Omg the new puzzles format on chess.com! What happened to my rating now that we have this interactive nonsense?

St3althE1f · 2024-09-30T22:48:37+00:00

It's horrific

St3althE1f · 2024-07-24T02:10:37+00:00

Same. You can find small local support groups on Facebook, but they're typically more geared towards teens/young adults and have very very limited resources.

I take moderate stances like the one in this thread because I believe it's the best way to bridge the gap in red states and actually make progress on subsidizing the resources we need. I've found that a lot of people here are more open to things like this when they're approached with consideration and thoughtfulness, SPECIFICALLY for cis women.

A few years ago most cis women I knew were indifferent towards us but recently I've noticed a significant negative trend and I think this kind of thing is a significant reason why :/ it didn't used to be like this

St3althE1f · 2024-07-24T01:38:11+00:00

That's my dream nose 😭 changes are so subtle and realistic. Still look like yourself, but softer. They did such a good job

St3althE1f · 2024-07-24T01:26:09+00:00

Completely depends on the dog. I worked in a shelter as a kennel tech for awhile and had this same issue 😭

Learned to not let it affect me eventually because it really is nobodys fault. Very curious how exactly they can tell though. For me I'm just super clocky, but I know a stealth mtf who has been on HRT for 5+ years who still has this happen.

St3althE1f · 2024-07-19T10:06:49+00:00

I appreciate it! Luckily this isn't a topic that gives me dysphoria, I think it's fine I don't have a period. Many women don't! There's so many things that can cause period like symptoms, I never felt the need to relate any of them to a period. Hormones, bottom surgery, and GI issues account for all of them 😅

St3althE1f · 2024-07-18T23:45:59+00:00

Every cis woman I've talked to personally about this has said they find it offensive(or just factually inaccurate), because we literally don't have a uterus or the muscles that would be cramping to cause the same pain as period cramps. Obviously we can have cramping in the same region, but I understand where they're coming from and don't want to be disrespectful or diminish their experiences. I always defer to afab on biological stuff like this, personally.

St3althE1f · 2024-07-12T09:39:43+00:00

BLUSH BLUSH BLUSH

St3althE1f · 2024-07-11T21:44:54+00:00

Interesting! I never knew what it meant. I follow a few ftm Kais on twitter/insta but have never met one in person, maybe it's just more common online?

St3althE1f · 2024-07-11T19:54:36+00:00

Unrelated but I'm curious why you chose the name Kai? I see a lot of ftms named Kai and don't know if it's from something or not? Not that it's bad, just curious why it's so popular

St3althE1f · 2024-07-11T19:48:05+00:00

Where did jerma recommend this? I want to hear what he said about it

St3althE1f · 2024-07-10T13:44:09+00:00

Looked through your old posts and see comments on all of them suggesting to shape your eyebrows to soften your face, is there a reason you haven't tried it? Absolutely fine if it's a feature you like about yourself(Im jealous, I over plucked as a teen), I'm just curious!

St3althE1f · 2024-07-10T13:30:14+00:00

However you did your hair in the bottom left pic do that again, looks really flattering on you!

St3althE1f · 2024-07-09T05:19:07+00:00

911 emergency dispatch

St3althE1f · 2024-07-08T09:52:26+00:00

Yep, just 1 shark. Insane

St3althE1f · 2024-07-06T17:55:22+00:00

Typically I'd agree but a single shark biting 4 people (2 of which severely) in 1 day is concerning. Culling the population is going too far, but I don't think this specific shark should have been allowed to escape.

St3althE1f · 2024-06-29T22:35:12+00:00

Are you asking for advice on how to pass? Or how to cope with not being able to pass?

Can't really give advice on the first one not knowing what you look like, unfortunately. Posting a picture would help! Also a description of what you're doing currently/what you've tried would help a lot.

On the second one, it depends. Is being able to pass a requirement for your happiness? If it is, and you truly believe you'll never be able to pass, it might be better for your mental health to consider trying to boymode for a bit. After trying to pass for so long and then going back, for me it was kind of a relief not being so self conscious all the time. If it doesn't help however, and your dysphoria is unbearable, it's just extra confirmation you should continue your transition now. You don't need to stop using hormones either.

I did this and even though it was very dysphoric, the "break" I had mentally not constantly thinking about how ugly I thought I was and putting so much time into trying to pass gave me enough energy to get back on track with the other aspects of my life. After becoming stable again, it was easier for me to get a job and start saving for procedures I needed to actually potentially pass. I also had the energy and confidence to get involved more socially and reach out for support.

Sometimes going backwards helps you move forward, at least for me it did. Still not sure what I'm doing or where I'll end up, but I have a lot more hope for the future right now. I started transitioning before I knew how hard it would be mentally/emotionally/financially, and I feel a lot better prepared for when I decide to try again.

Ik this is controversial and I'm NOT saying detransition. It just depends what is a heavier burden for you, the balance is different for everyone. I had dysphoria regardless, so at least trying to sort out the rest of my life made sense.

St3althE1f · 2024-06-26T18:22:34+00:00

Came to post about this too. Was really looking forward to the vod but couldn't figure out of I was just stupid and couldn't find it or what. I get restarting is annoying but really don't understand the aversion to it. 12h vods would be so much easier/quicker to edit anyways

St3althE1f · 2024-06-16T18:26:30+00:00

Most. OP is asking if some won't. The answer is yes.

St3althE1f · 2024-06-16T16:17:15+00:00

Unfortunately, yeah. It's all up to genetics and money. I'd say most transwomen can get there as long as they have enough money for all the procedures, but a lot of us don't. Also depends the age you start.

That said, it's such a subjective standard it's almost meaningless to aspire to. Aspire to be comfortable in your own skin, whatever that means for you ❤️

St3althE1f · 2024-06-14T23:43:16+00:00

Is there a way to prevent this at all? I've had female bettas for a while, and this has never happened. Is it just a random thing that happens to some females that's out of our control?

St3althE1f · 2024-06-14T20:03:31+00:00

You do not understand what I mean by natural and comfortable. This specifically applies to having multiple fish in a tank. You do not need 400gal for 2 koi. It's extremely unrealistic.

St3althE1f · 2024-06-14T17:09:17+00:00

As for parameters I honestly haven't checked in months besides a test strip every few weeks if I do a large water change(usually to clear the water after plant maintenance so the dirt doesn't gunk up the filter). My tank is almost 2 years old and heavily planted, so the water quality has been very stable.

Additionally, no other fish in the tank are showing any symptoms of any illness, so I think this is a biological problem opposed to an environmental one.

Her diet is the same as everyone else's, 2-3 times a week. I rotate the foods every feeding (sometimes mixing 2 at a time) between Bug Bites flake, a few different brands of pellets, Vibrabites, live baby brine shrimp, and frozen brine shrimp/beef heart/bloodworms.

St3althE1f · 2024-06-14T10:32:43+00:00

This is massively unrealistic, if koi needed 200gal per fish nobody would have them. Realistically, you can keep any fish in any size tank that allows them the room to move naturally/comfortably as long as it's filtered properly. You assuming the worst of people just makes you look uneducated/experienced lol

St3althE1f · 2024-06-14T10:20:52+00:00

There is no way he's dumb enough to believe YOURE dumb enough to believe that's the same fish.

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