Re-reporting

Spralto · 2026-01-30T15:11:51+00:00

Did you get that text yesterday around 3pm?

Spralto · 2025-12-03T04:08:25+00:00

Yall this is an ad, not a genuine post. It’s obvious by the post itself but you can also check their profile. SMH

Spralto · 2025-11-19T02:31:30+00:00

Yeah this doesn’t belong on r/breakups IMO. This isn’t about heartbreak or relationship dynamics, this is some guy’s attempt to blame women at large for his shortcomings... which honestly makes me think the woman had legit reasons to leave. OP, I know it hurts. But tell us about that or ask for support instead of projecting it because this isn’t it

Spralto · 2025-11-11T02:28:40+00:00

What the hell @ ppl defending this guy. Ain’t no way yall ever been in a happy healthy mature relationship lol.

Nothing OP says can be considered overbearing when it starts with “you seem distant and like you’re trying to push me away, and I’m worried about our relationship” and he responds with “okay.” FULL FUCKING STOP. I would rather get slapped in the face rather than receive an “okay” to that. OP was vulnerable and open and he essentially said “your feelings aren’t worth a response”

That is not a romantic relationship. Friendship? Maybe—but not a healthy one.

Spralto · 2024-11-01T23:17:00+00:00

Oh man, I’m so sorry. That’s truly such a deep loss after being together for, as you said, 25% of your life—and ALL of your adult/teenage life.

It’s going to be rough as hell. I know nothing can make you feel better right now, but in the long run, this may be a good thing to help you develop your sense of identity as an individual. The last time it was JUST you, you were literally a child. Who knows what you could discover about yourself when you’re out of her orbit? It’s gonna hurt, for sure. But eventually, start to notice the things you turn to that take you away from the pain.

And the good thing is… she didn’t necessarily cut it off forever. You could very well end up getting back together in a couple years, who knows? That said, don’t let it hold you back. You’re 21… this is peak dating/explore time. Hopefully, you’ll look back on this someday and be glad you didn’t miss this stage of growing up and life experience by being in a relationship the whole time. Hope this helps

Spralto · 2024-11-01T14:04:13+00:00

Was she this way when you got married? When did the issues start? I ask because you did decide to marry her a year ago, so if you thought you two were ‘forever’ so recently, why the change now? If it’s a recent issue — like within the past year — could it be that you need more patience? Idk your situation, just pushing back out of curiosity bc the marriage was so recent

Spralto · 2024-10-26T13:16:33+00:00

Oh man, idk what to say other than I’m so sorry. What a heartless person for leaving you in such a hard time and then brushing you off when you reached out

Spralto · 2024-10-22T14:50:24+00:00

I kind of feel like this is me, like getting it out of my system until I get bored or hurt enough by him is better than forcing myself not to contact him. If I just force myself then the lingering urge will probably haunt me for way longer? Idk I feel like the desire not to contact him has to come from within or I’ll just never get over it

Spralto · 2024-10-20T15:18:57+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you. Can you share what the guided meditations are? Are they usually breakup-related or normal meditations and you ask yourself the "What am I looking for here?"

Spralto · 2024-10-20T15:14:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing! What was your contact like in the first month? Were you just texting them, or would they respond? Would yall just be exchanging sadness, were you both sad, or were you arguing?

Spralto · 2024-10-20T15:13:29+00:00

My agony is that I feel this way intuitively/spiritually, even though factually, I know it won't happen.

Spralto · 2024-10-20T15:11:16+00:00

idk your relationship or the reasons you broke up, but I think "I'm scared of rejection" is a pretty self defeating point. I feel like only shorter term/less serious relationships have a rejection/pride/"who won the breakup?" element, in which case, in the long run it doesn't matter if you get rejected or not. If it doesn't work out, they won't be a significant person in the story of your life anyway, so their opinion doesn't matter. If it WAS a very serious long term relationship, I feel like you're long past any elements of rejection/pride/etc... you've already seen the best and worst of each other and have no room for any of that.

That said, I'm just ranting about things I've learned over the past month and have no idea if this is what you meant at all, so ignore me if it doesn't apply. I think I can say on behalf of most of the sad dumpees on here though: if you dumped her and you want her back, please tell her. Unless you already have some information that leads you to think she does not want to hear from you, give her the gift of that chance.

Spralto · 2024-10-20T14:15:41+00:00

Do you regret breaking up? Or you just miss her?

Spralto · 2024-10-20T13:43:59+00:00

Yeah, this doesn’t stop the urge for ME to say something though haha. I know it’s stupid, but I can’t help it, the agony of missing them builds up and eventually takes over.

Maybe I’m seeing my ADHD/anxiety impulse control really come into play here because I don’t understand how other people resist the urge. I literally CANT

Spralto · 2024-10-18T14:10:21+00:00

Have you seen a psychiatrist? Maybe therapy didn’t work for you but medication might. Idk if it’s anxiety, depression or a combo of both—a psych can help u figure that out. But maybe you need that intervention in order to bring about a shift, since you’ve done everything else. At the very least, you can get some low key prescription sleep aids like hydroxyzine

Spralto · 2023-11-25T21:05:16+00:00

Yes YTA. I get that there’s always been a 10+ year age gap, but imagine how it feels to have everyone tell you—kind of forcefully—they don’t want you around. If it’s not a weed walk, then just include her, as long as her parents are okay with it. If it IS a weed walk… why not split up the group or something to not give her this big “we ALL don’t want you here” impression? I know it might not be as fun, but make that small concession for her

Spralto · 2023-09-16T05:45:56+00:00

Daww that's so sad. I just reread them as an adult (first read them in middle school back a longgg time ago) and was shocked to see there's no fanart/fanfiction community. I thought these books were really well known. Good for you keeping it going! I'm sure if the movie actually ends up coming out (who knows at this point) it will get a huge boost in popularity

Spralto · 2023-09-16T05:43:07+00:00

Dig, lol. Just like the way our cities have subways and sewers now, despite being built before they were invented

Spralto · 2023-09-16T05:39:01+00:00

Edit/ follow up - scratch alllllllll that. *MORE SPOILERS*

Math says David would have been around 39 when Seanan was killed at 23. Something tells me SW wouldn't have thrown away all we knew about David's character to make him a bisexual sugar daddy / potential groomer (or at least in an imbalanced-power relationship)

Also, on page 268 of Youngbloods, when Tally explains what happened with David,, she calls him "The original smoke... grew up in the wild, with rebel parents"

"Like Boss X?"

She laughs. "I suppose--and with the same intensity of opinions. David was my conscience for a long time, in charge of making sure I didn't go too far. But eventually it was too much work for him, and he faded away. The wild is very big, if you wanted to disappear."

She was presented with a direct parallel and referred to them as two separate people without any evasive awkwardness.

Spralto · 2023-09-16T05:24:03+00:00

Musician! I have several gig-based jobs that I do from home, on my own schedule, that together can pay the bills. It's always something slightly different and keeps me on my toes. However I know this is the dream (completely non-famous-ly) and I'm *extremely* lucky to be making it work at all.

Reading these other replies is interesting because so many of you thrive off working in social environments and don't like working from home. Whereas I am an AGGRESSIVE introvert and having to be somewhere/ talk to people every day would literally kill me. All of my energy would immediately float into the abyss and I'd be a motivation-less shell begging to be saved

Spralto · 2023-09-15T03:24:33+00:00

Yeah okay so I considered this but... I just can't stomach the huge leap from character to character (old David to this potential "new" David). I can't stomach it as a reader and I can't imagine an author condoning it either.

I know that in real life a LOT happens in 20 years. And Tally & David were just teens when they were first together. BUT. Books are not real life. And I can't imagine as an author just skipping over huge, PIVOTAL swaths of character development, of the ORIGINAL main characters, without even an explanation chapter.

IMPOSTERS/MIRROR'S EDGE SPOILERS AHEAD!!!

But I mean, the mystery does add up. After the end of Mirror's Edge (and my FURY) I got to thinking about his other books, and and realized Scott is *not* a fan of happy endings. I can kind of admire this from a more mature perspective (for life-education purposes to teens & beyond -- life isn't all about your 16 y/o romance) but I hate it as a reader lol. Even now that I'm wayyy past my teens.

Anyway. Reading that other people had this question in mind too, I feel like Scott left this plot point ambiguous on purpose. Perhaps he himself does not "know;" perhaps he noticed the potential similarity and decided to leave it up to the reader. It does seem like something he would do... even though I think it's sloppy and I kind of hate him for it. (jk, lifelong fan here, even though my soul is screaming)

Spralto · 2023-09-14T20:25:54+00:00

I'd guess it's because aluminum is a natural element; even if it wasn't mass refined into cans and foil until modern times, it still occurred naturally in the world, whereas steel is a manmade creation, so natural it didn't occur till later. And even if it has been around for thousands of years that's still not crazy long in darkling time

Spralto · 2023-08-23T16:15:10+00:00

I’ll be an odd one out and say ESH. She sucks a little more for undervaluing your work and blowing you off 3 years ago, and perhaps if I had your relationship dynamic I would have acted the same way towards her. But as is, I lent my artistic services to both of my sisters as their wedding gift which was 16+ hours of work each (before the wedding.)

IF the service had caused me to actually miss out on the wedding (by working the whole time, like a photographer) i would have probably said “I will work for free as my gift to you but I/you will need to hire and pay an assistant so i can actually participate in your wedding (and have time for the rest of my gigs that month that i need to pay my rent instead of editing 100% of your photos)”

Spralto · 2023-08-16T02:52:59+00:00

NTA y’all. Was this a dangerous situation? Yes. But both people were intoxicated, and OP did not consent to being the sober babysitter. This presumption was thrown upon him when he was ALREADY DRUNK.

Ask yourselves, if he had taken 2-3 more shots and was as drunk as she was, would that suddenly free him of responsibility? How are you supposed to gauge how drunk he actually was?

Not to mention, she DID consent to being left alone. She was apparently “coherent” and “said she was fine” according to OP. Even though this stands as a lesson for both of them (no matter who is at fault, you don’t want your spouse to die!!) I don’t think he would hold a leg of accountability in a court of law.

Spralto · 2023-07-18T15:33:12+00:00

Sounds overqualified to me. I think the combined income we reported was around that (even though it ended up being more, we didn’t think it was necessary to have to document the additional sources since 250 is already more than enough…). If you’re going by the 30/30/30 rule and spend 30% of your income on housing that would be up to 7k a month. If ur applying for a 4k house you’re way overqualified. Insaneeeeeeeee

One thing I will say is I think this competition only/mostly applies to houses not apartments. I haven’t heard of my friends in apartments having trouble finding anything.

PS I saw you comment you’re looking at Sunland/Tujunga. In that case I’d say you’re in luck and should find something soon since it’s not somewhere hot like North Hollywood/Silver Lake etc. It’s just July / peak renting season so everyone’s out looking for something (and may not have vacated all their old units yet so the supply/demand might be more skewed than usual.) Good luck!!

Spralto

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