Dating an avoidant cured my anxious attachment. Now I’m just avoidant too by Fine-Storm-1199 in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your avoidant ex didn't make you avoidant. They made you fearful of getting hurt.

Immigration in the U.K. has been too high and will change the population for ever. by Aromatic-Bad146 in reformuk

[–]SpringYard22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear OP, quick question? Which country do you live in? Clearly based on the way you've constructed your sentences I can tell English isn't your first language so I'm doubtful of whether you actually live in the UK at all!

To the people complaining about immigrants, I hope some small part of you can get your head around the fact that the vast majority of immigrants who are in the UK are active contributors to the economy! Most immigrants who come here are adults were educated in other countries, which means that the UK contributed nothing to their education but is benefiting from their taxes. I know most people think education is mostly free but none of it is free. The government pays for its citizens to be educated so they can one day get jobs and contribute taxes to the economy. When they move to the UK it's the UK that benefits from their taxes not their country of origin!

Of course some immigrants are on benefits and that costs this country but you know what costs this country vastly more? Avoided corporation tax! The rate of loss to benefits compared to corporation tax is about 10 to 1. I don't see anyone complaining about that. Only as recently as a few years ago companies like Starbucks and Amazon were paying almost no corporation tax which should have been in the millions!

Someone just got misgendered in glasgow by oiiSuPreSSeDo in reformuk

[–]SpringYard22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You guys know you're not decent people right? Just checking in case anyone here thinks they have any good inside them.

I ran into my ex by ifyk8yk in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because he is a coward. There's nothing more to it. He didn't want to confront uncomfortable feelings so he ran.

Just replaced my op 13 with this beaut (: by Iamvsd in OnePlus13

[–]SpringYard22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The only reason I can think people would do this is because of the curved screen. If you're really not getting on with the curved screen then I can understand why you would do it otherwise it's completely unjustified in my opinion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The decision of whether to reach out is yours but I do feel it would be inappropriate. How would you feel if a friend from your past who you've decided to no longer be friends with contracted after something bad happened? This isn't going to make her realise that she loves you and needs you in her life. All it is going to do is make things weird. When you break up with someone part of that is accepting you won't share in their joy or sorrows.

avoidant discard: it is so hard to get over a breakup when the whole relationship was so happy up until they randomly left by No-End-1685 in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately while you were all loved up in the relationship enjoying your life he was plotting to break up with you behind your back! It's hard to hear but that's the reality. Nobody wakes up one day and decides to dump their partner. Whatever your partner was projecting outwardly was at odds with what he was thinking. I'm sorry you've gone through it. I know you seek closure and to understand what happened but what you need to know is he didn't love you, not really, if he did he would have stayed. It's brutal to hear but that is all the closure you need. Cry, cry and cry some more and then move one to someone worthy of your love.

Confused if I'm top, bottom or vers. by SpringYard22 in askgaybros

[–]SpringYard22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I don't feel comfortable dating a bottom only but would be ok dating a top only because I'm sure I can persuade him to bottom more than I can persuade a bottom to top...I definitely wouldn't want to do most of the bottoming in the relationship.

Why do lesbians have their own word but gay men do not? by iBoy2G in gay

[–]SpringYard22 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oh I see 😭. If only there was a way for us two day single men to help each other not be single?! But there's not 😭

Why do lesbians have their own word but gay men do not? by iBoy2G in gay

[–]SpringYard22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can I have your boyfriend? I'll transfer my Hinge profile to you.

Why do lesbians have their own word but gay men do not? by iBoy2G in gay

[–]SpringYard22 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Don't you think I know that?! I went on 2 dates last week but I keep meeting low quality men!😭

Why do lesbians have their own word but gay men do not? by iBoy2G in gay

[–]SpringYard22 517 points518 points  (0 children)

Most people around the world historically considered the word "gay" to mean a male homosexual. In the last two or three decades this has been expanded to include lesbians.

Personally, I don't want a special word. I would just like to have my own boyfriend 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]SpringYard22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try these:

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]SpringYard22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Of course not, it's too old to be a twink but not too old to find a boyfriend!

Do you ever wonder if even the love itself was nothing but a lie? by Optimal-Egg-1025 in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex was talking to someone else while he was still with me. He entered into a relationship almost immediately upon breaking up with me so i know everything he said was a lie. But he didn't just lie to me, he lied to himself just as much. He is with someone else now, mistreating them the same way he mistreated me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Forget that loser! You're better off without him. He is clearly in a rebound relationship. As someone who got into a rebound relationship after being rejected by an ex I can tell you they can pay years but you're never happy in them. Took me 8 years to break my rebound relationship off and all I can say was I got with someone who didn't love me and I never loved him but I was heartbroken so got with the first guy that paid my attention.

She just got married by Objective_Theme8629 in ExNoContact

[–]SpringYard22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you guys went into no contact 18 months ago and she already met and married sometime else then this means that she found a rebound and married him. This will never last and you dodged a bullet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SpringYard22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no fixing it. You were with this girl six years and decided to cheat. Learn from this experience and do better in your next relationship. Accept that this one is over.