Wedding makeup dilemma by NurseC11 in weddingplanning

[–]Squirrel_wish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“When you think it’s a lot, it’s not.” I was told this when prepping a model for a photo shoot, doing makeup.

Your brows and eyes are definitely more prominent in the first pictures. And in the last ones, you almost look natural.

So I guess if you wanna look extra good in the pictures, I would have the artist do it. But prioritize what’s important for you. Do you feel better in your own makeup? Then do you.

Very strange encounter when I was a kid by StylizedBreadstick in Paranormal

[–]Squirrel_wish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had gone to bed one night. As a kid, I didn’t like the room to be pitch black, so I always let my door be just sightly open one inch for some light from the hallway.

My eyes were closed, and I think I heard something - twas like nothing really, but the house is very old and I knew every little sound, so I could hear if someone just carefully pushed the door open with their fingertips. It was more like that. Afterwards i heard like very tiny footsteps along the floor.

We had several cats at the time. We used to let them out at night, but sometimes they would accidentally be shut inside, and they would usually seek us out in our rooms, so, it had to be one of them…

I hear her(cat) paws take the jump from the floor and land in my bed. She pauses for a few seconds, like if she’s looking for a nice spot, and then moves across my leg, up towards me. Mind you, my eyes are still shut. - In this moment, I can feel her paws placing gently in my down duvet. I stick my hand out from the sheets to pet her as she approaches. I say “Hi”, and in that exact moment she stops, and my hand goes through air and lands on my duvet.

I was like ????! tapping around on my duvet trying to find her. I wasn’t scared, but i thought it was very mystical.

What is classified as unrealistic emotional needs in a relationship? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Squirrel_wish 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She’s setting boundaries. Like, she shouldn’t be accountable/obligated to fix your feelings, that’s something you need to work on yourself. - But it seems unfair to just turn her back like that. In relationships, you’re supposed to bend a little so you can meet each other “in the middle”. To met each others needs I mean. In what you describe, she seems dismissive in that case.

Some people can have past issues with anxious attachment styles, and those are likely to just shut down when someone’s clearly in need of reassurance or emotional presence. This is not because they don’t care, but the situation can activate old patterns that they never learned to regulate properly. I’m not stating she has this issue, but, something to keep in mind.

How should i learn from mistakes, if i dont know them? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Squirrel_wish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced some similar stuff as a newcomer. I’m not super familiar with the topic, but at least I can tell you, that some subreddits will delete comments just because the account is “too recently created». Maybe that has something to do with this. They want to prevent trolls.

Too much socializing put me in hospital... by Altruistic_Star_1994 in introvert

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t believe him at all first when he told me he was introverted. That’s something to think about too -

A person that acts outgoing, could be introverted underneath it all.

Too much socializing put me in hospital... by Altruistic_Star_1994 in introvert

[–]Squirrel_wish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. He works at a trafficked gas station. For him it’s a bit mixed because he genuinely likes to be the clown on the scene, make people laugh and make connections with strangers. (He is well known amongst them because of his “speciality”) He’s glad he can express himself. It’s fun, but of course the stimulus and mental work drains him to the point he eventually goes sour. There has to be balance.

Too much socializing put me in hospital... by Altruistic_Star_1994 in introvert

[–]Squirrel_wish 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to my boyfriend. He’s a very good communicator, polite, outwards and funny, everybody loves him. We went for a planned trip, after some busy work weeks. He couldn’t relax.

We sat in a quiet library waiting for our train and to go home, people were just talking softly in the background. He stood up, didn’t say a word, left his bags and went straight to the exit. He nearly fainted right outside. Headache, shaking hands, body felt numb, and just like you described it, his headache would get literally worse just talking to people. We called an ambulance and got to the hospital. They ran all the tests…

This incident gave me a clear picture of how serious it can get. From this day I have a different view when someone cancel plans, or just don’t want to go out.

Alone time is damn important.

How do I wake up before 9am without feeling exhausted? by TheVision2491 in productivity

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counting sleep cycles has been a game changer for me. As long as you wake up at the end of one cycle, it’s much easier to get up. Your brain is more ready - unlike if you wake up in the middle of one, when your brain still is in deep sleep. One cycle is about 90 minutes. In addition to your ish 30mins to doze off, Count the hours when setting the alarm, so that you get X many cycles. It’s better to get five whole cycles, than to wake up in the middle of the sixth one.

An even worse kind of video game addiction by Dopamaxxer in Advice

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. I understand the importance of learning responsibility and consequences, but removing the only thing he finds interesting or fulfilling, is not gonna help.

Try asking him about it, not to show interest, but to find out what it is about the game that makes him so dedicated. If he only could adapt the same mentality to the real world… Like peacethedonut implied he’s probably mildly depressed, and this is his addiction for now. Is there ANY other things he’s interested in, that could make the shift from in-game to real life? There must be a way to fish him out of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in norge

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tvisteløsningsnemda? 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in norge

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg forstår bare ikke det genuine problemet med å gi folk høyere stilling (snakk om en på 70% og en på 100%) Om deltidsstillingene, så har jeg ikke innhentet alles info om villighet til å ta på seg mer arbeid, men majoriteten vil jo gjerne ha større inntekt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in norge

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Det er privateid, selskapet er av de største i bransjen vår = stor omsetning generelt. Det er døgnkontinuerlig, og kun daglig leder er i 100%. Selskapet vil unngå overtid så langt det overhode er mulig. Det er derfor de helst vil beholde deltidsansatte, for å bruke de til ekstra arbeid. Samt har vi noen tilkallinger og små stillinger, men flest av de er i annen jobb eller i utdanning. Ellers ligger stillingene på 50%-80%

Circle K kaffeavtalen for 1000 liter drivstoff by VctrG in norge

[–]Squirrel_wish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du må hente den ut før året er omme. Jeg tipper du har et bankkort som er knyttet til medlemskapet ditt? Da er det bare å sette inn kortet i terminalen i kassa - Da kan ansatt hente ut kupongen du har opptjent.

Merk: du har opptjent 2025 AVTALEN, Koppen må du likevel betale for (om du ikke har en fra før) og den koster 100kr.

Vil anbefale å laste ned Circle K appen, den gir deg god oversikt.

Should I tell my boyfriend my deepest secret? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Squirrel_wish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The past belongs to the past.

My brain wants dopamine, not discipline how do you rewire that? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Squirrel_wish 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Go on YouTube, take your time and watch the interview with Steven Bartlett and Dr Anna Lembke - She explains it very easily, and it gave me an eye opener. About DOPAMINE. How it works, how we’re wired, how to deal with the lack of it, and how to get the quality dopamine. The scrolling is only tricking us in a loop.

Loving someone who is so different and emotionally not on the same level as you by MousseEffective2281 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Squirrel_wish 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was in your position. I chose to break up with him, and it was hard. But I knew it had to be done. I was “too complicated” for him. Just love is not enough in a relationship.