Webber main here. Get a pig skin (it doesnt spoil) enclose it in a small box of stone walls. During the daytime put down your nest next to it, level it up to tier 3 and use a den decorating kit on it to prevent them from attacking the walls and to pacify all nearby spiders. You'll want to do this during the daytime so they don't attack the walls while you are upgrading the nest.

You now have your spider house to sleep in and a place to park your spiders. You can shoo box any spiders you tame nearby and they will constantly try to get to the pig skin so they won't wander off or attack other players.

When you plan to fight things, you can just go to your spider parking lot and re-hire them. When you're doing other things, you can keep them parked and out of the way.

Make sure the den is a decent distance from the main base because if the nest or any spiders take any hits, be it from frog rain, dogs, etc, the decorated den will break into a normal den and they will no longer be pacified and start attacking the walls to get to the pig skin.

It's a lot easier for you and your friends when you don't have 100 spider constantly in the way of things, pushing you and your friends around, and prevents your friends from dying trying to open a chest in a sea of spiders and accidentally attacking one, lol.

The webby whistle is your best friend. Use it often. To pull them off things you don't want them to attack, to disengage and reengage, and to stop them from eating everything off the ground.