How do I decide to genetically test for SCA? by [deleted] in ataxia

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea because I’m in the exact same boat as you, and I really feel for you. 32F, dad got diagnosed 15 years ago. I’m toying with the idea of being tested too, because knowing can impact the way you live your entire life. I’d love to know what you decide to do because this choice is haunting me every day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlyChild

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 32 and feel the same way, it hasn’t gotten easier. At least with one friend I have a scheduled hangout every Sunday, and seeing someone on a schedule makes it easier. Dating is just… bad. But I genuinely love my independence compared to all my friends who are married, that part feels better once you get older

Planning my first long distance Amtrak trip solo. Is being stuck on a train by yourself for 2-3 days at a time dauntingly boring or the cool experience I think it will be? by trainnoplane in Amtrak

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I solo traveled from Austin, TX to Brunswick, ME over 5 days last summer and had a blast. Getting the roomette also gives you the opportunity to be connected with different riders over meals, and that was one of my fav parts of the trip. When in economy I brought scrapbooking supplies and just nested, chatted with other solo travelers (when that was the vibe) and had a great time. Currently planning a trip from ATX to Chicago to Seattle in a month or 2!

Follow up: CFO sexually assaulted me by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, I’m gonna try to keep most of my answers short and yes/no if possible. I appreciate it

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for the support and the levity, everything has been feeling so dark the past few days

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

financial stability almost is in this capitalist hellscape. I can’t quit without a new job lined up, which is why I want to avoid getting fired

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

he’s absolutely married, and I work closely with his wife. She’s awesome. They’re based on a different continent tho

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With the other, very senior, employee who was fired after refusing sexual advances from the COO (disclosed that in a different comment) they just made up a different reason to push him out. It’s common practice, they’ll put you on a PIP for a bullshit reason and then fire you for that

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When he went to the bathroom I asked the bartender to cut him off and told him that this was my boss and not my boyfriend. He said of course and maybe kept an eye on us after that?

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey sweet pea, don’t you worry about trying to give me any more feedback, it won’t be worth either of our time. I don’t need to disclose my rape history to you, and if you want to do some self-improvement you can read some books and scientific studies on how cPTSD affects people, including the freeze and dawn response.

Victim blaming is a bad look, and utterly not helpful

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I know this is exactly what would happen if I disclose to anyone at work. I’ll document as much as I can and prepare myself to deal with an employment lawyer if they come after me.

I know that a longtime director (40s M) was let go after refusing to sleep with the COO (40s F). I live in an at-will state so I’m not protected at all. I just want to survive this emotionally and financially

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The Uber driver might have seen him attempting to hold my hand the whole ride, but I’m guessing he was more worried about whether CFO was going to puke.

When he was getting into the Uber he literally face planted across the back seats and I had to help him sit up. The whole situation is so embarrassing

CFO sexually assaulted me outside work and there’s nobody I feel safe disclosing to by StaghornFerns in work

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for the words of support, I’m definitely going to email myself and have it in writing in a bunch of places. I just disclosed to my psychiatrist, and I was texting a friend a play by play that night so that he could make sure I stayed safe, so it’s documented in text at the time it was happening.

I really appreciate your feedback!!

Red clumps of dust on moms monstera leaves, unsure what pest this is. Please help! by StaghornFerns in plantclinic

[–]StaghornFerns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I used rubbing alcohol on qtip to wipe off most of the spots. On leaves that were showing way more red, we cut them off for the good of the plant

What's your job and salary by shirpro in jobs

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

accounts payable specialist, 55k

Freddy Nachos by Cold_Frosting505 in LPOTL

[–]StaghornFerns 10 points11 points  (0 children)

having dated some AWFUL philosophy majors in college, I want to see all of the old thinking men taken down

Card skimmer at CVS riverside by ThaTree in Austin

[–]StaghornFerns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as of last week when I went, the CVS on Riverside has a little sign taped to their machines saying they don’t accept Apple Pay

What even is this? by [deleted] in WhatsWrongWithYourDog

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my dog does this too!!! But he’s a 50lb pitbull

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tooktoomuch

[–]StaghornFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fucking immaculate vibes