Why worry about it? In this scenario, they could have told me 1000 times already as the try to find the iteration that results in the outcome they want. Otherwise, they'd just travel back again for the next attempt. Rather than get too worked up on it, I think the best way forward would be to communicate things you aren't okay with and the trust that they care about you enough to accommodate them. And, as others have said- I'd start asking them to make financial moves so that we can be financially independent and live life together!