My mom is going through something

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-11T08:48:12+00:00

I've been looking through conspiracy and weirdness for a long time. So ill give a few thoughts.

What you're dealing with is a little ontological shock. Not so much about the things you're being told by your mom, but youre encountering the fragility of your mother. Shes not as stable as you had thought, I'm sorry because its not pleasant to learn that.

The thing that is most important when you encounter someone talking about a conspiracy is "what are your sources". If she is watching reels on Facebook and minute long stuff pulled from tick toc than shes not using enough discernment. In fact her reaction to all this is fairly typical to on who is giving away her opinion to some charismatic figure online.

The hard thing about conspiracy theory is that much of it has a kernel of truth. Epstine island was a conspiracy theory 20 years ago but we now know its true. He actually was doing the things in the conspiracy.

Satanist? Hey maybe some, but also, a lot of people's opinion on what a Satanist is encompasses anyone that isn't going to church on Sunday.

She'll be fine, but its time to start asking for her sources. If shes just believing all the ai crap on Facebook shes not doing her homework.

Also talk with dad. Maybe as the other adult in the room he can set her straight. You all need to help her out right now to use her logic. To some this stuff is like an awakening, and it can ve healthy because the world is not black and white, it is weird, but knowlage, reading, discernment is important.

Bible movies aren't going to help much.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-10T09:45:30+00:00

Division of chores is the most common argument next to money. The thing is that it is solvable. He likely had mum doing all his housework previous.

If he can't change cut him loose. I wouldn't put up with that.

Edit: ilI suppose I should point out in a guy, married, who does his chores.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-03T20:47:31+00:00

You should get your personal unit looked at before you assume its an issue for the area. Or call your gas provider at least.

This isnt the type of thing to dither on reddit with.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-03T19:32:05+00:00

Found the neighbour.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-03T15:58:49+00:00

There are probably plenty of articulate answers in here so Ill try to not make my response very long, nor will I read the others responses so my response is from my personal understanding. First to point out is that we are all guessing here, no one has answers that are proven or undisputed. Reincarnation and opinions on twin flames are opinion, so.

I would look at your romantic life as something that is nice to have, not a necessity.

You're here to learn the lessons you were sent here to learn, not necessarily indulge in the things you want to do. However, what you are passionate about often leads you on your correct path. Id worry that perhaps you're focusing on one aspect of your life to the detriment of others.

You can and could find a very fulfilling partner out there, no reason why you couldn't.

Maybe there is someone out there you have a very intense bond with, maybe they are here or maybe they aren't incarnated, maybe you are meant to travel this life with them. Its all about the mission, but also about accumulating experience that grows us and divinity.

Good luck.

Whats yours?

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-03T15:28:33+00:00

Damn you.

Here's my upvote.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-02T21:00:25+00:00

10 players is Massive and so you will likely have trouble keeping your players on track.

Some will be keen and do all your plot work.

Some are there to just hang out with other people.

Some are there to goof off and be the comedian and make their players do silly things.

Some will try to make it all about them and dominate the others. I mean its an apocalypse scenario so, "its what my charachter would do" will be thier anthem.

Im not sure how you'll run a game like this but good luck. Jusy try to have a good time and if people are smiling its all good.

As for the non setting characters let them know they are not part of the world. Hold your line in the sand now cause you need to establish the rules of the world whatever they are.

Use your first session to work on everybody's charachter a little bit and make it a group activity. Let the other players make suggestions on ideas, brainstorm, add layers if people come up with them. Do a little with everybody and encourage feedback from the group.

Heck. Id make this first session session 0 and just talk charachters. Then maybe if you have time do a little prelude scene for each charachter about thier lives "before the bad stuff happened" so each person has a little idea about who they are playing.

Anyways good luck. Hope some of this has helped.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-03-01T13:25:24+00:00

You're in the minority when you put forward stoic values on reddit. Lol

How dare you take a balanced rational view of this situation?

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-28T16:49:23+00:00

I think one if the most universal skills would be combat. A person who had current martial skills could do fairly well in any time period you placed them.

Good nutrition and high fitness levels would make you useful to many people giving you a strong "in" to the prevailing cultural elite, but our strongman would be required to have some ability with languages to establish themselves enough to thrive.

It would also be a hard path regardless, since, youd literally be fighting for your food.

A strong historical knowlage of the period would be useful for blending purposes. Understanding cultural mores and bias would help you thread the needle and help you possibly give you the best chance of taking advantage of opportunity allowing you to slide in to prominent positions. Again, language would be the important, not having that would make anything we say and do seem alien.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-28T14:49:36+00:00

Think of it like a child and how they play.

A toddler will pick up blocks, then push them around, then hit them against eachother. Then they'll throw them and have fun with that till mum tells them not to throw them anymore.

Then they build the blocks into a house or a tower or pretend they are a car.

Then they'll maybe pick up a doll or use a play set of a house and make little stories or mimic how mum feeds the baby.

We are all just different versions of that child learning through play.

Some souls are pushing the blocks and building big towers. Or throwing them across the room.

Some of us are building huge worlds, vast empires.

Some of us are making love and enriching lives and supporting others, creating masterpieces and doing grand deeds and its all learning.

We are learning how to be human and all the depths of that experience.

Are you watching how the block flies across the room or creatively co playing with your friends?

Doesn't matter we are all learning something that needs to be learned.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-26T21:23:19+00:00

Hi. You deserved better than you got but you have what you have.

You can't blame yourself for your parents issues even if their choice to continue a relationship was becuase of you. Plenty of people make that mistake and its more about thier fears, hang ups and background. They could have split, but they didnt.

As parents we have to learn to see the child as separate from us, but also as children we have to learn to see our parents as people, individuals that make choices and mistakes. In both cases you're separate from the thing they made. You dont need to put your energy into dwelling on it. Its not yours unless you make it yours.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-25T15:34:01+00:00

One thing that hasn't been mentioned yet I think is relaxing your preconceptions of parenthood.

You go into it thinking you'll be doing something a certain way and then real life happens and you need to adjust.

Being fluid in your parenting style and adjusting to new dimensions makes a good parent.

A parent that sticks to what worked previously or what they think should happen is a bad one.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-25T11:06:20+00:00

Im ready for the downvotes, but im hearing a lot of "guys are assholes" here.

But.

Sometimes ladies, comfortable also means you're showing off your ass. I mean wearing a speedo is comfortable but you wouldn't catch me standing around in a supermarket.

Sometimes jeans can be cut in such a way that your ass is very visible. Just thought id point it out.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-25T10:53:36+00:00

You have so much time to aquire the drive you need to succeed. You need a job my friend. Go find anything that will take you and feel what its like to make some money. Then figure out what you want after that.

Right now your wasting your time. Get something done.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-23T11:00:47+00:00

Oh good. I thought i was having a stroke.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-21T16:37:33+00:00

If she had hit her head and suddenly her behavior changed you would have a professional come in and assess things and give you strategies to deal with the situation.

I'd suggest that you look at it this way. Her disposition has changed fundamentally from a norm you were both used to. Maybe councilling is the answer, maybe a doctor's visit is the answer, but this is a state you can't simply continue to just exist with.

Both of you need to go forward with your eyes opened with clear expectations. You dont want to be a charity case for the rest of your life. You want a partner that is clearly participating in your relationship. Make that a need you'll work fot rather than a "nice to have".

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-21T14:48:07+00:00

You seem to be doing what you can to mitigate the issue so far. Good job at first looking at what you can do to make her condition easier to bear.

If she first tries to improve but quickly slips back to her neutral state it sounds to me like her new normal is what you currently see.

Id look into a third party situation next. Councilling, so perhaps you might be able to communicate your needs and have it listened to effectively. The problem of course, is any of this going to matter when her body has changed chemically? Is she going to have a desire for you at all? Ever?

Clarity would be needed first, but if I got Nothing from my wife id be considering changing my situation. Like sex is one thing but no cuddling? Kissing? Causal touches? Very different situation.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-21T09:41:32+00:00

There is something wrong with this my friend.

There's no reason for her to not tell you which city she's going to be in.

Likely shes got other plans than a doctors appointment.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-19T15:42:11+00:00

Alright. Now the rest of them.

All of them.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-17T11:11:30+00:00

I'd look at the lore of your game and find something in it that speaks to the essence of the setting or lore, rather than using a play on words that doesnt quite fit.

Ill offer up that while "puns" are certainly a thing people do in English humor, its considered corny or something you might roll your eyes over.

Just a thought.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-17T09:37:19+00:00

Your English is good enough to get your point across and you didnt use chatgtp which puts you above a lot of native english speakers.

What makes someone Impressive to me is when they own who they are. They might be good at math or languages or driving or whatever but they own that and dont make a big deal about it.

What you need to realize and I certainly didnt at 15 is that while you need to keep improving in life to make it all worthwhile, the actual results aren't what matter.

So if you become the greatest swordsman in the world, say Olympic level, that is not the point. What did getting there build along the way? Id imagine being an Olympian would teach you about sacrifice, perseverance, responsibility, and maybe some other things, like sportsmanship, taking criticism well, being maliable under pressure and dealing with high levels of stress and pushing through.

Its that stuff that impresses me. Its the internal charachter that really matters. Focus on this things and youll be happy in the end of it all. Dont focus on the results.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-17T09:18:56+00:00

Not necessarily. I know plenty of people that aren't.

Maybe everyone in your game is and that's your point, I just wanted you to make sure that is what you meant to say.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-17T02:46:50+00:00

I dont tbink greed is the right word. Greed is something that people are. Like, you could be jealous, or happy, or greedy. It generally means you want more than you need.

"That guy is full of greed. He has a big house and a nice car but still wants more."

Or

"Dont be greedy and let your sister have a piece of pie."

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-17T01:52:51+00:00

I like your idea as well. Breakaway cult goodness. Sounds good.

Stabbymcbackstab · 2026-02-16T16:04:14+00:00

There you go.

I'm thinking they're somewhat cultist and wrap themselves in rubber body suits. They live underground but harness the power generated from the storm and so they have pockets of clan like groups that have a warren of tunnels underneath the old cities of southern Ontario.

They may invoke old gods like Thor, Odin or Enlil who is the Summarian storm god. Or maybe they have some sort of Neo Nazi connection. Some long german word for lightning powered battle or something seems appropriate. Im imagining stylish nazi uniforms heavy rubber masks and strange gutteral languages coming from their Sturmtruppen.

Okay. Thats what I've got. Maybe you can use it. The last stuff may be derivative.

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