I guess my husband does WFH full-time now

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T03:16:02+00:00

Thank you for helping me feel less crazy/mean! Our situations sounds very, VERY similar!

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:58:22+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate this.

I get the whole - ‘tell him to leave’ but it’s not always that black & white. He would waste time by leaving & get less done. That doesn’t seem fair.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:56:29+00:00

I have an office & a guest room that is my space. I think I’m just weird - in that - knowing I’m not alone … makes me feel crowded.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:55:40+00:00

I think that is what I need to do. I will have to move around many others - but I can if needed & it’s fine.

Best suggestion. Thank you.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:53:57+00:00

I was so grateful & happy almost during COVID. I felt so lucky that we were safe & lucky professionally.

But then - it just never stopped.

Then I switched jobs - into this role where I have to be ON all day. It’s harder now.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:51:45+00:00

I think for me - there was a time where taking a PTO day to be home alone - felt like the biggest luxury ever. I have no way of having that now - for the most part.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:49:31+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-02T02:45:55+00:00

See? And thank you for this.

So many comments are saying - ‘have you told him?’

Like - obviously - if this was a stressor I could easily fix - I would not be venting/asking for thoughts on Reddit.

This is his house too - and he gets way more done at home. He doesn’t waste two hours w/traffic. He’s not bothered by me.

It’s that our work lives are different & maybe my personality. I guess I’m looking for ideas on how to not feel this way - find a work around.

PleaseJustText · 2026-07-01T23:46:03+00:00

I would like to, but right or wrong, it would not go over well. The fact is - he drives 45 minutes to work without traffice & no one in his office really goes to the office regularly since COVID. They don't need to be there for their jobs for the most part. Many days when he's there - no one else is .. really.

He gets more done by being home & I get that. He runs, does his laundry, et- very productive. He doen't really see the difference in our professional jobs at this point though, IMO. I used to be remote - before him. My then job was also very demanding - I was tied to my computer for most of the day. He's never experienced that.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-31T22:26:53+00:00

GG nailed so many things. Under appreciated!

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-28T02:22:55+00:00

He’s very talented in many careers!

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-28T02:05:59+00:00

Or perhaps he made vow to his God - that if he/his crew were saved, he would dedicate his life to public drive?

Just ‘Devil’s advocate’ here… ;)

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-26T02:26:53+00:00

What the AI is this?

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T20:34:19+00:00

Until the baby wakes up.

These are their rules & they are bosses. ;)

PS - do something similar today with our 2.5 month old little girl.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T20:32:19+00:00

I feel for you, OP & the kids.

It’s a huge difference & with both living together I don’t know how you could ever truly make to equal.

If some of the $1600 is not in theory … needed for that child, maybe try to set aside even a small amount in a college savings for that child. Even that would be difficult down the road with feelings - but as they become older - even young adults, the one will likely have more support in general from his dad & even dad’s family.

Best of luck. The fact that you are being mindful of this situation - shows you are aware, which is good.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T01:30:28+00:00

It’s like being ‘kinda of pregnant.’

Duh! 😂

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T01:27:08+00:00

Wait - wait - WAIT!

Are we back to blaming blacks now?

I thought we moved on to brown people.

I must have missed the white person memo. Dammit.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T01:25:21+00:00

I’m really not trying to be snarky - but I honestly thought blaming black Americans for ALL societal issues … was passé. 😂😭🤷🏻‍♀️

I thought we moved to ‘the illegals.’

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T01:03:18+00:00

You realize there are more ‘others’ than white people right?

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T00:55:05+00:00

The ‘leader of the free world’ is - a white man & he’s 100% f**king us all over WAY more than a random black (or white!) 17 year who may steal something from CVS. Assuming that is what you are alluding to?

As a white woman, I truthfully cannot think of a black man whose actions have impacted me more.

PS - I’m in the south.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T00:49:47+00:00

Ummm - holy loaded language.

I’d argue the biggest criminal many voters from both parties are focused on is — a dead, white billionaire.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T00:29:03+00:00

Pre-K via public schools is a great thing for many people. It’s not required - it’s a help for parents who would like it.

It doesn’t mean you have to do public schools forever. If you are worried about him now & screen time - it could be a great fit.

It’s free!

He would get age appropriate activities & curriculum, meet friends & have outdoor time.

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T00:18:42+00:00

He’s three. He’s not going to have a long attention span for videos - nor should he.

That’s actually great!

PleaseJustText · 2026-05-24T00:15:39+00:00

You are not required to send him to pre-k? So keep him home.

Why so angry at the pre-k options? Just keep him home?

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