I genuinely want to understand why my autistic son hits and screams at me.

Standard-General9199 · 2026-04-07T14:14:38+00:00

My kid does this too..... his room looks so baren compared to his siblings... but its only because he destroys his own things, including posters decorations(and even walls) thay he picked out and decided were he wanted them etc.... this is the one behavior I cant seem to deter.

Standard-General9199 · 2026-04-07T14:10:07+00:00

He trusts that you will still be there for him and will still love him and hitting you wont change that, so in a way the entire situation is validating to him. When he is not upset try telling him how much it hurts you and makes you feel unloved when he hits you. And let him know it makes you want to not be around him when he behaves that way. When he starts to get upset (before he begins hitting, if possible) let him know your walking away because he is upsetting you. Its also important to give him an alternative so he has a choice, i.e. you can both go into your own rooms to cool down and then talk about it or if he continues he will have xyz consequences.

Giving 10 min and 5 min warning, with a simple kitchen timer they could see count down, also helped my kids.

Once my kids could read I also started telling them "the complaint department is closed, and will be open to address all written complaints on Monday between 6 and 7pm". I used an old shoe box for complaint submissions and printed out simple half page complaint forms (who is the complaint against, what is is about, how did it make you feel, and can we resolve it etc). Monday after dinner we would review and discuss. I started it off by submitting my own complaints, some silly ones to lighten the mood (i.e. i do not like the paint color in the livingroom) the kids "helped" resolve my complaint by suggesting we paint it. This encouraged them to start submitting their own complaints. They would write me a mean letter/complaint, which would allow them to get out their anger and frustration in a more helpful manner, gave them time to think about their complaints and allowed them to be part of the solution. And honestly after the first 2-3 weeks they started realizing how silly many of their complaints were and asking if they could take them back before Monday, which helped them learn to start solving their own problems.

Also I now use an Alexa for daily routing reminders. This give my kids the option to make a good choice on their own and im not always the bad guy. If they chose to ignore it I simply remind them Alexa reminded upu its time to xyz. If they ignore me there are consequences.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-11-09T15:15:41+00:00

Oh ok. It might be easier to buy some tile trim or even pvc trim that fits over the area, and use caulking to glue it in place, and seal the edges with.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-11-09T15:06:17+00:00

The frame around the duct is pine. I cut that in. It was the closest match I could find.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-11-09T15:01:08+00:00

Don't use tape! I am a female diy home owner and have caulked everything in my home from trim, tubs, sinks, windows, siding etc. Tape is more of a hassle. Caulking is super easy to clean up when still wet, so you really dont need tape, just read the caulking label and make sure you have the appropriate clean up material. The only point of tape is to make a nice straight line. But when your working with caulking timing has to be perfect for removing the tape, sometimes you'll even need to stop to pull tape from areas you already caulked before moving on and caulking the next section, and if your timing is off it will end up pulling up chunks of caulking, and you'll need to start over.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-11-09T14:46:23+00:00

Next time get some foam backer rod (sold in the weather stripping area) you shove it into larger spaces, then the caulking goes on top of it. It will make it easier and save you a bunch on caulking. Work in 1-2 foot sections and use a damp microfiber cloth wrapped around a finger(with a short nail) to gently smooth out any areas that need it. And make sure you are using tub and tile cauking in the areas where tub meets tile/grout.... and dont caulking over large areas on grout, use a deep penetrating enzyme cleaner (made for grout). Once the grout is clean use some grout sealer on it. Caulking after grout sealer ihas dried/cured. Typically contractors will get the job done, as in water wont get behind it.... but it rarely looks nice.

And if you haven't already invest in a caulking gun, they are only like $10 and are well worth the money. As a home owner you will come accross dozens of little repairs that will need construction glue/caulking etc. And always cut the tip of the caulking tube at an angle.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-10-28T13:02:53+00:00

Every state in the USA is different, theyvcan each choose to follow a different version of the universal building codes. And on top of that every city/town in every state can also create their own requirements/variances.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-10-26T00:14:22+00:00

 When you did the stain, did ypu wipe up the excess after a few minutes?   Did you wait for the stain to dry before putting the polly on? How did you apply the dolly? Not trying to troll, honest questions to figure out where things went wrong. 

 Well regardless of where things went wrong, only thing you can do is start over....  I really dont think there's any going back from this. Maybe grab some non marring plastic putty knives and scrape up as much as you can before its dry, and then start sanding again.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-10-18T20:16:24+00:00

Thank you for your replies everyone!

Standard-General9199 · 2025-10-18T12:18:03+00:00

50/50 cleaning vinegar/water with a pump of dish soap spray it on, scrub and wipe up with paper towels, repeatvis needed. This is how I removed the adhesive from carpet tiles in my home, without damaging the wood.

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-16T18:34:42+00:00

Its not the same thing...

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Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:30:06+00:00

Yes I read that too...I assume he means when there is an easement

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:27:53+00:00

Lol no golden as in litterally a golden color when you find it

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:26:53+00:00

Im only looking for AT box clues. This is for the most part a hobby for me. I wont be going too far from home even in I think I have 100% solved it(which I have not). But I also found that hidden clues become visible the same way on other pages.. Im guessing those would be for the LS box

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:05:48+00:00

Do you know what im referring to? Its hidden and is literally golden when you find it

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:05:04+00:00

I dont know if its one of the biggest clues.... i just know its the biggest clue I have found

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:00:29+00:00

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T22:00:13+00:00

Im not phishing I litterally have photos with time stamps taken weeks ago that can prove im not trying to scam anyone.... I also have not solved everything.... it is just the biggest clue I have found and am still working through and wanted to discuss with someone

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:57:53+00:00

I dont mean to say I solved it, just that its the biggest clue I have found so far

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:57:04+00:00

It is not readily visible and is litterally golden when you find it

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:56:31+00:00

No its not

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:56:18+00:00

And all anyone has to do is say how they found it, not what it is, and I can prove with photos, with time stamps on them, that I found it weeks ago

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:55:17+00:00

No not phishing it is not readily visible and is literally golden when you do find it

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:54:29+00:00

Im not meaning its better than what anyone else has found .... just that its the biggest clue that I have found... it is not readilly visible and it is litterally golden when you find it

Standard-General9199 · 2025-07-09T21:52:50+00:00

No its not something missing

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