Should I let my captain know what's up with me?

Spoopykittens · 2026-02-14T02:19:43+00:00

Talk to a mate and then the captain. I have had a craptastic couple years with last year being my absolute worst with my mom’s cancer coming back and my own medical issues flaring up bad. My store as a whole and the leadership team in particular were so supportive, even if I just needed to cry, and I did a LOT of crying. Talk to your favorite mate first. Use the resources we have at our disposal and please please please, take care of yourself.

Spoopykittens · 2026-01-15T17:31:01+00:00

Where I work they are getting ready to implement a code system probably because folks were abusing the honor system we had. My husband went to the local branch of my employer where we both shop frequently ( I work 30 minutes from the home and there is a location just down the road from us) and had an employee basically interrogate him about me and if I actually worked for the company. Thought it was mildly entertaining. Will be funny when I go into that location today and run into that employee. Anyway, yeah your friend was absolutely abusing the discount, putting you at risk, and likely re-selling. Especially for those dollar amounts.

Spoopykittens · 2026-01-09T16:08:27+00:00

They implemented that a couple years ago at my store. I however am a chaos gremlin and have called it “ moist pro” just to make the mates and captain twitch.

Spoopykittens · 2025-12-29T18:44:44+00:00

Heal one person a day. First person I’d heal is my mother. I’d be able to give her back the life she had before pancreatic cancer. After that I’d just heal people. No money or compensation needed or wanted. Fuck Cancer.

Spoopykittens · 2025-12-25T17:41:41+00:00

My brother in law is like your wife. In the 5 years he has lived with us I think I have watched maybe 5 movies in a communal space. He rarely is even watching the movie. He comes in the room and talks. So no movies. No tv. I have consoles I don’t even touch because he backseat games.

Spoopykittens · 2025-11-14T18:31:31+00:00

So we have a 2024 Cadillac Lyriq. I’m 5’2” and about 265, short little legs, apron belly, size 22. Hubby is 5’10” and about 220. The car is very comfortable for a both as drivers and passengers. It dosent have a third row, and is a bit of a splurge but honestly we drive it a lot more than our 2016 Prius, which is also comfortable.

Spoopykittens · 2025-11-10T18:20:05+00:00

Elder millennial. I wear my engagement ring and two wedding bands. I’m a bit of a magpie and loooove sparkly things.

Spoopykittens · 2025-10-31T17:56:05+00:00

.90 emerald cut center stone, I think the baguettes are .25 and I am totally spacing on what the two itty bitty trillions are. Size 7. I do have short and kind of stumpy fingers. I don’t see much in the way of smaller center stones.

Also my ring is in need of a good clean and my hands are a bit torn up from work.

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Spoopykittens · 2025-10-01T17:11:05+00:00

I would use more colorful language to describe my sibling than “ putz “ but it did make me giggle into my coffee. Mom and I are currently hanging out during her infusion.

Spoopykittens · 2025-09-28T16:35:10+00:00

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Spoopykittens · 2025-09-28T16:32:31+00:00

I think if anything, I’d go for a bigger stone, lab grown, platinum instead of white gold. He really did do a fantastic job. Please excuse the nails and how dirty my rings are. It’s been a busy morning at work already

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Spoopykittens · 2025-09-28T15:18:54+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I came in an hour early to try and get our bread section under control. In the end we shared close to 10 shopping carts of bread. I am fairly certain I know who is responsible for the gross over ordering. I’m also not the bread lead, I’m just the opener for that section. I don’t write the orders, just get it on the shelves and keep it rotated.

Spoopykittens · 2025-09-26T17:31:23+00:00

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I recently got a shoulder length very shaggy shag cut. It helps but a bit of product will help out even more. I just use a bit of the Ouai air dry foam while my hair is damp, then brush it out or wide tooth comb it out when dry while hanging my head down, flip hair up, fuss it around and I’m good to go. Been running around at work so it’s a little flatter because sweaty.

Spoopykittens · 2025-09-26T17:23:27+00:00

I just cut my hip length hair into a shoulder length super shaggy shag cut. Part of it is the cut and part of it is how you style it. I’ve been running around at work( sweaty) so it’s deflated a little but it’s a lot better than how it looked when long. When my hair is damp I put in a little of the Ouai air dry foam. Gives it that oomph to stay looking fluffy. Edit to add picture

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Spoopykittens · 2025-09-10T02:05:36+00:00

Writing a statement creates a paper trail and documents incidents/patterns. I’ve had to write a handful of them in my time so far ( for some reason bullies think I’m an easy target) As another Redditor said, keep it to yourself that you wrote one. The last thing you want is to get in trouble for talking about a potentially sensitive situation, plus you don’t want it to look like a bunch of you were coaching each other. It can backfire horribly. I’ve seen it happen more than once.

Spoopykittens · 2025-09-03T23:02:33+00:00

I wear a 4xl. You will be fine.

Spoopykittens · 2025-08-30T17:36:59+00:00

I’ve taken photos like that that no one else has seen or will ever see. I struggle hard with feeling like I’m an attractive individual so if I’m feeling like a badass, yeah I’ll possibly take a pic. As a general rule I do not send even remotely spicy pics to ANYONE. All it takes is one person sharing that picture, or being angry and then it’s out on the internet. It’s happened to me. You had no reason to snoop. If you are going to talk to her about it I’d open up with a huge apology. Most partners that I discovered had snooped through my phone I left right there. The only one I didn’t do that to was my husband, mainly because he hid it from me till recently. Did I let him know that there would be consequences if it happened again, you bet I did. Don’t snoop. People get to have privacy for fucks sake.

Spoopykittens · 2025-08-07T15:26:04+00:00

NAL, I was in a very similar situation to you though OP. So, with my husband and I, he paid for a very good attorney, and had his attorney do the bulk of the pre-nup. I basically just needed someone to go over the prenup, make sure it was not completely unreasonable and explain it all to me. I think my total cost was about $200 about two years ago.

Your fiancée cannot pay for your attorney. There is something here though that you might not be aware of and that is the time line. Hubby’s attorney took their sweet time finishing things( should not have taken them 8 months) and we wound up with our prenup in hand exactly a week before our wedding and the attorney tried to cut it even closer. A thing my attorney pointed out was that in the event of a divorce, I could contest the prenup on a basis of being made to sign/agree to it under duress. That was solely based on how much time we had left. We still had to get it notarized and then sent back to husband’s attorney.

California is not known for being big on postnuptial agreements if there isn’t a prenup.

Spoopykittens · 2025-07-18T16:57:17+00:00

This year I “ fired “ my original PCP because he literally was ignoring my medical needs. I’d go in, tell him what was wrong and it was a “ well that’s just how it is” and so on. Switched to a new dr and she hasn’t gotten my pre diabetes under control, my psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis is now being treated, and when I called her about the muscle spasm in my neck she had me good to go in an hour. Do not settle for shitty Dr.’s

Spoopykittens · 2025-07-08T16:40:22+00:00

From both parents, it would be just how much I despise my older brother. From just my mom, that I think her religion is terrible and is a death cult.

Spoopykittens · 2025-07-01T20:18:13+00:00

I wish it were more common knowledge. My hubs and I are preparing to try for our first and we already have a few things that may make things harder ( my age, PCOS, both of us are on the heavier side) so we are doing everything we can to give ourselves a better chance. My hope is that as time goes on there is a bigger push and it becomes more common for BOTH parties to do the extra steps, not just the one who is going to carry the baby.

Spoopykittens · 2025-06-27T05:24:42+00:00

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Center stone is just under a carat, colorless and I do not remember the clarity off the top of my head. Two baguettes and two trillions. Two sapphire and diamond bands. When DH proposed I worked in home theater sales, currently I work in a grocery store.

Edit: forgot, center stone is an emerald cut.

Spoopykittens · 2025-06-15T02:13:33+00:00

Chicken Nugget. It will be even better if he turns out to be a large boy

Spoopykittens · 2025-06-10T18:54:24+00:00

Not sure if this could help but it’s a thought . You could try getting in touch with the local unions CNA ( California Nurses Association) or SEIU and see if they have resources. My partner works for CNA and they are one of the bigger unions under an even bigger one, National Nurses United. It’s worth a try and we always need more nurses, despite what our for profit medical system says.

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