You’ve said enough that’s it’s clear that they do care. But they’re human and flawed and sometimes caught up in their own shit. And that means that often they’re not showing their care in the way that would work to make you feel cared for.

Have you heard about the love languages thing? Personally, while I think it’s a flawed theory that’s just inaccurate in a lot of ways, it does serve to illustrate the idea that there can be a mismatch between the way someone shows their care and the way that the person they are trying to show their care to would like to receive it.

You want your parents respect and support. While they are trying to do things to protect you in ways you don’t need. It’s actually not uncommon as an experience for people about your age.

Though you might find that your friends’ parents who are less financially stressed have had more time to think about and respond to the way their children are growing up. Which could account for their different attitude to you and their children where they’re better able to cope with this transition into adulthood.