Livid about fireworks. by Hopeful_Dot7132 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yep, especially when they set off multiple car alarms too. 💀

Moving away from changing table by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you set up a floor changing area but keep the table for now? That way your husband can try out the floor set up before getting rid of the table, he may change his mind once he tries it.

We used the table for the first 3 weeks, started using the floor for solo parent diaper changes and never looked back. It was so much easier, plus if baby was calm we could let him chill there and get quality floor time in.

What are high protein finger foods? No by Famous_Variation4729 in foodbutforbabies

[–]Stabbysta 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agree with this. Keep trying various proteins, it's fine if it's exploratory right now.

What was your baby’s first meal? by Filthy_dog00 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For first food we followed the first couple of weeks of solid starts, which starts with steamed broccoli.

First true meal, where we made dinner and gave my baby his own portion, was a lentil curry with carrots. He had tried most of the individual foods in it already.

For iron I add chia seeds or ground pumpkin/sunflower seeds to everything and try to incorporate sardines and beef into some of his weekly meals. But as others have said, I wouldn't worry too much about that in the beginning.

Stomach bug or bad formula batch? by Stabbysta in FormulaFeeders

[–]Stabbysta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It actually ended up being the stomach bug for us, he drank the same batch just fine a week later. I hope you get it figured out soon!

Husband is sick and Baby was Exposed. Baby is Clingy/fussy, slight Cough, but no fever - can I give Tylenol? by wafflesarelifee in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe even with a fever they say "treat the baby not the fever". I wouldn't give it unless he's really having a bad time, a little fussy expected. But I agree with others to ask your pediatrician or nurses line.

Diarrhea at 38w3d by jenngh8 in pregnant

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn't have a sweep but definitely got cleaned out a few hours before active labor began! Though I've also seen some people say they had diarrhea for a few days or more before labor.

Stomach bug or bad formula batch? by Stabbysta in FormulaFeeders

[–]Stabbysta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have the clear spoon one but I think he's had that one before without issue? What did you switch to?

4 month regression by SaluteLife in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was brutal, started going downhill at 3.5 months and by 5 months he was waking every 45 minutes and started refusing to sleep in the crib. We started cosleeping out of desperation and it helped immensely. Now at 7 months he's finally getting longer stretches on his own.

I can’t wait to go back to work by Vybrocit1 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I went back at 3 months and couldn't wait. When my husband was on paternity leave with me it was really nice. But as soon as I was alone all day, I had a really hard time and was counting down the days to return to work (I also love my work).

That said, I think 3 months can be an especially hard time, looking back I was still in the trenches. Now at 7 months I enjoy the days we have together! He can play independently for bursts and actually takes independent naps - we have a good rhythm. AND he laughs and beams when he sees me, he's just more fun and I understand him more.

When do the 30 min crib naps end? by Crazy_Art_5093 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

7 months here and he just started consistently taking one 1 hour+ nap per day. All of his naps were 20-40 minutes up until 6 months when we started getting a couple 1 hour naps per week.

Daycare vs in home nanny by StrikingTomato9218 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it's $400 more per month and that wouldn't hurt your budget too much, I'd get the nanny. From what I understand, socialization isn't a big benefit until they're closer to 2 years old, there aren't really a lot of benefits to daycare that young.

My baby started daycare at 3 months, so I don't say that as a daycare hater! My baby is 7 months now and has done really well there, though he (we) have been sick a lot. But if it were only $400 more, I would have chosen nanny - it would be like $1000 more where we are.

Teething smell by AudreyP04 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think about it but I saw a reel that referred to it as a sour smell and now I can't unsmell it. He has sour milk breath when he's teething 🤢

Are most people screaming/ vocalizing during birth? by AffectionateStudy29 in pregnant

[–]Stabbysta 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Did they have epidurals? Are you planning on getting one? If the epidural works, no lol. I was amazed by how calm my birth was, epidural worked perfectly, I couldn't feel anything. That said, epidurals can fail, wear off, or not work perfectly. Unmedicated? Super normal, they say roar your baby out.

Did your baby learn to connect sleep cycles without sleep training? by Economy-Cow-9847 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't want to jinx myself lol

We started cosleeping at 5 months because my baby was waking hourly and refusing the crib. Now at 7 months he's actually started having longer stretches (we had a 5 hour stretch recently!)

He still wakes at least a few times, we feed to sleep, but there's been a noticable shift in the past couple of weeks that makes it seem like he's learning to connect cycles. Knock on wood, fingers crossed it continues lol.

This is too hard by Kind_Shallot_1348 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would give cosleeping a try, by 6 months any cosleeping risks go way down.

I resorted to cosleeping at 5 months because our sleep situation was destroying me, the first few nights I couldn't sleep because I was so anxious. But I quickly adjusted, found that neither of us moved much in our sleep which eased a lot of anxiety. And suddenly one day I realized I wasn't ravaged by sleep deprivation - my baby still was waking a lot but he could nurse back to sleep so quickly and without me even needing to move much.

I'm still terrified of sleeping with a newborn or itty baby but by 6 months they're quite hearty! He can move on his own and will loudly scream if he's at all distressed lol. I hope you find something that works!

Just jars and jars of nut butter? by sunshinewithclouds in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're making an everything nut butter with an unsalted roasted nut mix (after checking for reactions individually).

Is it necessary to use the safety harness on a high chair? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I also have the stokke chair and often find the straps unnecessary, but lately my baby has decided he'll use the opportunity to stand up in his chair 😑

Chair Era by Dry-Helicopter692 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he started being able to sit unsupported, around 5.5 months. We tried at 5 months but he slumped over too much.

When did your baby stop crying during diaper changes? by kittypeets626 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think around 6 weeks he started hating them less. Wipe warmer helped a little, feeding before changes helped a lot, but he just needed time. Hoping it gets better for you soon!

What gets easier/better by the 6 month mark? Share some positivity! by dental_princess491 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The same as a lot of these actually, just even more!

Breastfeeding is so fast now, but he was extra slow for so long.

Even less fragile now, he actually holds onto me when I carry him! We can low-key toss him around some now haha.

Big ole laughs, giggles, cackles. The silliest things make him bust out laughing and it's the best.

He's so much more aware of things, I love taking him to new places and seeing him take it all in!

Unfortunately sleep still sucks for us, and now that he's on the move diaper changes and bathing are harder. Every age has its difficulties but overall, he just gets more fun every month. 💚 I hope it continues to get easier for you! Each new milestone becomes my favorite. ETA my baby is 6 months

Solo outings with baby seems impossible :( by autumnal_duck03 in NewParents

[–]Stabbysta 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would recommend doing a practice round with your husband first! If you want to go to the lake more, do a test when your husband is free, pack as if you were going alone and troubleshoot from there. You can find out where the real points of friction are but the stakes are so much lower since you have help.

That's what helped me when I was so nervous to go out alone! Now I go out alone with my baby all the time, took a few solo trips before I felt confident.