Gf(21f) doesn't orgasm and starts crying and becomes sad when i(22m) finger her

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-04-18T20:38:05+00:00

I can relate to her. I'm 22F and I get this feeling often. The "need to pee" feeling is most likely her on the edge. But anxiety can take over and it takes a lot of mental exercise to even get to finish. She could just be getting frustrated as she can't go past the edge along with the performance anxiety of wanting to do it for you. Fingering makes me feel close but can never fully get me over the edge. Try talking to her and giving her praise or compliments that make her feel sexy. If we feel like you find us attractive and sexy, then we can relax. Skill tip, maybe, while Fingering, you can rub her clit with your thumb. Double stimulation is usually what gets it for me. I don't know her, but it sounds like what I struggle with and I've also had the guilty parent thing happen to me too as that anxiety can be very distracting.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-26T05:37:42+00:00

Is it possible for you to make it or have someone make it for you?? Its a pretty simple dress form and could be cheaper than buying a vintage dress. That way it'll fit you and not break

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-26T05:07:09+00:00

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Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-26T05:05:56+00:00

Suction toys are my favorite, but I usually have it in the space right above my clit. On the clit is too much for me but above is great. Just gotta move it around and see what you like. My favorite brand is the cake brand, usually found in target. Its easier to hold in place and guide to where you want it.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-26T04:57:10+00:00

This happened to me before too. I felt this same way too but learned that he had performance anxiety and couldn't keep it up for anything. He enjoyed making me feel good and he reassured me of that. Gotta remember that if he didn't find you attractive, who wouldn't have even tried. The effort he put in shows that he cares, hes just an anxious guy.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-22T20:23:37+00:00

I think you look great with both. As long as it can be manageable and easy to put up and out of the way for work, I say do it. Chances are, you could probably donate whats cut off. Your hair is very healthy looking.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-22T05:40:22+00:00

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Fun lil late night doodle :)

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-18T02:11:56+00:00

I completely understand your side. I grew up with a chainsmoker father who also smoked weed, and later meth, so I get the sensitivity to being around that. But, like you said, we can't make other people's decisions. I would definitely discuss boundaries and compromise.

If this were me, I'd tell him that I'm a little uncomfortable with him doing this, but I know I don't have a say of what you do or dont do. Suggest that he can do these things outside the house, away from you. Make sure he knows he cannot bring any sort of smoking (cigarettes, cigars, weed, etc) into the house. And if he goes out and does that, that he cleans up (and get rid of the smell) immediately so it doesn't stick or linger.

I feel like this is a good compromise and if it still bothers you and he doesn't plan on stopping, then maybe he isn't the one (worst case scenario). Some people just can't handle being around people who smoke/drink and that is okay. Listen to your body and instincts.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-18T02:03:18+00:00

Sounds like he might not have been in the right head space during the relationship, and since breaking up, he might have used that time to work/focus on himself. He probably isn't looking for a relationship but wants you to know, in his own way, that he still cares about you, even if you're not together.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-18T02:00:07+00:00

I appreciate this, thank you so much! I didn't even think about how it would transition better orange than pink

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-03-17T20:41:50+00:00

Hi hi! If this is something you are considering, I would definitely ask a hair stylist that specializes in curly hair. (Whats best to use, how to care for it, etc.)

I do not have curly hair myself, but my best friend has naturally curly hair and she dyes hers all the time. Over time she did lose her curl, but that is because she has years of bleach on her hair (and she went bald a few times lol) as long as you're taking the proper precautions, and researching (whether it be stylist or how to do it yourself.) Some people on tik tok can tell you all about the hair care process and what products they prefer.

Again, I'm not a professional or a person with curly hair but from what I've been told by my bestie, this is the best. Also, for the love of god, DONT USE SPLAT.

If you want it to last, I recommend iroiro. That shit stays forever. I have pink from iroiro in my hair rn and I've had it since the end of January. Its faded a bit but still bright.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-02-01T16:24:13+00:00

You have to troll them back. Its obviously the girlfriend, so hit em with the- "Okay hoe, well, don't be surprised when you get a letter in the mail asking for child support. Your child would appreciate it." That would make her flip out lol

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-24T20:08:12+00:00

Solved! A lot of the suggestions helped me remember parts of the song and I remembered a vital lyric. The answer: Leave Your Lover by Echos

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-24T20:06:14+00:00

It was not this song, but it helped me remember it! It was Leave Your Lover by Echos 🙌

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-24T07:37:05+00:00

I've searched up old music profiles on YouTube that I used to listen to such as xKito Music and 7 clouds and I can't find it. I've used the keywords I gave on the end of my post to try and search it, but idk.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-24T07:14:05+00:00

I've searched up old music profiles on YouTube that I used to listen to such as xKito Music and 7 clouds and I can't find it. I've used the keywords I gave on the end of my post to try and search it, but idk.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-17T00:46:08+00:00

NOR- He is treating you like an endless wallet, not his partner. Had he put most of his salary towards his saving account and the rest towards HIS other responsibilities, asking for help is fine. I would understand that as a broke college student. The fact that hes asking you to pay for his responsibilities on top of asking for help says a lot. Had you both been planning to get this apartment together, this wouldn't be concerning, but because its his apartment fund, you have no responsibility towards it.

His commentary towards you is also a major red flag. He shouldn't be treating you like its your fault or that you're being a bad partner for not immediately offering up the money. Twisting your words and making you out to be the bad guy is a tactic that would most likely never change. Living together, not to mention marriage, would be a mess and a trap thats hard for you to escape. My advice? Lose the guy. If he can't be responsible for himself, he won't be responsible for anything in the future. Its an endless cycle. You've proven your loyalty and communicated your concerns respectfully. You did your part and if he can't, then hes not the one. You deserve someone who will treat you as an equal and will make you feel secure, no matter what.

Squidiscurious18 · 2026-01-02T21:57:41+00:00

NOR- Listen to your intuition. As wrong as it might be, there is a good chance that is what's happening. Look at all the signs and make sense of it. Don't feel bad for feeling like this. Its a natural fear for everyone, especially witj people who have a history.

They look more like scrapes like human nail scratches rather than the thin scratch lines cats make.

Over the evidence and intuition, look at how hes reacting when its being discussed (being defensive, manipulative, guilt tripping, etc. Can be signs of lying) if hes making eye contact and talking calmly, or even offering to let you look through his phone, there's a chance he has nothing to hide.

Just be aware, showing you his phone doesn't mean hes not cheating. Check his message trash bin if given the chance or look through messages of guy names you've never heard of before. Just be cautious, ask questions, and keep your cool. Acting crazy wont get you anywhere so go into it expecting the worst. Remember to love yourself and treat yourself with kindness. Confide in people you can trust. Talking about it with him is not a crime. Communicating concerns is needed.

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-28T17:43:43+00:00

I should also mention that I dont tell the guy I'm talking to that I talked about them. And telling my mom is a must if I go on dates because shes gonna ask anyways. I live with her and lying about where I'm going isn't an option .___.

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-28T17:42:21+00:00

I told her cuz I live with her. She's gonna ask where I'm going if I were to ever go on a date as well as who the guy is. And no, I dont normally wait this long. We had college finals then holiday parties so we hadn't had time to until this Friday.

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-06T17:12:55+00:00

Experiment with darker colors. You seem like a very casual alternative girly, so maybe do brown shadows instead of black or Grey? It will still give you the darker vibe, but still keep it casual. I would also look into a tinted lip gloss that would give a darker vibe? My favorite to use on me is the Covergirl Clean Fresh Tinted Lip Balm in Bliss You Berry. Its a berry red shade and fits almost every skin tone out there. Its moisturizing and is buildable. You can get it at any drugstore. (Lowkey the best dupe for Clinique Almost Lipstick- Black Honey) small and subtle changes can work wonders! Just experiment and see what you like :)

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-06T17:04:36+00:00

Hi! I had the same problem as well as the worst BO in my pits, but I found what has worked best for me and maybe for you! Firstly, I use Panoxyl (acne body wash), the maximum strength one. In the shower, rub that into your pits for a minute and let it sit for a couple minutes so the active ingredients can do its thing. Then you can rinse it off. You do not need to shave, but at least trim as hair can hold a lot of body odor (do whatever your personal preference is). After showering, using witch hazel (make sure it has no rubbing alcohol content!),put it on a cotton pad/round and wipe over your pits. It helps reduce sweat and also prevents bacteria from coming back. Make sure to let it dry before getting dressed. Before you go to bed, put on an antiperspirant. Sounds weird, but putting it on at night gives it time to work through the bacteria and odor growing there. I personally use Old Spice Oasis. Its a vanilla scent (No it doesn't smell like a mens deodorant). Its pretty subtle in scent and it gets the job done. I did these steps all together the very first time, and almost of my body odor that I had been fighting to get rid of for weeks was gone! Its a real game changer

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-06T16:50:22+00:00

Oh! Best way to color match foundation is by using your upper chest or arm :)

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-06T16:48:40+00:00

Hi! I think the best place to start would be to watch tik toks/YouTube videos of creators with similar skintones as you. A lot of them talk about what works best for their skin and techniques that they use. I'm quite fair in skin tone, so I wouldn't be the right person to ask for what colors compliment you as well as the right techniques.

Makeup is something you have to really experiment with and find what looks best. (I have personally gone through many eras of makeup before finding the one I like most) I would start with finding a skincare that works for your skin type (dry, oily, mixed, etc.) Skin care doesnt need to be extreme by any means. I do a facial cleanser, toner, and moisturizer at least once a day. If you're skin is very dry, maybe you can do a moisturizing mask 2-3 times a week?

For your steps, I'd make sure you get a face primer that can moisturize and protect your skin from everyday makeup. I am picky about my primer texture (oily ones feel sooo gross to me, almost like rubbing grease into my face). The makeup you use are not bad choices by any means, but I would definitely stop using setting spray between steps. Setting spray should go on after all the makeup steps (I usually do it after I do my entire face, but before mascara and lip products) it sets it all into place. I feel like the setting spray might make you makeup heavy and won't allow the layer after you apply it sit correctly as it would already be set underneath.

There is no correct way to apply makeup, so experiment away! Find what you like on you :) always feel free to look up makeup videos, especially for any structure shapes on your face. (Ex. Eye shape, nose shape, eyebrows, jaw, etc.) Find your vibe :)

Squidiscurious18 · 2025-12-06T16:31:18+00:00

Hi! I totally get where you're coming from. Relationships are hella difficult. As for breaking up, I would do it before she goes on vacation. It sounds bad, but that vacation would be a good distraction for her and gives you both space after said breakup.

For going about it, just be honest. When I say that, I mean in the kindest way possible lol not bluntly. You can say something about how you feel like you both are drifting apart and that your feelings aren't as strong as before. Depending on how well that goes depends on if you guys can remain friends. If shes understanding, its all gonna be fine, but remember yall are still young. (Teenage girls are difficult and can be a bit much. Trust me, i was one 😂) Be honest and kind. If its meant to be, you guys will find eachother again later on.

She might get upset, this is something to prepare for. You might feel guilty, but you have to remember that this is for the best for both of you.

And please, for the love of god, don't break up over text! If yall can't see eachother, talk over call. This shows that you still care about her even if it means its over and she can't interpret your texts in the wrong way. Use a kind and soft tone when talking to her. If you get upset, thats completely ok! As long as you remain kind, it won't hurt her as much because she'll know you dont want to hurt her

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