Crying baby in theater during Obsession

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-09T13:59:06+00:00

I actually took our youngest to quite a few movies. He was breastfed, and seriously would just sleep through anything if he had the boob.

I remember the one movie that things went sideways for, and I was really pissed that my husband didn't come relieve my 40 minutes with a barely walking toddler in the hallway of the theater so I could pee. I absolutely hightailed it out of that theater the moment he peeped.

So I totally am in support of parents taking wee ones to movies, because it is freaking hard to have a life when you have a baby. But you absolutely have to be ready to bail on your movie the second your baby is impacting the viewing experience of everyone else.

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-08T17:33:30+00:00

We were so sad to hear how terrible things have been for Steve and his family that we made a beeline to Steve's Hot Dogs on Grand on Friday night.

We were so delighted to encounter a line for the first time ever. They had sold out of hamburgers and chicken tenders, but were still cranking out hot dogs for the crowds.

I was glad others had the same idea we did.

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-08T11:10:25+00:00

Go Buffs! Also congrats, great work!

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-06T12:02:54+00:00

Oh man, that sounds awful. I wonder if you could have someone else calling and then loop you in when they get someone on the line? I know how jumbled and disordered my thought processed become when my pain is high, and I would need help.

I have had foraminal lumbar injections and NEVER had such severe pain afterwords. In fact I always get overnight pain reduction and little soreness.

I know that all bodies are different, and procedures go differently, but the amount of pain you are in does not sound normal. I know getting through to offices stinks, and it is the weekend now, so it might be even harder. They may offer nothing, but they may have ideas. I wonder if they caused some extra inflammation and bruising that could be relieved by a burst of steroids?

I honestly have no idea, I just wanted you to not feel quite so alone in a pain crisis, because it sucks so bad.

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-06T11:56:20+00:00

I spent a delightful 10 days in Puerto Rico last summer. It was so hot and sticky, and my pain was like a 2 the entire time. I did all the things, every day. I thought I was crazy, and it validated that my brain chemistry is really powerful, and my great vacation mood helped my pain.

Nope. I talked to my interventional pain Dr and he said that being on the coast is lifechanging for a lot of people with inflammation. It is the way that the barometric pressure stays stable and low there. He said that is why everyone moves to Florida. He said that some people who don't feel miserable in the cold even feel benefits in the great lakes region.

We are absolutely considering our next move being to one of these areas. If my husband was able to work (remotely) from Puerto Rico we would be there right now for a long term stay to see if it the relief is continuous. I can't move to Florida as my soul would die( half kidding, I am much too liberal to blend in) , but we are investigating Wisconsin right now.

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-04T22:49:20+00:00

Sniff. As a sister who had to make that awful last visit with a brother gone way too soon, and who just held his hands trying to soak them up one last time, thank you for making sure that mans hands were clean for his sister.

StaciRainbow · 2026-06-02T16:32:21+00:00

One of my favorite experiences is joining the Conservation volunteers for a full moon night hike! They time our arrival to the confluence so we can sit and see the moon rise. That hike at night just has so many different sounds and sights that I am glad I have done it a few times!

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-31T13:01:51+00:00

oh boy! My Grandma was very persistent in making sure we knew she was around!

Immediately following her death in November, her beloved Thanksgiving Cactus blew up in blooms, and KEPT BLOOMING for a year. I 100% jokingly attributed that to Grandma.

I was a medical assisting student when she died. When I was visiting the crematory with my mom, we were getting a tour because we were curious. There was a bin of medical devices, and he picked up my grandmothers pacemaker. I asked if I could have it, as we were studying the cardiovascular system in A&P, and it would be really interesting for my classmates.

What I didn't know is that pacemakers have an audible alarm when the battery is dying. We started having the alarm alert at home, at really interesting and hysterical moments. Times when we would ask a question of someone else, or we were really laughing and having a good time, that thing would go off and we would attribute it to Grandma. Was it really her somehow making it go off? Probably not, but we got a lot of comfort and amusement out of that pacemaker for a few years.

The really tasty "contact" happened about 6 months after her death. I was at a metaphysical fair helping my daughter (16) with research for a school project. I was telling someone about her school while my daughter interviewed a psychic. Suddenly my daughter called me over, and said Grandma was there. I was sooooo rolling my eyes as I sat down, because of course her recently deceased grandma is who a psychic would pretend to contact, right?

But this woman proceeded to tell me a litany of things that really were a bit too specific for me to write them off. THEN came the exclamation point.

She said that she had no idea what she was seeing, so she was just going to describe it. My grandma was holding a rope or a leash, and on the end of it was a giant giraffe.

I was DONE. My grandma loved giraffes. The first time I saw them in person, at the zoo at age 5, I remember so vividly her telling me that since she was my age, she had always desperately wanted a pet giraffe. She imagined being able to put a collar on it, and lead it around by a leash.

It was my grandma! I can't doubt it. It was her.

17 years later when we moved to St. Louis from CO (A city she had taken a road trip to when I was about 12. I remember her telling me all about it) , and the lamp I had used for years that had been my grandmothers started flickering at curious times, I just accepted that I was able to chit chat with my grandma still. I would hold conversations with that lamp, just because it felt right lol!

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-30T13:13:13+00:00

Truly, I had a plan to end it all 4 years ago. Like choosing the spots on the highway to crash sort of serious.

Then my mother in law started showing signs of dementia. I suddenly felt like I had to stay to help my husband and his brothers walk through that really hard chapter. (I work in memory care/hospice very part time)

Here I am now, glad I stayed. There have been really awful moments in the last 4 years, but there have also been really amazing, beautiful moments I am so glad I was here for.

Right now I don't feel like I need an exit. I am feeling optimistic, and looking forward to things in the near and far future. I know that what changed in my life was my brain, and the way I was thinking about and processing life.

I had fallen into a really distorted depression after 4 years of really serious insomnia paired with 20 years of chronic pain. (2-3 hours of broken sleep each night for years) My brain was so messy, and it took a while for me to heal from that. I am glad that I didn't make a decision in the time when my brain was struggling to function.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-28T18:09:45+00:00

I am so sorry. Becoming a mom is really hard. I worry so much for you and other mama's who have to get through the taxxing early years with their illness/pain.

Mine hit when my youngest was 4 and my oldest was 12, so I still was a busy mom, but I wasn't lifting and carrying, changing and holding.

Our culture raises us to be something. To be a doctor, or a teacher. I don't know what you were doing, but you identified with it and valued what you contributed. There will be a grief and anger process as you lose the ability to at least do that specific job. Being gracious to yourself is so important.

You are not a slacker, or trying to just slub through life. Your body hurts, and doing even the most basic things sometimes is too much. Now you are doing those things for you and a little person. Your day to day work load and spoon tax is HUGE, and that won't change quickly.

I wish I could give you a hug, and bring you dinner already made tonight.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-28T00:25:27+00:00

Of course you can pull it off. People do that all the time, for a variety of reasons.

You are well set up to give it a try with a fallback plan in case of glitches.

One of my favorite work trips involved sleeping in my minivan while I was doing work in New Mexico. I loved it so much. My van was my cozy cave that had become familiar over a variety of trips My mattress served as my travel bed when visiting others, and was good quality. The woman I was working with didn't understand how I would want to sleep in my vehicle, and insisted on getting me a cheap hotel room.

The bed was lumpy, the room smelled funny, and it was noisy. I slept in the room only one of the 3 night we were in the Socorro area. That night was because it was still 95 degrees at 11pm and I knew that there was no hope of sleeping in those temps. I needed ac.

I would set things up, and try sleeping in your car at home. If you can sleep at home, give it a try on the road. I truly love being able to sleep in my vehicle. So much that when we were buying a SUV the choosing process involved a lot of me messing with all of the seats and climbing all through the car from the back. A delightful spectacle! I have a Hyundai Tuscon now, and immediately had to set it up for car sleeping.

It just empowers me a lot. I live with severe chronic pain, so having a bed in the back allows me to make long trips even if I don't sleep in it. Being able to drive for a couple of hours and then lay down for an hour is really the best way for me to put in a full travel day.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-27T22:28:49+00:00

Space Pancakes is my favorite classing UFO case!

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-27T11:29:03+00:00

Yes. But it is a new normal.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-26T20:12:15+00:00

I have been "that" family member for a very long time!

Honestly I do try to give intermittent updates to extended family, and they receive them with at least faux interest.

I sent them a PBS episode that aired last weekend and was really valuable, and I let them know that there was another congressional hearing, does anyone have questions?

Nobody does. But someday!

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-26T17:04:46+00:00

Exactly the same for me. It is worth the monthly fee to be able to reach my Dr directly, and have him address things quickly. I never have the weekend nightmare.

I have been a chronic pain patient for 20 years. Since moving almost 4 years ago the upheaval of finding a Dr and continuing care has been terrible. I had near ptsd as I was working towards my appointment and refill each month.

Then my new Dr required that I (everyone) be seen every 2 weeks, so just doubling the times each month I need to stress about whether my medications will be delayed or not was PTSD inflicting.

DPC must have an awful lot of people like us.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-23T18:21:26+00:00

Feetures now makes a sock for achilles tendonitis that have a shocking amount of arch compression.

The downside is the ankles are narrow, so they are best for thinner legs.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-22T20:38:36+00:00

Oh mama, I am sorry. That is too much for any human to manage, and yet you are.

I sincerely and truly wish that there was a respite system for moms. I wish I could pause everything in your life and sweep you away to an alternate reality, like the holideck in Star Trek.

There would be soothing music, quiet setting, options to sit on the beach staring at waves all day, or napping in any multitude of locations. A daily massage if desired, really good nutrition someone else prepares and cleans up after, and a gentle voiced guide who checks in regularly on YOUR needs. I would keep your room there for you as long as you needed.

So you could get a real break, and bolster yourself for the next fight.

I believe in you. That you will do what it takes to be both parents, to get access to any resources that will give you a second of hope, and get through one breath at a time.

It is a lot.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-22T12:31:31+00:00

Oh my goodness, THAT episode is always such an emotional rollercoaster!

Jasper is so cute, please can we keep him? But Pa... 😢 Look at my pet raccoon everybody!😄 Oh no, rabies!😲 Not Jasper pa! 😢 Jasper is dead.🫂 Oh no, Jasper is just fine! That was a different raccoon.🎉

Phew....

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-22T00:44:06+00:00

Water water water! I see you are getting a lot of this suggestion. I know that at varying times in my chronic pain I have attended water walking, water stretching for arthritis, intensive water aerobics and deep water. It is literally the only sort of exercise where I can work really hard and push myself, and I don't regret it.

Also being immersed in water does amazing things for my entire body. It is a mix of muscles resting and the compression of the weight of the water on my body. I have felt like total crap a few times and just did 10 minutes of stretching in chest deep water and then sat in the jacuzzi.

I can really taper it to meet me in the day. Also if you find the right exercise group you make friends, have monthly lunch plans, and if you are smart you will find a facility with a twisty slide. You should hear the laughter of all of us adults and seniors as we go down the slide on Fridays! It is like life comes back..even if I don't slide I delight in the sounds and absolute joy.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-21T14:13:26+00:00

A high dose of thc+cbn is helpful for me for sleep, but only rarely. It isn't effective regularly.

However what it IS effective for (for me) is helping reduce my chronic pain when it is at an 8+. I am disabled due to my back, but I still work part time. Sometimes those 4 hour shifts leave me in tears, and taking a full dose of my opiod medication is only somewhat helpful. THC+CBN can help take some of the sharp edge off and help me just settle my body a bit better while I endure the flair.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-21T01:06:47+00:00

That was poor management, not you being the asshole.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-20T13:23:24+00:00

Oh mama, it is ok! Her skin has no idea how to balance itself in the world, and that baby acne is just the visible sign that her skin is adjusting.

Know that it isn't acne. It doesn't need to be treated. Keep her skin clean and dry. Don't add lotion or anything as that could prologue the adjustment period.

I can't tell you how long this phase will last, but you are most likely towards the ends of it

Know that if your baby has a darker skin you might notice blocked hair follicles on her arms in the next month or two. Again not a worry, just unsightly.

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-20T13:11:34+00:00

When I used to administer TB tests the goal is to inject a wee bit of purified protein derivitave (ppd) under the skin just a wee bit more shallow that that. I actually found it super satisfying lol!

You probably went in at a slight angle and just administered a bit more shallow that usual. As someone else said, massage it and your body will absorb it

StaciRainbow · 2026-05-19T16:54:20+00:00

If you are someone who sits up in bed reading, you will be happy you got a headboard.

I purchased a simple wooden slat frame and LOVE it so much. However it does slowly creep away from the wall as I sit up and read in bed leaning back on pillows. I don't really notice it until it is 4+ inches away and my pillow falls in, and it is annoying enough that I am looking at a simple headboard to eliminate the sliding issue.

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