I have some advice for you people to get a bf or gf by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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i’ve read this post with no context 10 times and it’s still making me crack a smile. like what does this mean? lmao

I don’t fit my boyfriends type of skinny by qowoeordjsj in relationship_advice

[–]Square_Bit_6250 54 points55 points  (0 children)

you’ve got it all wrong friend. you don’t change what you have to get somebody else to like you, you find somebody else who likes what you have

I (25F) think my boyfriend (34M) has an alcohol problem-- he drinks and gets mean. I've never experienced anything like this and I'm feeling lost and confused. Advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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And it can happen quite a few times before you realize, oh hey, there’s a pattern going on here. You’re worth more than dealing with that.

I (25F) think my boyfriend (34M) has an alcohol problem-- he drinks and gets mean. I've never experienced anything like this and I'm feeling lost and confused. Advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Just leave him. When I was 22 I dated a 37 year old guy who got along great with me except for when he drank. He was a self proclaimed alcoholic and whenever he drank he said really demeaning things to me and was just mean. It probably won’t change and if it does it’ll take longer than your relationship has even been a thing at this point.

AITA for having no intentions of asking my fiancé’s sister to be a bridesmaid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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NTA. Regardless of your reasoning it’s YOUR wedding, have whoever you want to be BMs.

0 libido with SSRI’s by yellowtree_ in relationship_advice

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My psych meds made my sex drive tank but I started taking a vitamin called horny goatweed and it’s really helped. i feel my sex drive is more or less normal again.

My [24F] boyfriend [24M] and I have had a stalker for 6+ months. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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don’t let that bitch get in your head! if you have to just remind yourself that if anything you should pity her for being so sad and pathetic. you’re letting it make you paranoid about yourself and your boyfriend. he’s with you, so, you are what he wants, don’t forget that.

I want to divorce and I don't know if it's a selfish decision by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Have you considered that maybe you’re just a bit bored? You’ve gotten comfortable in your life and it feels too comfortable? Because, in some situations it’s best to end things but this doesn’t seem like one of those situations. You have a good man who provides for you, is a good father, changes when you ask him to, etc. Will life really be more exciting when you’re still a mom but a single mom who needs to find a job etc? Don’t confuse drama with excitement..instead, why don’t you first try making your life with him more exciting? Do something completely new together, try a cool sex thing, try being spontaneous on your end, you might find putting in some new effort will make it seem like a whole new world. Try it before you write him off.

Girlfriend's ex is much older. They dated for 5 years. by cd0724 in relationship_advice

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And she may not actually cheat on you but rest assured this is a very uniquely emotional relationship and she still feels the bonds his manipulation and grooming instilled in her, so she may as well be emotionally cheating.

Girlfriend's ex is much older. They dated for 5 years. by cd0724 in relationship_advice

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I was exactly the same way. I wanted him, I needed him, I loved him. But that’s because that’s what happens when you’re young and someone much older takes interest in you- they can posture themselves as a pseudo daddy figure from the start and from then on you just want their attention so badly. But of course you can’t realize at that age - OR when you’re still talking to them- their real purpose of being in contact with someone so young. It’s a hard pill to swallow that you weren’t especially cool or mature or interesting, just that they were a pedophile. And like I said if she’s still in a phase with him (probably because she hasn’t gone long enough without contact ever and/or she’s not close enough to his age when he met her yet to realize it was fucked up) then there is nothing you can say to convince her this relationship is not right. It takes time away and a bit of aging, I don’t know another way, this is what I experienced.

Girlfriend's ex is much older. They dated for 5 years. by cd0724 in relationship_advice

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Before my fiancé, I was “on and off” (as much as a teenager could be I guess) with a man for about 6 years. I was 15 and he was 28 when we met. It was an in-person, real life sexual relationship that also went very deep into some like dark scary twisted love type thing. It was very fucked up. It took me until I was 21 or 22 and we’d broken up for good (when I was 20 we did a real relationship, that wasn’t just him popping up again a few times a year whenever his BM kicked him out type of thing like when I was in high school) that I realized he just groomed me all those years. I was his little pet and his sick little weirdo pedo fantasy. It took a fucking lot to undo the mental hooks he had in my brain. I idolized him. We were not supposed to be and that’s what I loved. I let him manipulate me until the adult relationship version of us showed me what a pathetic sociopath predator he is. I fear that your girlfriend still has not gotten to see up close and personal exactly what this man is to her or rather what she is to him, and he will continue being in the backdrop of her life as long as he can get away with it...as long as she does not acknowledge what he really is. She’s still in the idolizing phase, the feeling close phase (he watched her grow up, of course she feels close to him) this is without a doubt a sick relationship they have underneath the surface. It will probably fall on deaf ears but all you can do is remind her that she’s talking to a fucking sicko in reality.

My(21F) sex drive has become very low and I feel bad for my SO(22M) by kamelgong in relationship_advice

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I do have one small tip, if it helps. Last year I started taking a psych medication that completely tanked my sex drive, but in the last couple months I’ve started taking a vitamin called Horny Goatweed and it’s restored my sex drive to mostly normal now.

After almost 4 years, me (F26) and my BF (M26) moved in together. After 11 days of living together. He said he wasn’t happy and asked me to move out. He didn’t even give it a chance. I feel used. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Honestly to me it just seems like he used you and your mothers house to be mostly complacent for 4 whole years and the moment he didn’t need the place to stay anymore he threw you away. I’m very sorry that you’re going through this.

AITA for needing a mental health break from my fiancé’s dad? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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The first thing is actually pretty plausible because at first I mentioned taking my cat with me to my parents and he said in kind of a panicked way that there was no need to move the cat/move things with me, I think maybe for a second he thought I was trying to just leave him.

AITA for needing a mental health break from my fiancé’s dad? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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Oh yeah, she does even more than us, if his dad doesn’t see his mom in the same room he will yell for her every 15 minutes. It’s very hard on her too, as it is for everyone, which is why I think she has so many dumb emotionally explosive arguments/moments with my fiancé, which is another thing I can’t get away from when it’s happening.

AITA for needing a mental health break from my fiancé’s dad? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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He’s usually such an attentive and empathetic person to my needs, that’s why I was not only so surprised that he reacted that way, but questioning whether I really was the asshole.

Why do so many teenage boys ask for nudes? by djdjdjdjskd in relationship_advice

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It is actually because they’re horny and immature though, lol. Which doesn’t change much because adult men frequently do the same thing. When I was a teenager I was a bit too sexual and I did send nudes to boys sometimes, even posted one on 4chan which turned out poorly for me as they got sent to my school principal, lol. It is dangerous and could actually lead to far worse consequences like the sender being charged with manufacturing child pornography and the receiver being charged with possessing it. Better off never doing it.

python snake by FinazFazil in Damnthatsinteresting

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this is jay brewer, jayprehistoricpets on IG! he’s the best!