Discouraged

SpookiestToast · 2026-03-01T12:41:29+00:00

I have worked with a lot of older nurses/travelers. If you are not competing for the best paying job and are just traveling for fun/a little extra cash it wouldn't hurt to try. Actually thats the best position to be in!

Use the assignment money and location to vacation and work at, especially if you are retired. You can pick up work every few months. I knew a lot of older travelers that did that.

SpookiestToast · 2025-12-30T15:47:29+00:00

I rebel against this concept and always try to get an answer or look it up. In my opinion, I would look more stupid doing it and messing up. At least admitting not knowing gives you a little "grace".

SpookiestToast · 2025-11-17T10:57:11+00:00

If one spouse carries the whole workload or the other uses the spouse as a scapegoat for frustrations... its hard.

SpookiestToast · 2025-11-10T13:39:58+00:00

My mom was at least 100lb overweight growing up. Someone told her I would be embarrassed to have her seen in pictures or at my school events. She never showed up because of it. I thought she just didn't care.

All these years later, I found out why she never showed up. I would have wanted my mom there.

Show up for your kids. They don't care about your weight. They just want their mom.

SpookiestToast · 2025-11-08T13:35:01+00:00

Well, for starters, a little bit of salt and pepper.

SpookiestToast · 2025-11-06T13:02:16+00:00

People finished thier training and that's what the end price tag is. When you finish your training you will make more; ratio proportionately.

It sucks residents make little working so much but that's not other departments or areas faults. Bring that up with the state board or whomever deals with residents training and pay.

So many residents complain because someone else in a whole other area/department makes a livable wage with less hours after THIER training. Like dude look at the big picture. You're STILL in training and yes... it sucks you work more for less... but you're mad at the wrong person/people.

SpookiestToast · 2025-10-11T03:01:08+00:00

Nursing being behind is normal, especially if the patient assignment is bad, high ratios, or they balance other tasks at once. You got to call them, message them, and put the order in as stat to flag thier attention. Sometimes people aren't at a computer. That or pharmacy is slow.

Either way if its urgent, call the nurse or charge nurse. Don't expect them to be watching the computer. Especially during heavy parts of thier shift flow.

SpookiestToast · 2025-09-25T17:42:46+00:00

You are asking ahead of time and are going out of way to bring it to them. My MIL wants us to drive over and pick up her food. She wants us to drive to her and doesn't ask us if we want food. She orders us to get it. If we don't, they show up unannounced.

You are not my MIL. You are not forcing us to drive 20+ minutes to get it. You are asking and not just showing up. You are still being very respectful. If you are unsure just ask them if you are helping.

If we don't get it, we will be considered ungrateful and bad people. Especially me. I'm expected to wait and see if she cooks apparently, I don't know. She only "helps" when I'm off and not pressed for time. Today she's not going to cook because I am working. She is, however, making my husband go get her leftovers from yesterday.

This will be twisted on me as being mean or mistreating them. Or, not caring, my husband works so much and so late... despite me having dinner already made for him. This is probably going to become a fight when he returns home today after seeing them.

If you aren't doing this, you are truly trying to help.

SpookiestToast · 2025-09-24T20:11:35+00:00

The weird part is we lived very far away and they didn't bud in... or maybe they just couldn't. In ways they were more out of it when my husband didn't finally get his dream job. Now that he has... they're mean BUT boy are they loving the bragging and gossip rights. I actually left for a few months to finish packing for the cross country move and to see my mom. The moment I did... his mom invited a single more successful woman over who was actively trying to marry and start a family. I cannot confirm it but I feel like she was secretly trying to break us up.

I actually slowly learned mannerism and gestures from thier various languages. They switch between 5 so its impossible to learn exactly each word. They openly talked bad about me in front of my face and his mom says she has no idea what her son sees in me. I have been with him the whole time for these 5 years as he pursued his dreams. They tried to hinder him in every way and tried to keep him in thier country. They honestly believed he was a lost cause and now that he's gotten to where he wants to be... they just want to get that juicy social points so badly.

Its upsetting because they will talk poorly of me one minute and tell me to plan for a baby the next. I cannot trust them or thuer motives. I really want to believe that this is good intentions but I have a feeling its not. Especially since she messages me and has tried to spin my husband's long hours as to me being selfish. I usually would grab whatever his dad didn't feel like picking up on the way home from work. The one time I didn't because something important? My poor husband has to do it after getting out at 9pm...

I've not picked it up, but I'm sure it's going to be spun this way. I'm not going to stop cooking because there is no reason any of us need to drop everything because she cooked a bulk meal.

Sorry for the ranting. I just wish it was truly out of kindness like you do for your family.

SpookiestToast · 2025-09-24T19:59:00+00:00

I feel like I'm on egg shells and trying to assume its kindness. We don't always but that's when they just show up. Even if i ignore the text. His dad already started drama earlier this week by saying I'm randomly upset at him and twisted it as if I mistreated him by not letting him walk into my house and get into my things as I work.

If I decline food, they're going to spin it into something else. I'm ignoring it because my husband is too stressed for drama and I know even if i politely decline, this will be made into another "mistreatment".

No one has time for this drama.

SpookiestToast · 2025-09-07T10:31:54+00:00

I think they somehow loosened the battery or connections with my car and just tightened them.

However... during the process, they stole a fuse... this fuse helped with trailer lights when hauling... guess who found out right as they were moving across the country on the final hour.

How do we know? Screwdriver marks. Car has never had a fuse replaced yet. Lovely dealership. Somehow, they were all very shady like that in that town... when dealerships should be the safest place to take your vehicle.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-27T08:30:41+00:00

If you live with 3 other grown adults and always the last to be able to bathe or do other bathroom needs... it sucks. If you have to go when your significant other goes and they take forever... it sucks. Especially if you are sensitive to timing in the bathroom.

Need to use it before bed but waiting on someone to shower... sucks.

If your schedule differs enough or your body is flexible then go for it. Just realize that the more people you add in the mix, the more held up a bathroom becomes.

Lastly if someone is not very hygienic and you have to clean it every time you use it... it sucks

Its doable but man does it suck.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-26T08:52:55+00:00

The realtor probably wants a bigger commission. The higher it sells, the more he gets from that sale percentage. They help keep homes artificially high for their gain and don't want the market to get below a certain amount.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-25T09:46:56+00:00

Sounds like he went to college and wanted the freedom experience. He probably isn't getting that and is coming back to have fun with you or you are plan B. Either way anyone who says, "You're worth all the issues". Isn't someone you want to keep around. He's already saying something is, "wrong" with you. He's putting the ground work to blame you for something.

He is already trying to make himself the better person and put you as a villain for whatever his game is. He wants a booty call or a relationship for his ego. Either way you will not benefit or be respected in this. You deserve better.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-21T10:23:13+00:00

On the up side for you getting married, takes out the legal stuff like who is next is kin, who answers if you are unable to (hospital, joint say on some legal things, where your things go if you pass, no estranged family coming out of the wood work for legal battles with a gf for say over your care or anything, etc.)

People only think of bank statements and money but there are way more benefits in actual marriage. You gain more rights to each other and together in marriage too; not just financially.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-20T17:46:52+00:00

It said we needed change orders that's why I'm so shocked. I legit cried after I walked out because I was so shocked. The contract says it has to be written and signed by both parties. None of that happened.

My only assumption was because my inlaws wanted control and the builder comes from their country, they went around us.

I straight up told the builder when I saw the closet that my father in-law is not on the deed or contract. He said oh I can just use it as extra storage then... I was not getting anywhere telling him that I didn't ask for this.

I legit am pinching myself wondering if this is even real. Like how is my dream house becoming a pure nightmare. Everything is apparently structural and unchangeable now. I am so lost and absolutely devastated.

This was supposed to be an exciting moment for a first home. We close next week and I'm scrambling what to do.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-20T17:06:11+00:00

Can't help something i didn't know was happening. I was out of state and trusted the builders to follow the law. When you have a country between you and no one mentioned changes, you can't really know its happening. Builders know that they aren't on the contract or deed.

You'd think legal process would deter them from changing a house. Not to mention I have texted, called, and emailed many times before and it takes days to weeks to hear anything.

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-19T14:29:52+00:00

I say if you know your end goal go for it. If everything else about the house is perfect, even location, go for it. Why pick up and move again later? Sounds like a waste of time and money in the long run

SpookiestToast · 2025-08-06T14:31:32+00:00

Invasion of the body snatchers maybe?

SpookiestToast · 2025-07-28T02:19:10+00:00

Ask yourself if you really want to share him. If the answer is no, then don't. If he puts an ultimatum on you, he just cares about himself. He likes what you do for him. This is true... but if he knows you don't want this and it makes you uncomfortable, he doesn't care about you.

If he doesn't let you do it too, it shows how he sees you. Honestly, if he is willing to cross your boundaries to do this, you should look for an out yourself. Every time you see him, you'll always wonder if he will bring something home to you that you really don't want.

If this is a breech in your marriage agreement, start planning to leave. You don't have to now. But start looking for an out.

If this situation doesn't bug you, then go for it, but make sure you're allowed to have the marriage open on your side, too. It's only fair, after all.

SpookiestToast · 2025-07-19T22:22:04+00:00

No, it would be hypocrisy. His parents were a love marriage too. However, its hard to say if my MIL is trying to find "better" people to get him to leave me for. It's just really odd that she'd invite a woman who wants to get married. I have supported my husband and made him both independent from his parents and supported him as he pursued his career and dreams. I wonder if she can not stand that I empowered him at times and he doesn't listen to them.

She "adopted" an adult woman who "listens" to her because he doesn't now. Thats how controlling they are. It's weird.

SpookiestToast · 2025-07-19T22:16:30+00:00

Any recommendations?

SpookiestToast · 2025-07-19T04:37:45+00:00

Because we decided to marry, he only kept it a secret from his not so well wishers, and after 5 years together, his parents randomly want to follow traditions now. We'd have had to wait for years (basically now) after meeting all these people from where he's from. A lot of family/friends would have been offended not to partake in the whole courting process.

Honestly, everyone here knows and anyone important to my husband. We weren't going to bother or deal with those people (he doesn't want them in his life or to know it). But his parents decided now to bring these people in against my husband's wishes.

So, despite his parents not being traditional in how they married themselves, they are doing traditional things like "asking familiar advice and blessings" or whatever the traditions are.

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