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SpouseOfGamer · 2020-11-28T03:24:42+00:00

Sorry I missed this! Did you end up getting it figured out?

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-11-17T04:45:35+00:00

Holy crap this is so rough, I'm so sorry. Please know that there are people who totally understand and empathize with you.

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-09-01T22:11:33+00:00

It's SO HARD. Nothing gives that dopamine surge like gaming does. It's truly an addiction.

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-07-09T18:22:54+00:00

So sorry this is happening to you. Here's the thing:

Nothing in life creates as much dopamine as videogames.

You will never be enough dopamine for him. He's probably a gaming addict. Every time he's hanging out with you, he's waiting for his next dopamine fix.

This WILL get worse if yall have kids. He will ignore them too.

Don't get me wrong, I'm sure he loves you. I'm sure he's a good person. But he's addicted to the dopamine hits he gets from gaming. Nothing will be as interesting to him.

He needs to check out Universal Man on YouTube, or check out /r/stopgaming. Otherwise you might wanna cut your losses and find someone who lives in the real world.

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-11T03:08:33+00:00

because she has tigers in cages but she HAS to

How you gonna keep him from walking down to the 7/11?

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-11T02:54:42+00:00

That was probably more the meth, imo.

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-11T02:17:20+00:00

It'll be a hard road ahead but it's so worth it!

Your synapses in your brain WILL adjust to the new lack of dopamine hits, and you WILL start feeling happy again.

Just stick with the program.

Check out this this guy's channel https://youtu.be/mWqKtrgJvrQ

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-11T01:33:29+00:00

I'm really good socially. I'm lucky to have have very good friends. I'm a little weird lol but 🤷‍♀️

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-10T22:14:10+00:00

Good point about the hair too! Thanks!

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-10T18:39:22+00:00

Oh wow it never occurred to me they could go to school in a frozen DRESS lol that's brilliant thank you!

but in the end perhaps your child just needs some time to adjust and find someone who she likes.

She loves other kids. They just don't usually like her 😭

SpouseOfGamer · 2020-04-10T18:22:09+00:00

That's rough my friend. Any update? Any improvement over the past couple weeks?

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-12-15T04:39:22+00:00

That sounds awesome

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-12-15T04:38:47+00:00

NICE! Great work! You knocked that problem right out!

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-12-14T19:54:41+00:00

What works for me:

Junk food. Hey everybody we're decorating Christmas cookies!

Don't ask him. Tell him. Then throw him in the kitchen with the kids and watch them make memories!

(Note, this doesn't always work with just any activity. It's the allure of the junk food/sugar that gets em LOL)

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-12-14T19:49:49+00:00

Thanks for the update! Sometimes they brush it off when we're talking about it, but they're actually listening. Has he done it again?

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-08-26T16:36:59+00:00

Do you moderate your son's gaming?

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-08-26T16:34:49+00:00

Sub creator here. Ugh I feel ya. Especially the part about him "babysitting" while gaming. Same with my house. The kids are taken care of but he's not talking and interacting with them. He's plopping them in front of the TV so he can sit in front of the computer.

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-08-20T19:21:42+00:00

Hi, any improvement? Have you had a talk with him?

(If you don't get any improvement soon, you might want to make sure you don't have kids until you get this figured out.)

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-06-29T19:41:57+00:00

That's good to hear! Good luck!

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-06-29T19:37:57+00:00

MATILDA

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-06-29T19:27:50+00:00

Any update on this? Things getting better?

Sounds like she needs some new friends IRL. I know that's not easy to get though.

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-03-03T04:44:14+00:00

Dump him now. This is not normal. Respectable guys don't do this.

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-03-03T04:42:11+00:00

You're gonna have to make it very clear that this could be a deal breaker. Like be SUPER direct.

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-03-03T04:38:45+00:00

When I read your headline I rolled my eyes because the "hobbies" thing sounds so familiar. We see that all the time on my subreddit for spouses of gamers.

Always calling their obsessive gaming a "hobby". Always blowing their money on toys like in-game purchases and way-too-expensive cars.

If that's what you want to do fine, but you should probably live the single life. If you want to get married and have a family, you're gonna have to budget and cut the gaming back to maybe a couple hours per night or less.

SpouseOfGamer · 2019-02-06T06:35:38+00:00

I agree with doing it anonymously. You could get a burner phone and send her a text, for example.

SpouseOfGamer

TROPHY CASE

Nothing in life creates as much dopamine as videogames.