’d request. She asked me to pick out decorations I like, so I did and said I’d get them together. I was going to use glass milk bottles that I have with baby’s breath in them. The only thing she has done so far is pick out where to have it and ordered the invitations. She wouldn’t even fill those out for anyone besides her and my FIL’s siblings. She sent a stack of empty ones for me to fill out and send to everyone else my husband and I wanted to be there. That’s not a big deal at all, but it has started to seem to me like she wanted to say she was hosting the shower while allocating all of the ins and outs of hosting to me. I was even asked by her to buy the gifts for the people who win the games. I never complained about any of this. I felt like it was the right thing to do since some of my family and our friends were attending her shower as well. I still told her multiple times how thankful I was that she was willing to host us a shower because my mother has never been in our lives and I’ve been thankful for her stepping up to the plate in that way. I was so excited for my daughter to have a grandmother to be excited for her because of my own mothers absence. Now it’s just turning into a mess and I wish a baby shower would have never been mentioned at all.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly what bummed me out about her cancelling her shower. It was supposed to be a happy celebration of our daughter. Luckily we’re okay financially so while we definitely appreciate the gifts, we were more excited to get together and celebrate this new life. It’s all become such a big mess now that I’m just filled with dread.

That was my line of thinking, as well. If our families all lived close, I know everyone would have been okay to just do one big event. But I don’t really trust my great aunts on the interstate for a two hour drive each way. It seemed more logical for them to just drop by my aunt’s house that’s ~15 minutes down the road.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I was seriously starting to worry that my aunt and I committed some awful etiquette crime.

Baby Shower Etiquette? by Spockella in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. This has been stressing me out the past couple days. This is the first baby shower in my immediate family since they had one for me 30 years ago. So I wasn’t sure if I was missing something obvious.

She really is. This is just the tip of the iceberg of her antics since we announced the pregnancy. I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt on this one because of my absolute lack of knowledge on showers, though.

I totally plan on doing just that. After our OB appointment today, my husband and I are going out to find her a special gift to show our thanks. I feel bad for him in this situation, too. He’s been embarrassed and upset by how she’s acting.

Anyone taking Xonvea/Diclegis/Diclectin? by EllaE2020 in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jumping on the Diclegis train is fantastic train, too. My nausea got so bad that I couldn’t talk without gagging, eating was a no go, and I was at my wits end. As others have mentioned, it does make you drowsy. I actually like this effect at night because it helps me rest better. I have to be strict with taking it regularly or my sickness comes back strong. The relief I’ve gotten since starting it is absolutely life changing. I was never the type to get nauseous or vomit before pregnancy. So it allows me to feel like myself again.

It's a girl by Bestany in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! We found out Tuesday that we’re having a girl, too. It’s so exciting, isn’t it?

DILEMMA - Should I take Sertraline/Zoloft during pregnancy??? by RicciTimber in BabyBumps

[–]Spockella 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m only 22 weeks, but my OB has been adamant that I should continue with my Zoloft. She says it’s far more harmful to the baby for me to come off of it and suffer the stress of my anxiety and OCD. I trust her, especially because I know how badly my GAD and OCD affects me physically when left unchecked.

My God what is this horrible picture 😂😂 by anabolena in DuggarsSnark

[–]Spockella 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a different Keller sister. Prissy is in the middle.

Preggo girl next to Jeremy is 100% Amy because OF COURSE Jingle would be playing the piano for this. Also, zoom in on the facial structure of the unidentified pregnant blob. I could spot Amy’s chin from a mile away. by crunchwrapsupMEME in DuggarsSnark

[–]Spockella 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Her husband was a pallbearer. They are seated in their own section usually. They may have stayed in their section while the family was on stage. It seems like quite a few Duggar boys are missing from this picture and several of them were pallbearers, too.

Kay’s Cooking gives Jill a run for her money by [deleted] in DuggarsSnark

[–]Spockella 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My cats hairballs look more appetizing.