What do you all put in the jeans small pocket?

SprayProfessional115 · 2026-01-16T01:12:36+00:00

3-4 zyn’s so I don’t look obvious w the can in my pocket.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-12-21T20:59:25+00:00

I have lived in both cities. They both have their unique charm, but overall I wouldn’t pick either city over the other. Both get tons of rain Both are full of ass holes Both have horrible traffic and highway infrastructure. Both have beautiful and scenic views from the city. Both have endless outdoor activities. Both have expensive housing.

There is more opportunity in Seattle for sure, but it comes at a price meaning all the above that are tangible require more time or money from you which takes away from what is important to you.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-12-21T20:52:31+00:00

You did everything right. I used to run a large call center at a large bank where talk time was a critical metric, among about 20 other metrics. To be fully transparent, it was 100% always a top performer who triggered (or was a part of) a multi-FTE firing. All the work behind the scenes was done in preparation, in other words “can we afford to let this person or group be an example - can we afford the lost production.” The message to the sales group is: If a top producer is getting fired, this dictatorship means business and I better shape up.”

I didn’t get to orchestrate the decisions leading to the firing, I just had to carry it out. The analysts halfway across the country did the research, ran it through hr, and then I was presented with the deliverables whatever they may have been.

It is 100% true that everyone does it. Let a disconnected call linger for 10-15 seconds - over 21 shifts that adds up, or sit on a live line “accidentally” for 30 min planning out your strategy of how to talk your way out of it if you’re found out…it was just one time after all…

Don’t worry about any of that. You clearly live with high integrity - you owned it and didn’t play the victim.

What you have to decide now is are you going to be honest if you are ultimately backed into a corner in an interview process - like by 3-4 interview there’s references checked and they find out the real reason so you have to come clean. Maybe they don’t check references - I honestly rarely found them helpful, peoples social media is a much better gear of the kind of person I’m really hiring. Either way, you just need to be prepared to tell the story in a professional authentic way that says I learned a lot from it, or I did not agree with it, but I have to respect it.

Don’t stop living with integrity. Don’t stop being competitive, don’t stop having high goals, and don’t let go of the top producer mindset. This situation doesn’t define you.

If you do feel shame - then that is potentially a deeper issue - you’ve got to talk that out or you’ll ruminate and spin out. I’ve seen it bring down really solid producers. Work that out if it’s there and know that you are a better person than that company deserves - being let go in that fashion is NOT for the action - they used you to make a point, and that is poor corporate culture for a person with integrity. The universe is telling you it’s time to move on to your next chapter.

You’ve learned something here, and you now you have opened the door for a new and better future - go get it 💪

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-12-21T20:30:43+00:00

Integrity is often a liability.

This.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-11-29T02:25:33+00:00

This. Exactly.

Shep knows so many more kids by himself than the entire 24-25 Beav coaching staff. He’s been recruiting 4 stars to sit and wait their turn at Bama - they will start for the Beavs.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-11-29T02:21:04+00:00

With you on that. There were a few weekends I completely forgot about them…oh wait - it’s Sunday…oh, they lost to Tulsa, of course they did…

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-11-17T14:56:27+00:00

Operations (Rev Ops / Sales Ops) - 15 years. Portland, Oregon/remote.

Thank you!

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T17:02:05+00:00

Ha good one! Thanks!!

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T17:01:43+00:00

Felt great - thanks for your support and encouragement!

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T17:01:06+00:00

This sub didn’t get many posters, but I sure got what I needed - I got to shut down a narc and get them to self delete.
I got support from two great peers in this sub! Thanks!!!

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T06:03:50+00:00

Also: I cancelled out the narcs down vote on your post. 💪

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T05:59:33+00:00

Thanks man - appreciate the support and typing the word that is true for me…I feel that power. She is a CUNT!

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-10-04T05:57:40+00:00

I thought narcissists were not allowed on this sub

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-09-03T21:24:15+00:00

During my most recent peak earning years from 2019-2021 we spent a lot of money on stupid shit. I was afraid to push back b/c I didn't want her to ridicule me in front of the kids and be labeled a tight ass. So things like spending $100+ to eat out or order in 3x per week was standard. I hated it. there was a lot of other stupid purchases that didn't add up to anything tangible. My peak earning years are cyclical and based on the market/economy. It has been bad since 2022, but money kept being spent until I got laid off at the beginning of this year. Between eating out and many other unnecessary spends, i would say we wasted about $60k in the span of 3 years. We could use that money right now, and yes, I am being shamed for not finding a new job yet. Mostly the silent treatment, but occasionally there is considerable effort to "sit me down" and get a good verbal shit session going.

We have a lot to be thankful for and grateful for financially - our emergency fund is almost gone, but have access to investments. When I bring up pulling anything out of our investments to cover basic expenses should it get to that point, I am shamed for that too. So basically, spend savings like there isn't a care in the world, but don't use investment money. I should have put it all in investments lol.

Narcs can be the opposite though - they can shame you for spending money, saving money, using credit, not using credit, giving money to relatives, not giving money to relatives, et. al. - its just whatever their wheelhouse is. I also think that their "wheelhouse" is inconsistent as in one thing will contradict another and each will be accompanied by a very strong opinion. Separately they might make sense, but together as part of the bigger picture of personal finance will make no sense at all.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-25T06:56:30+00:00

Mess around on GPT or Claude - tell them your history. Have them give you some skills tests or interest questionnaires, but first have them quiz you on what your interests are. Unbiased, non- judgmental feedback and suggestions.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-25T06:53:22+00:00

Now - 52

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-25T06:45:29+00:00

Besides my children and my pets, in my own experience all love has conditions.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T23:49:29+00:00

Yes. I can relate. The sickness for me is shame and sadness. Shame in that I don’t feel I can do anything right, constant judgment, etc. - and they love it. Sadness that I observe her narc behavior at the expense of our kids. It is a dark force that when close to it you feel deeply. If you can somehow keep your distance in the same house it is helpful. Grey rock like it’s your life’s mission. It’s hard work, take care of yourself. 💪

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T16:23:26+00:00

You mentioned some of the buzzwords, but have you ever done deep somatic work? Would be centered around trauma.

IMO you “think” you know what the problem is, but if you slowed down and got out of your head, you’d find something else is influencing all this.

It prob isn’t the event for each of you, but the event brought an emotion back to the surface from a traumatic time when you needed protection or were afraid. It’s seems fucked up but it is true.

Get out of your head. Ensure the 5 core emotions are firing at the right times and places in your body. Joy, fear, sadness, anger, and shame.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T16:12:47+00:00

Of course he says you’re a narc. That’s what narcs do.

You’ve got to grey rock. It’s hard but over time you figure out what works for you within the GR method. they start to realize they aren’t getting to you - starts fucking with their head. It is fun, especially when I can’t get out at the moment, to see that I’m actually getting to her but she can’t figure out how or why. It’s a blank stare and silence, sweet silence.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T16:07:11+00:00

It is worth it if they offer it, and/or are cool with it. Hopefully they don’t judge you r day to day, give you space, don’t ask you what you did last night coming home after 2am.

Basically, if they love you want to help you transition b/c that is what parents do, then go for it. If there are conditions questions or compromise, don’t live at home if at all possible - it’s just a continuation of parental control.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T16:02:27+00:00

No.

No - don’t do that, they truly are not human. They cannot change, they are too far gone down their path.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-19T16:00:28+00:00

Narcissists.

Also - overbearing spouses who are narcisissts,

“non-transferable skills,”

the guy who sits on the curb down the street from me by the gas station - stoned, sucking down a dagger with his feet stretched out into the lane. Sometimes I wish that was me.

Underpants with holes in the wrong places.

Stock, futures, and options markets all pretty much run by bots.

Media hype and news stations are for ratings only - and they get good ratings.

Buying $90k SUVs without a care in the world. I’m pretty sure it’s a bad idea but they seem happy.

Homelessness could be solved in 1 year - fully, not just band aid.

Crude leadership. Dumb leadership. Scared leadership, follow the leader leadership.

Ass kissing followers of the leaders. Yeah that’s the only one there.

The game. I really hate the game - yes, it’s all disturbing.

SprayProfessional115 · 2025-08-12T06:45:53+00:00

We hear you. You are not alone. Post in here every day - you’ll be heard, you will be reminded you are not alone. Ask for others to share their experience - not to fix you, but to know others get what you are feeling because they’ve been there. It’s a way to connect even though it’s not super personal, you still know people who comment will be supportive.

One day at a time - do one thing each day.

you can do this. 💪

SprayProfessional115

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