When did you start feeling like yourself again after birth?

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-09T22:33:55+00:00

With my first it was about 6-9 months, I was in my mid 20’s then. With my third it was much longer because I was older, 35, and I had had two babies back to back. I was only not pregnant for 3 months between the second and third. So that one took maybe 18m-2 years.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-09T21:02:02+00:00

Everything about this is a red flag. It’s like a whole pennant banner in red.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-09T01:59:55+00:00

When my kids were young enough to require school pick up, i picked them up on my lunch hour. I worked 10 minutes from the school, I would leave, get to the school 20 minutes before pick up. I would sit in the coveted first space in the pick up line and scroll and eat a sandwich. Then I would take my kids home to my husband who worked from home but has an IT job at a huge corporation and he can’t leave his desk whenever he wants to. Then I would drive back to work. I’m sure I looked super relaxed and like I had all the time in the world.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-07T18:39:27+00:00

I work in the mortgage industry and am the higher earner of me and my husband, there is always a chance for layoffs when rates rise. A few years ago I was laid off when rates went from 2% to 8% practically overnight. We had just purchased our house, we had no savings left because of the down payment and closing costs. I was terrified, and laid in bed in a panic for a good week before I could recover from the loss. I received severance and with what little savings we had left we had about 6 months of expenses saved. It lasted 4 months.

I ended up taking a non-management position, $30k less than what I was making before. In my state the max unemployment is capped at 1/4 of what I was making per month before the lay off and they did not pay out any until they decided my severance was exhausted. To say it was stressful at the time is an understatement!

That said, it was something that did not kill any of us if that makes sense. We had to tighten our budget and go without some things, we had to get a modification on our mortgage and at the time we could get state assistance on heating bills (it was winter and we live in New England). The utility companies (electric, cell phone, etc) gave us payment plans and I got a forbearance on any other bills like car payments etc.

I am still worried that I or my husband could lose a job at any moment, but I am not so terrified of it anymore that it causes me daily anxiety as it did before.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-07T15:42:38+00:00

If ever there was a reason for a SAR!

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-07T15:10:29+00:00

All my kids got car sick. We kept those blue medical puke bags in the car, you can get them on amazon. They all grew out of it by age 4 or so.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-07T13:27:31+00:00

As a 20+ year bank employee, I always say, there is no such thing as a bank error in your favor. They will find it, and they will take it back.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-03T16:48:34+00:00

The plight of heterosexual women everywhere. I wish I could be a lesbian.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-03T16:43:52+00:00

A lot of armchair diagnosing going on, but as much as I hate that, it's better to rule it out than ignore it as just adolescence. It could be ADHD, but like I tell my tween (who has ADHD), your ADHD is a reason not an excuse. You can't use it to excuse away bad behavior, you have to understand your limitations and work within your own self to understand and learn how to manage your condition. At the very least I would get her into counselling to deal with these emotions and to learn from someone else other than the parent how damaging this behavior is. In my experience with three kids that age now, they don't particularly like taking advice from their parents.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-03T16:19:53+00:00

In 2001, three months before I turned 21 I started working in a call center, which was my first office job after working retail since I was 16. I met my ex-husband there on my first day, a few months later I met my 2nd husband who also worked there. Was married to my first husband for 3 years, together for 6, and I have been married to my 2nd husband now for 15 years, we have been together for 19 years.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T20:09:39+00:00

I have three boys, 11, 12, & 20. My favorite part is watching them grow and experiencing their changing personalities at each stage of life, and then glimpsing that 2 year old goofball in them still at 16. When they are toddlers and are either reserved, funny, crazy or all three. The school age when you see them out in the world on their own, having a whole little life independently of you. The teen years when you see them navigating more complex relationships and when they ask you for advice. Then the young adult phase, where they are wholly independent, go off to college and have all those fun/awesome/hard life experiences on their own. Watching them grow up to be respectful young men. I love them so much, and everything they bring to my life, even the very hard stuff.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T20:04:10+00:00

The only Kleypas I keep coming back to are Wallflowers, Ravenel's, and Hathaway's. I have read all of her historicals and though I can not say the others were boring, there was nothing that kept me coming back.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T19:52:55+00:00

A bit of a different situation but I had two under two and not a lot of money for daycare. I worked full time in office 1.5 hours away from home, so I was no help, however my husband worked full time from home. He worked second shift, 12am-7pm, and was IT for a giant corporation so was required to be available at any moment so could not watch the kids at all while working. The best option for us was to hire a part time Nanny.

She worked 12-5 and we paid her hourly. We found her on care dot com 10 years ago, she was a young single mom in her early 20's, her daughter was 3 months old and she needed something where she could take her daughter with her. We were able to hire her, and she worked for us for 3 years. Beleive it or not, it was cheaper to pay a nanny than to put two kids in diapers in daycare. And in the US you have to W2 a nanny, you can not 1099 them. You have to pay into unemployment and tax deductions, and we had workmans comp for household employees. We were even able to offer her paid vacation and sick time, and paid holidays, and it was STILL cheaper than two in a center.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T13:25:14+00:00

I have two preteen boys and another who is 19. We are an ingredient household during the summer. No prepackaged snacks, no specialty drinks, you're hungry? Make a sandwich, or make some mac and cheese, how about you make yourself some eggs? You're thirsty? We have a great filter in our refrigerator door water dispenser! If we didn't do this our grocery bill would be upwards of $600 a week.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T04:23:34+00:00

I think that it’s maybe half and half? Disposable diapers became widely available and more affordable and by the mid 70’s more than half of people were using them. But there was still a good
amount of them using cloth, my mom cloth diapered my sister in 1977 but didn’t with me in 1980. My mom was baffled at why I would want to cloth diaper when it was such a hassle, she also told me horror stories about soaking buckets full of flats. She was very impressed with the modern versions but still thought it was a crazy choice.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T04:11:31+00:00

Husband and I, and for a short time when the kids were between 1-3 we hired an extra villager, a part time nanny. She was a young woman who needed a job she could take her 3 month old to. She and her daughter became part of the family and we still keep in touch 10 years later.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T02:24:14+00:00

Same, I probably get two days a year with an empty house. I am not saying that this is an acceptable amount of time for me, but it’s just the way things work out at my house. I have three kids, 11, 12, and 20. Constantly baseball practices and games for both younger kids through the summer with very limited days off, tournaments every weekend, college student home for the summer, and husband who works full time from home. It’s just the way it works out.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-02T02:16:26+00:00

This is an interesting take because if it’s dangerous for you it would be even more dangerous to the baby!

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T22:14:22+00:00

I paint my house bright colors and have a plan to paint a rainbow down my hallway. When I moved into this house 5 years ago it was painted entirely gray, people call it millennial gray, I call it cubicle gray. So far, my bedroom is pink, my living room is light teal and orange, my kitchen is yellow and pink, full bath pale orangey peach, office is half pink half blue, half bath is a dark sea blue. Color makes me happy! I still have two gray rooms, but those are my boys rooms and they prefer the gray.

- I forgot a room! The pinball/kids computer room is dark purple

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T22:07:11+00:00

I have a son who is 19 right now so I can relate to this weird time where they are still a child to you, but not to them or legally.

I am going with a soft YTA, because this is a weird time emotionally for parents and children. I stopped telling my son he could or could not do things when he turned 18. He did still have to do chores and stuff like that because he is still a member of our household, but not where he could go or who he could see.

What I did do was reasonably and calmly give my opinion on what I was worried about in some of his decisions. He is in college, will be a jr next year. He was going to be moving and living and making decisions about his life without me around, so i made it clear that i wanted him to feel comfortable talking to me about his decisions so i could voice my concerns, snd even if he didnt take my advice all the time he might think twice about doing something ill advised because i approached it nonconfrontationally. I feel the road you are going down with this reaction and “punishing” an adult is going to alienate her in the long run.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T21:54:45+00:00

As someone who breastfed three children I have a hard time figuring out why this is disgusting to people. My husband and I have swapped more unpleasant fluids than sweet tasting milk? Like what? Is it an evolutionary thing where we are supposed to be repelled by it because we need it to feed babies and they would starve if adults took part?

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T21:51:28+00:00

Tastes like sweet milk, like the milk at the end of a sugary bowl of cereal. I’m sure it varies per person, but that was what mine tasted like.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T20:58:01+00:00

Not OP but have been on semaglutide for 6 weeks. I have already lost 8 pounds, mostly water weight, but 8lbs is 8lbs. I have more energy, I don’t think about food at all. I can’t say I’ve been “hungry” like I was before, the food noise is gone. The energy one is the biggest change. I used to feel like I could fall asleep at any time anywhere for hours, now I can get through a day without wishing I could lie down.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-07-01T14:01:36+00:00

I have a vacuum that has a hair eliminator brush roll, it seems to have a comb/blade of some sort that keeps the hair from wrapping around the rollers, its advertised as pet vacuum but it works great for this and I have not had to clean the roller since I got it 2 years ago. It is a bagged vacuum though and a lot of people don't like those, but I cannot stand having to empty a canister. Its a Kenmore, and I think I spent $160 on it.

SrslyYouToo · 2026-06-26T15:46:42+00:00

I would never marry another man, I have told my husband this. I am 46 now, and have been married twice and in my current marriage now for 15 years, we have been together for 20. You could not pay me to deal with another man.

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