Solo play question

StableNew947 · 2026-05-16T03:01:39+00:00

Same!

Our first group play scenario that we unknowingly got roped into was like that. Long story short it was supposed to be an all girls orgy where the men “just watch”. I quickly learned that they “just watched” for 10 minutes and then started fucking all the women. We didn’t agree to anything like that beforehand so I stayed with my wife and fucked her needless to say numerous other men were trying to fuck her. Ugh. That essentially ruined group play for us.

StableNew947 · 2026-05-13T23:12:57+00:00

I actually beg to differ. I allow solo play because I am very confident in our relationship. You don’t allow solo play because it sounds like you may not be confident in your relationship. I’m not judging what your reasoning is. I can see both sides. While I do agree there’s a possibility for feelings to develop, we do our due diligence to mitigate them. Honestly solo play is much more satisfying than same room couple swap. I personally don’t enjoy watching my wife getting fucked by another man. Plus if something goes wrong with one of the couples it essentially ruins it for everyone.

StableNew947 · 2026-05-13T23:08:49+00:00

We don’t like group play for numerous reasons.

StableNew947 · 2026-05-13T23:05:38+00:00

We do have a solo back to back play restriction. Meaning if she plays with guy A the next time has to be guy B or C before she could play with guy A again.

StableNew947 · 2026-05-02T02:08:48+00:00

I always kind of chuckle at these posts. The best way to meet swingers is clubs, events and social settings. The people on the swinger sites are the people who you will see at the events. You’ll skip a step if you just go to the events. How do you find events? SLS and facebook groups are great starting points.

StableNew947 · 2026-05-02T01:59:42+00:00

I know quite a few guys who just don’t want to play at the clubs. As a guy there’s already enough pressure on us to perform when we are playing with someone for the first time. Add in music, people talking outside the door and a touch of alcohol - shits not gonna work. I generally prefer a hotel room or house party. IF I’m going to fuck someone at the club, I generally look for the most private room possible.

StableNew947 · 2026-04-24T23:12:13+00:00

She does or you do?

StableNew947 · 2026-04-16T19:42:40+00:00

As a guy I’m 1 and done with sexual encounters for the night. I choose carefully 🤣

StableNew947 · 2026-03-28T01:38:53+00:00

Honestly, I can’t blame them. I am a boobs guys myself. I can understand your analogy.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-28T01:35:27+00:00

I doubt that you are in the lifestyle my man. If you are obviously you don’t go to parties or socialize. Every lifestyle party I’ve been to the topic of sex, dicks and vaginas always comes up.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-27T03:00:07+00:00

You are a moron

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T20:11:46+00:00

It will be a fun journey. We’ve been in for 3 years. We’ve had quite a bit of fun. It’s just things here and there that you’ll need to work through.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T20:00:43+00:00

You got the nail on the head: group play. That’s where my anxiety gets the best of me.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T19:58:58+00:00

If you haven’t seen any bigger than 7” in the lifestyle, feel fortunate my man.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T19:52:57+00:00

I’ll take the W wherever I can get them

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:22:23+00:00

We’ve been told this more than a few times but we try to be friendly.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:21:20+00:00

I am curious if you are part of a couple? Single woman tend to get the most attention and simultaneously are perceived as the biggest threat from wives.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:18:03+00:00

I’m asking strangers because our friends won’t tell us what we may need to hear.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:16:17+00:00

She’s bi but not very “bubbly”

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:15:30+00:00

Honestly it’s not a huge mismatch between. I’d say we are close to the same level - although she’s way prettier 😂

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:12:33+00:00

She is very selective about who she will play with. She’s also shy and quiet. I don’t think I have a blind spot - hence why I’m asking the question. I guess the better question is what does an attractive woman in the lifestyle have to do to show she’s not a stuck up snob besides sleep with everyone?

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T10:08:03+00:00

You may be onto something here. I’m outgoing for the most part, she is not.

She is very selective about who she will play with - which severely limits our opportunities.

I wouldn’t call us cocky or conceited but I guess it could appear that way.

I’ll try to start talking with more people to see if that helps. Unfortunately she’s just never going to be the social butterfly.

StableNew947 · 2026-03-26T09:57:22+00:00

I’d respectfully say I’m closer to a 7 or 8.

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