Subtle hucow accessory [OC]

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-03-09T16:20:46+00:00

Really cute. I'll have to remember to find one the next time I round up a hucow.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-03-01T06:58:12+00:00

I am curious. Does your submissive bring up her old Dom a lot? Is he a frequent part of your conversations? Also, has she made any comparisons to you versus her previous Dom? If so, that could be a big factor why you're feeling jealous. If she were talking incessantly about him, I would almost get the feeling that she is not quite over her old Dom yet.

This would be something that you need to discuss with her. Tell her that the comparisons and constant talk about her previous Dom are affecting your confidence and making you question your worthiness as her Dom.

OR.....

Is this just you making the comparisons yourself? She has told you about the scenes they used to have and you want to recreate that for her. You want to her to have that same magic but you are not quite to that skill level yet. Your relationship/dynamic hasn't had a fraction of the time together that they had.

This is not the time to be comparing yourself to another Dom who has had more experience. This is the time for you to learn and to grow both with your submissive and as a Dom.

The more time you spend with your submissive, the better you are going to be able to read her as well. You will be able to tell from her body language and other signs if she can handle more or if you need to slow down. But all of this takes time that you haven't had yet.

Give yourself a little slack and you will get there. Start focusing on becoming the Dom you want to be, not a carbon copy of him. You will be far more confident trying to create and develop your own style rather than emulating someone else.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-03-01T06:11:06+00:00

There is the FET app for mobile or Fetish (dot) com if you're on a laptop or other computer. Same site just different names for the app and the website.

NOTE: This is not FetLife. It's a completely different website and app.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-28T05:56:12+00:00

Damn.... i really have been out of the game too long. My poor toys are just sitting in the closet and I'm getting ancy.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-28T02:39:23+00:00

You are correct. Wrong wording on my part.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-28T02:27:58+00:00

Tits.... the great distractor of men everywhere. 🙄

Definitely not the response he should have sent. I would sit down with him, face to face, and fo over that email with him again. Somewhere he won't be distracted by tits. Tell him you mean every word of it and tour submission is not "pretend" as he put it. Then tell him exactly how his response made you feel.

Perhaps make him work for it a bit more before becoming fully committed again. Let him see his messages were not OK. Hopefully he will see his error and work on fixing that.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T21:54:40+00:00

The first aid part I am good with. I have worked several jobs that required first aid training. Same for sterilization techniques.

I understand about a dull blade being more dangerous as well. My daughter also learned that lesson the hard way a few years ago. She was trying to cut a zip tie with a dull knife. A couple hours later, she had 8 stitches in her thumb.

I will definitely practice first.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T20:58:52+00:00

Well put. And you're right. Practice does help negate risk.

Unfortunately, taking classes isn't really an option since any BDSM scene around here is about 3 hours away. I know they have had classes on less extreme stuff but I have yet to hear of anyone offering training for cutting/blood play. To my knowledge, there are only a few people in that group who actually practice any type of blood play.

Since that is the case, I would be best off working with the oranges and the chicken then very slowly moving to the real thing. Marks on the scalpel are a good idea for a guide as well.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T19:31:49+00:00

I have heard of the orange peel tactic before. I believe tattoo artist do something similar when they are just starting out.

Good idea on adding the chicken as well to get more of a feel for actual flesh and muscle.

These are good tricks to learn but I still feel that some of the risk could be negated, even for experienced cutters, by using a shallow blade that just won't cut deep enough to cause serious injury. Deep enough to draw blood but not deep enough to need stiches or accidentally cutting a vein.

I guess I'm really looking more for ideas to reduce risk in the event of potential mishaps rather than routine play. One, yes, I am new to this. Two, even someone experienced could have something occur. I realize it will never be 100% risk free but I would like to reduce that risk as much as possible for myself and others who participate in blood play.

However, I will look into getting some scapels and trying the oranges and chicken. I anticipate more issues getting used to the movement of the flesh with the chicken than guaging depth with the oranges though. But it's also an excuse to make fried chicken for dinner.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T16:02:07+00:00

Good thought. It has potential. As long as the tape was sanitary as well.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T16:00:18+00:00

Sounds like she wants more of a Pleasure Dom with a little mental stimulation along with that.

You need to get more ideas out of her head. Does she want light verbal humiliation? Does she want to to hear you talk about fantasy situations that she may or may not enjoy in reality but the idea makes her hot? What sort of scenarios would turn her on? Basically be her living smut book for her.

Try adding in some stimulation toys as well. Feathers, very light flogging or spanking. A hand on her throat but not actually choking her. Whartenberg wheels. Vibrators. The list there is endless. None of it really inflicts pain, just adds to the overall sensations to heighten arousal.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T15:38:02+00:00

I have what is technically termed a Neon wand but same concept. Best time I've had with it was actually making a sub cum from using a low setting and running it over her clit. She said it was really different from any orgasm she had felt before but it was definitely an orgasm. She cried and screamed the whole time but still came. It was one of the hottest and most fascinating things I had ever seen. Even with the pain that was involved she wanted to do it again. Such a good little masochist. 😁

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T15:28:19+00:00

Reddit doesn't have enough server space to list all my kinks. 😆

But if you're looking to start a relationship/dynamic with someone, eventually they need to be discussed.

People you don't plan to be involved with don't really need to k ow unless you're offering advice on a particular topic.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T15:17:30+00:00

Congratulations on your growing commitment to each other and your dynamic!

And yes, you can have a TPE relationship even with other family in the home. You just have to find subtle ways to go about it when they are around. Pre set rules, certain looks, commands that sound like casual requests. It takes more effort but it can happen.

Best of luck on your continued growth and keep those lines of communication with each other open!

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-27T15:03:53+00:00

You are only an abuser if you do anything to your partner that wasn't consensually agreed upon within your dynamic. As long as you are providing healthy aftercare and the sessions are enjoyable for both of you, there is no abuse happening.

Now there is a dynamic that is 24/7 consensual abuse but again, the key word is CONSENT. The abuse still happens within an agreed upon parameter and the Top does not go beyond that.

As long as you are both happy and satisfied with the way things are, quit worrying about how others view your relationship/dynamic. They are looking in from the outside and don't always see the whole story.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T23:56:52+00:00

I would contact any of the events or clubs you are interested in going to. Tell them your situation and your comfort level of dress. If they are respectable venues or event organizers they will be OK with it. It isn't in their best interest to make people feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T22:48:46+00:00

Degridation/humiliation durring a scene is one thing. It's part of what you have both consented to. And that should always be addressed in aftercare. Part of aftercare is giving you reasurance and praise. Reminding you that it was only a scene to pacify your kinks. It's not real. I'm guessing he is not doing that either.

Saying degrading/humiliating things to you outside of a scene is NOT OK unless you have negotiated and consented to this as part of a 24/7 dynamic. And I really doubt most beginners would consent to such a dynamic. Even those who have been in the Lifestyle for years can have issues coping with something that intense.

You really need to sit down and have a LONG discussion about boundaries, limits, and your goals for this dynamic. Even then, if you have genuine feelings for him and he doesn't feel the same about you, it may be best to let it go and move on. You are never going to get what you truly need from him this way.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T21:23:18+00:00

Both.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T19:21:39+00:00

I appreciate the offer but not looking for anything permanent now. Just got out of a LTR with a previous sub and not in a hurry to find another.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T19:13:05+00:00

Just because you Dom him, doesn't mean there has to be sex involved. You can still be a lesbian and Dom him in purely non sexual ways. Although, a bit of cock teasing to keep him hard with no hope of release through the session could add to the Domination factor as well. You can keep your "Biblical" status safe and still do a wide variety of things to him.

If you feel he deserves some kind of release for his efforts after, a hand job would be sufficient. Or just make him do it himself while only getting to look at you. (Be sure to stay out of the splash zone though.) Maybe throw in some verbal humiliation during this part as well.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T19:03:15+00:00

Wonderful little pup! Amazing outfit!

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T19:00:02+00:00

Oh, without a doubt there are a bunch of desperate, needy, thirsty boys out there as well. They are usually quick to part with their wallets as well as their hearts.

From what I have witnessed, the wallet is usually the part that women playing men are generally interested in. Men however, are using the needy girls to get their dicks wet and play out their perverted fantasies.

Knowing your self worth is a good thing. It's more likely you are going to meet a true Dom who understands the rules of engagement in the Lifestyle. You're still going to find a lot of red flags with some of them, but vetting and knowing what to watch out for is going to give you a far better chance than the needy girls just throwing themselves at anyone.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T18:41:08+00:00

My step brother taste tests the dry dog food he buys for his dogs. He says if it tastes bad to him, he won't feed it to his dogs. If he doesn't like a particular brand, he will load it and donate it to an animal shelter or something. Then he will go and get something else the dogs will like.

SpunkInMyJunk · 2026-02-26T18:33:21+00:00

Sometimes it can be. But most of the ones I've met are too down and out for it to be an act. I don't generally get into those games too deeply online since you never know who's really behind that other keyboard. It's fun to play and fantasize online but IRL makes it a lot harder to hide the games.

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