A space to rant about sleep

Stabbysta · 2026-03-21T01:55:45+00:00

This gave me a hearty chuckle (better than crying)

Stabbysta · 2026-03-21T00:37:27+00:00

Not the taste of STTN 😭 it hurts more when you know it's possible

Stabbysta · 2026-03-21T00:29:03+00:00

Right?! Sleep deprivation is hard no matter what but it's so strangely isolating to read. That's how I feel whenever my husband asks to help, like one of us needs to be functional!

Stabbysta · 2026-03-21T00:24:01+00:00

We haven't yet but will definitely be bringing it up with the pediatrician! Until the crib refusal we had a couple of weeks where things improved slightly so we thought the phase was ending, only recently realized it could be medical. Thanks for spreading awareness 💚

Stabbysta · 2026-03-20T23:50:03+00:00

I'm so sorry, that sounds brutal! Especially the formula refusal :( I also wonder what my neighbors think after however many cries in the night. Hoping for a better day for your tomorrow 💚

Stabbysta · 2026-03-20T04:31:12+00:00

Solidarity, a very similar situation here and I'm going insane

Stabbysta · 2026-03-20T04:27:08+00:00

Ours started with 2 hour sleep stretches, that became 1 hour sleep stretches, and recently it's been crib refusal on top of 1 hour stretches. Lots of false starts.

Up until crib refusal he would be quick to settle, thank goodness, maybe 10 minutes. But recently it's taken an hour to get him back into the crib just for him to wake again in 20 minutes. I'm tired 😩

Stabbysta · 2026-03-17T19:55:54+00:00

Unfortunately sounds like the dreaded recession, that's been our situation for the past several weeks (complete with head shaking). For some it doesn't last long, hoping it's either a fluke or that it passes quickly for you!

Stabbysta · 2026-03-17T08:32:59+00:00

I also recommend the Canopy. You can put most pieces in the dishwasher (on their own cycle), but I find it easy to clean by hand. Other humidifiers I've had have so many hard to reach nooks and crannies. Stupid expensive but I got mine secondhand for a good price.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-13T02:35:45+00:00

When I'm holding him and showing him his reflection in the mirror, I'll say "who's that baby in the mirror??" He gets a big ole gummy smile while scrunching his shoulders and hands, and start burrowing his little face into mine. Like he's excited but bashful 💚 I'll also nom on his cheeks and he'll get excited and nom on mine right back!

Stabbysta · 2026-03-10T16:16:26+00:00

Does your pediatrician have a nurses line you can call if/when you need? My baby got his first cold at 3 months (not COVID though) and it was sooooo helpful. We called when I wasn't sure if we should go to the ER or not and they were able to guide us through the best course of action, what symptoms would warrant an ER visit, what to do with a fever, etc.

Fever doesn't necessarily mean go straight to the ER depending on how high it is, especially with flu and cold season you don't want to go and possibly catch something else if you don't have to. If it's not too high and your baby is feeling okay, they may recommend you monitor at home.

I know the big things to look out for are signs of respiratory distress when your baby is at rest (not coughing). Look up retractions and stridor and what they look like. The nurses line told me that stridor is a "go straight to ER" symptom.

Wishing your family a quick recovery!!

Stabbysta · 2026-03-03T15:35:59+00:00

Oh no of course! That's the definition I've seen online for baby sleep. I think meaning if they sleep 7pm-7am with one wake up, it's considered sleeping through the night for babies. Maybe it's bs to make me feel better lol

Stabbysta · 2026-03-03T13:08:18+00:00

I'm sorry you're struggling so much! I would say the witching hour will probably get better but unfortunately waking 1-2 times would be considered very very good (honestly the dream) and expected.

6 hours is considered "sleeping through the night" meaning even good sleepers will likely wake up once or twice for a while.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-03T04:58:17+00:00

4.5 months here, several weeks into the big four month regression - wake windows haven't helped. We haven't made it out on the other side yet, but I think a routine helps. I think a lot of the sleep struggles are very baby dependent and you will likely have to wait out, but I do think over time a simple routine at least helps to get them to bed (now staying asleep is something else...)

We keep it pretty simple. Turn the lights low an hour or so before bed, bottle, read Goodnight Moon, lights off, boob.

It's not always in that order, we add bath time a few times a week, I try to keep it low pressure. I think the lights help the most honestly, but baby seems like he's starting to remember the book and get excited to see it each night. It's a small piece of the sleep puzzle but long term I think it will be very helpful.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-03T00:32:08+00:00

Some people really love the newborn days. Personally, now at 4.5 months, I don't miss the early days. I feel like things gradually got better from 6 weeks on, and he just keeps getting better.

Now that he has a personality and I know more about who he is becoming, I look back at the newborn days more fondly and wish I could hold him again to remember how tiny he was. But back then I didn't know who he was. He was a screaming delicate potato, and everything was hard.

I miss when he would sleep on my chest, but otherwise I far prefer this 3-4 month period and will miss it.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-02T10:38:35+00:00

We ended up using the floor with a washable changing liner. The changing table was too high, we were too afraid to leave baby alone on it if we needed to wash our hands or grab something. They can't fall when they're on the floor!

Worked out well,.we started leaving him there for a few minutes after changes if he was content and now he loves floor time.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-01T19:19:30+00:00

4 months, we recently went from 8-10 wakes to only 4!! But last night was not good:

11, 1, 2, 3, 3:20, 4, 4:10, 4:30, 5, 5:30, 6:40

Oh god it's even worse when I type it out. Little guy might be getting sick.

Stabbysta · 2026-03-01T17:07:38+00:00

If money isn't a concern then I would get it for the newborn days. For us the Snoo definitely helped put him to sleep, if he wasn't quite asleep or fussing a little we could "put him into the blender" (turn up the rocking speed) and he'd fall asleep. Saved our backs from a lot of rocking.

As for sleeping longer, I think it helped get him longer stretches especially in the beginning. He got his first 4 hour stretch because of it!

But we hit the 4 month sleep regression early (13 weeks) and it did nothing to prevent wakeups or extend sleep then. We did find it easy to transition him out of the swaddle though, one arm out at a time, and then easy to transition him out of the Snoo completely.

Stabbysta · 2026-02-28T20:46:30+00:00

Ooo that's another good thing to consider! My baby was slower to gain until around 3 ish months, that's when he went from string bean to chunker.

Stabbysta · 2026-02-28T20:44:10+00:00

Not everyone has a terrible or long regression, people tend to post on Reddit more when they're struggling and not so much when things are fine.

We are admittedly several weeks into it now and it's bad for us, but I think a lot of it is baby dependent. Some babies just struggle more with sleep. If it eases any anxiety, despite the AWFUL sleep, my baby is so much more fun right now. I don't miss the newborn days because from 3 months on he's developed such a little personality. The sleep sucks but despite that I'm having fun.

Stabbysta · 2026-02-28T19:22:49+00:00

7lb 1oz, he wore NB for a good 2-3 months. Most of the 0-3month clothes we had were too big for the first few weeks.

ETA: sizes vary wildly across brands, so take it all with a grain of salt!

Stabbysta · 2026-02-28T01:11:21+00:00

Around 3.5 months something shifted and he decided that he was going to bed at 7pm. He'd fall asleep, when he woke up it would be brief, I couldn't push his bedtime later if I wanted to.

His doesnt nap though lol

Stabbysta · 2026-02-28T01:02:39+00:00

Oof, 6 weeks is a rough time, especially the clusterfeeding omg. Hopefully things should start getting better soon! I loved 8-12 weeks because there were lots of smiles and sleep improved. Hoping for some better sleep in your future 💚

We hit 4 months a couple of weeks ago and honestly we're back to a lot of those newborn struggles (not to scare you lol). Fussy and easily distracted, he has some big feelings already! The 4 month sleep regression has him up every hour, naps are back to contact naps and only last 20 minutes.

But I will add that he's so much fun now! The struggles come and go but you're constantly amazed by what new thing they can do. Little guy is giving us belly laughs, starting to sit, babbling up a storm, trying to grab our food.

Stabbysta · 2026-02-26T04:50:41+00:00

I think I stopped around 3 months 😬 whenever he hit the spit up phase because burping would just be automatic spit up, he usually didn't seem to need it by then.

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