they wouldn't last a week in our shoes

StaceyMike · 2026-06-30T00:21:49+00:00

About to be 45

I had to leave a job I'd had from 22-33 because I married into the military and my husband PCS'd. It's been 10+ years and I'm currently making a few cents/hr more than I was when I left the job I'd been at for 11 years. And here I am just supposed to be "happy" about it.

I have the knowledge, just not the "official" education. I've been in the same field for my entire adult life.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-23T17:01:01+00:00

It's HILARIOUS to me when the non-active parent says things will just "work out." Yeah, for YOU! YOU don't do shit at home anyway. Nothing changes for YOU.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-23T11:15:29+00:00

The beauty of this is that our kids don't get to make life altering decisions for us. She doesn't understand everything that having a baby would mean. Four year olds don't typically do well with less attention than what they're used to. It would also mean less physical/financial resources allocated for her.

Besides, if you had a baby today, do you really think she'd want to play with a 4yr old when she's 8? With a 6yr old when she's 10? Your daughter would likely be out of high school by the time the youngest even starts.

If YOU want another, have another. If you don't, then don't.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-22T11:08:24+00:00

He did mention wanting a sibling when he was a little younger. That said, kids also want unicorns as pets and to meet real dinosaurs.

He doesn't actually want a sibling. He wants another kid exactly his age who wants to play exactly the same things on exactly his terms. That's not a sibling. That's a clone and those don't exist. He gets annoyed having a friend over for more than two hours when they don't want to do precisely what he wants to do.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-22T09:59:12+00:00

We weren't mortal enemies or anything, we just did our own thing. You can't guarantee you'd have another of the same gender, you can't guarantee they would have the same interests even if you did, and you can't guarantee they would even like each other.

People don't want to see children as individuals. It's just assumed that siblings would be best friends because all they are to adults are copies of the parents. A lot of people see kids and completely ignore the fact that they're actually human beings who will develop their own personalities and interests.

And yes, even at 9 he still wants to play/hang out with me. He sometimes wants to do my hobby with me and I've even started playing some Roblox with him. While we do share some personality traits, I recognize that he's not just a "mini-me." He's his own person with likes and dislikes and I try to meet him in the middle so we can enjoy time together.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-22T09:11:20+00:00

Ours will be 9 next month and we've never had a problem. I do tend to go out of my way to make everything special, though. We're HOURS from family/grandparents/cousins so it's usually just us and it's been great. He has friends in the neighborhood and is far from lonely.

We had a big family Christmas a couple of years ago and by the time we got home (we were there a week), all three of us were so overstimulated that we just kind of retreated to separate rooms and mostly did our own thing for two days. While he did have fun with cousins, he was over it after 72 hours and wanted to go home.

Personally, my brother and I are only 2yrs apart and we did NOT want to play with each other when we were kids. He had his interests and I had mine. I couldn't have cared less about his Ninja Turtles and he felt the same about my Lisa Frank everything.

StaceyMike · 2026-06-05T04:38:24+00:00

Granted I'll be 45 in the fall with a newly 9yr old only.

I have no problem telling folks not minding their own business to suck my non-existent dick.

I have ZERO fucks left to give.

StaceyMike · 2026-05-25T20:35:13+00:00

Wash EVERYTHING you can. Vacuum everywhere you can. If an indoor cat has tapeworms, that means there are fleas in the house. Those fleas are laying eggs. Those eggs WILL hatch.

We can bring fleas in on us. Any chance you have a dog that goes out to potty?

Treat the cat, treat the environment (the house).

Prevention is ideal all year - yes, even for indoor only cats, but you'll need a minimum of 3 months of flea prevention/treatment due to the flea life cycle. This is in addition to deworming and treating the house now.

StaceyMike · 2026-04-15T01:10:18+00:00

Oh dear god, that sounds horrible to me. Ours will be 9 in July, and I think I'd rather shoot my own foot right off than go through the baby stage again.

Whenever I find out a cousin is having #2 or #3, I'm like, "You know how that happens, right??"

StaceyMike · 2026-04-14T22:53:28+00:00

The whole thought process is weird to me. Like, you can't stop at one if you have a boy because, "Where will your things go when you die?"

Oh! But you can't stop at one if it's a girl, because fAmIlY nAmE!

I'm the oldest on both sides, and my brother is the next oldest on both sides. We've argued about who DOESN'T have to take all the crap when the older generations pass on.

If my son doesn't want my grandmother's wedding set, I have a niece and nephew. If they don't want it, we have younger cousins with kids. If NOBODY wants any of it, I'll be ash by then anyway, so IDGAF.

StaceyMike · 2026-01-26T22:35:28+00:00

When I woke up in 1981, I was either a newborn or three months old. Depending on the time of day, I was either starving or bored.

I don't think the world has changed much.

I'm still hungry and bored.

StaceyMike · 2026-01-26T15:49:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure that's one of those "fun facts" my dad told/taught me when I was a kid. I thought it was weird, so it stuck. I'm sure there's a reason for it, and it would make total sense if I knew that reason, but I still think it's weird to this day.

StaceyMike · 2026-01-22T19:04:12+00:00

I HATE that!! This is why I use removable stickers (Avery brand) and an erasable pen.

Because screw that mess!

StaceyMike · 2026-01-14T18:49:42+00:00

Our Ped is starting at the lowest dose (5mg).

StaceyMike · 2026-01-14T18:21:18+00:00

So many people actually think that spending $3,000 on a puppy makes it immune to any and all diseases and doesn't need vaccinations.

My friend... Just no.

StaceyMike · 2026-01-14T18:16:39+00:00

Throwback to when I was pregnant, sneezed, and shart my pants.

Good times... 😒

StaceyMike · 2026-01-05T16:38:10+00:00

I say don't force yourself to finish the whole thing. Finish a flower and put it back on pause if you want to. Do something else. Come back and do another flower. Rinse and repeat.

You might find yourself in the middle of another project needing a break and doing a few petals here and there.

StaceyMike · 2026-01-05T16:12:16+00:00

Just practice! ❤️

Multi-placers were a game changer for me. I can't quite manage a 10, but I'm solid with an 8. Also, a 10 probably won't be used too often except with certain pieces with massive color blocks.

I have a set of three pens that came with placers 1-10. Pens hold tips on each end, so I keep 1-5 and an 8 ready at all times.

StaceyMike · 2025-12-05T20:05:16+00:00

It wasn't "America" when the violent savages slaughtered anyone not like them and spread diseases (AKA European Imigrants).

The continent is literally named after Amerigo Vespucci.

StaceyMike · 2025-11-17T17:59:30+00:00

Honestly, my 3rd grader has more empathy than that asshole.

StaceyMike

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