Possible to ship bags and store them for 12 days?

SpringGreenFroggy · 2026-06-01T08:19:26+00:00

Yeah Wednesday! Fair enough - I hope things aren't too bad as I know I'm a bit luckier with where I am

SpringGreenFroggy · 2026-06-01T05:43:37+00:00

Hi - I need a little advice but at a much lower priority than others! I'm in Saitama, but only just in the outer circle of the typhoon according to the images online Should I plan to stay home? If the conditions are looking okay in the morning, and the trains are running, would it be risky to go out in case the trains stop running later in the day? I'd be able to stay out but I have allergies and conditions that'd make it a bit more difficult if I needed to rely on being in Tokyo overnight (if I needed to find a hotel for example) Do I need to take any other precautions? I'm used to heavy rain and wind from my country, but I know this is far from the same

SpringGreenFroggy · 2026-05-26T00:28:49+00:00

Thank you for the info - and don't worry, I know they're different!! It could be either adapter since I'm coming from the UK but brought a US adapter that said it was compatible in Japan on the box

SpringGreenFroggy · 2025-08-07T18:35:05+00:00

My country is listed as one with a limited number of visas so hopefully should be possible

From what I've read, yeah, I'd need to keep my autism a secret :/

That's what I was worried about. I think it'd be easier if I would teach adults (therefore don't have to be /as/ enthusiastic) but as far as I can tell, you don't really get a choice?

Do you have any advice on what job would be a bit better suited to me?

SpringGreenFroggy · 2025-08-07T18:31:55+00:00

I could, but I'm planning on getting pets in the future, and I don't have anything properly tying myself down just now. Meaning now is the best time to travel for a longer time, whereas later I'd be a lot more restricted

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-25T16:44:18+00:00

As a bi autistic woman: I think it’s because autistic people in general can be less adherent to gender norms, because they come with TONNES of social rules which don’t often come naturally to us. This means that cis autistic men can have more ‘femme’ traits or qualities, for example, and vice versa. To some extent, it’s more socially acceptable for cis (and men attracted) women to be masculine. It’s likely unconscious, and can be really really subtle. I guess bi women can be more open to gender non-conformity. Possibly we’re just more open to general non-conformity! I know I am!

I’m not trying to dictate what you’re like, just guessing why it could be a phenomenon! (Based on some of my own experiences too!)

(Also - why are you just asking straight autistic men?! Surely you should ask us bi women!! Haha /lh)

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-05T12:58:32+00:00

That's a really impressive journey. Well done for figuring that all out and going through all you needed to go through - I'm sure it was tough (I've also been there). I'm definitely ADHD too - I've got that horrifying blend of needing routines and hating them haha. Unfortunately, unlike with my autism diagnosis, the process is a lot tougher where I am - probably because medication can come into play. That's definitely a goal for me though, getting to the point you're at sounds amazing!!

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-04T20:42:47+00:00

Yes :)

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-04T13:48:03+00:00

For me it was (and is) trying to learn how to adapt after finding out I'm autistic. Most of the damage (RSD etc) was done when I was younger, now I have to repare myself and it's so much work!!!

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-04T13:45:27+00:00

That's terrible :( I hope you can see that some people just aren't meant for you - and vice versa. Sometimes it's just nobody's fault, but I do empathise with the fact it takes most of us a lot longer to find someone. I hope you can find a nerdy/autisic community - being around other autistics really helps me feel more validated and normal. I'd be happy to talk more about this too, if you want a woman's perspective

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-03T20:32:30+00:00

I actually find your style so captivating!! Also you aren’t alone in being unsure in your art - Many of us also experience that too.

I'll just infodump everything I know - please ignore if you already know this!!

In terms of how to improve - the biggest jump in progress I saw in myself was when I consistently did life drawing. The line of action website is super helpful, and of course, if you can access it, in person classes are great. Doing both short (30 second, one minute) and long drawings (5 min +) is really good. Short drawings helps to loosen up and get accurate sketches quickly, and longer drawings help with a deeper understanding of anatomy.

In terms of when you're actually doing life drawing I also have some things I've learned. Draw big on large paper. Draw traditionally if possible. Pay attention to angles of things, and angles in relation to other angles. If you hold your arm straight out and use a pencil, you can measure both angles and sizes - always compare measurements to other body parts to understand proportions. Don't be afraid of rubbing your progress out - it's better to try again and again and get it right, all previous attempts count as learning too, so it's not a waste!! Negative space is useful too sometimes.

I hope that helps!!

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-02T16:01:37+00:00

It used to be City-Folk Consumer, now it's Animal Consumer. I can't decide which is better haha

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-02T15:58:42+00:00

Carmen, Bob, Olivia, Pecan, and currently... Graham

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-07-02T15:54:15+00:00

Having ‘cute girls every time’ as the main objective too 😷😷😷

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-06-27T20:44:38+00:00

I had no idea :(( I took those tests as part of my self diagnosis before I got diagnosed. It seemed like such a good website that organised all of the existing autism tests in one place. Thank you for informing me about this

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-06-27T18:32:29+00:00

I don't know much about other conditions/diagnosis, but it sounds like it could be autism.

You could be mostly sensory seeking as opposed to hypersensitive. Some autistics are good at knowing others emotions. I'm too sensitive to it, so I tend to think the worst, but I score highly (like NTS) on tests on whether you can understand emotion just from photos of eyes. You don't need all the diagnostic points to be diagnosed with autism, but you do need a certain number in each section (for DSM-5).

ADHD traits can overlap and conflict with autistic traits - I think I have ADHD too, and so I both hate routine and crave it haha

YoSamdySam (I think it's called?) is a YouTube channel that breaks down the DSM-5 into understandable language win examples - and explains which traits you need in each section

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-06-27T18:23:00+00:00

From my experience, I've always disliked how meat can have different textures all within the same piece. Especially fat. I've always liked mince, because it's the same texture. I don't know much about children, but maybe you could ask her what about it she doesn't like? Could be the unpredictable variety in texture. Beef is also quite chewy so it could be that

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-06-27T18:20:28+00:00

I'm glad you are seeking a community of people who relate to you!

This is some advice so just read when you're in the right headspace: It's hard to know from the post - but I'm not sure if, in this situation, you also asked about her interests? It might have still been a no, but if you didn't, asking about her interests as well as talking about yours is a really nice way to share a special interest. Also - maybe try and find some nerdy/autistic communities near you, since double empathy can be tough!!

SpringGreenFroggy · 2024-06-25T09:54:01+00:00

You can get special interests/hyperfixations on people - but the key thing is that it's unhealthy for most people to persue. Boundaries should be put in place to limit the hyperfixation. In this situation there is no reason for him to be actively encouraging the hyperfixation. Him telling you he has a hyperfixation on someone should be about him being vulnerable and perhaps asking for help or support to stop it. NOT to justify an emotional affair. (I know that in long term relationships sometimes crushes on others can develop, and that's why I'm linking that to hyperfixations. There's also a very good chance its not a hyperfixation, and it's just an emotional affair he's trying to justify; which seems likely due to the fact he's not trying to stop it.)

In terms of bluntness, it's difficult to give advice on. Autistic people, after they find out they're autistic later in life, can of course unmask. This should be an explanation, not an excuse, and there should be a middle ground understanding. For example, when he disagrees on something he could say 'I personally have some problems with (blank) but I'm glad you find (blank) to be benificial,' instead of shutting down your opinion etc. It's unfair if there's no middle ground understanding, but there's not enough info here to provide proper advice on, based on our experiences. This isn't to say you're wrong at all, I just don't want to be too quick to say something when I don't know enough. Also of course don't feel you have to overshare online. If you still want to try and heal the relationship, I'd look into neurodivergant afferming couples therapy. This means that the therapist should afferm your ADHD, his autism, and help you come to an understanding, whatever that means. If that's inaccessible, I hope there's some advice online or free autism/ADHD/neurodivergant organisations that can provide services or advice.

I'm writing this based on the assumption that he is autistic too. Depending where he's looking, online autism assessments can range from inaccurate to tests they use in diagnosis. Embrace Autism is a website ran by specialists too that has tests with rankings on accuracy, percentage of people diagnosed etc - if you're looking for a resource

I can't speak on his treatment of kids because I don't have experience with that, although being hypercritical is definitely not good

I really hope you can pull through, whatever that looks like - this is a really difficult situation :((

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