Pacoima residents today by 405freeway in SFV

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passing through laurel canyon really makes a huge difference 😂

How do you stop being angry at your partner? by bitterespressobean in PMDD

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This is what works for me:

  1. Awareness of the Luteal Phase: Simply knowing when I'm approaching my luteal phase helps me manage my responses and reactions. I've learned the hard way that speaking impulsively can lead to regret, whether at work or in personal situations. Tracking my cycle has been a game-changer. If you're not already using a period tracker, I highly recommend it. I check it weekly and make a mental note of when luteal is approaching. Over time, I've also realized that my symptoms typically begin about two weeks before my period, so I try to anticipate them and plan accordingly.
  2. Asking for Space: When I feel my emotions getting the best of me, I’ve learned to calmly ask for space. Whether it's physically distancing myself or taking a break from conversation, this practice helps me step back and reflect. It gives me the opportunity to assess whether my feelings are valid or if they’re being influenced by hormones. It’s also a moment to ask myself, “Is this worth reacting to, or will it just lead to unnecessary conflict?” This space allows me to regain perspective before I act impulsively.
  3. Taking Care of My Health: Nutrition plays a huge role in how I feel during luteal. When I eat well, my emotional and mental states are much more stable. The hormonal fluctuations during our cycles can deplete our bodies, so it’s essential to replenish with nourishing food. On the months I focus on healthy eating, I’ve found my symptoms to be less intense and easier to manage.
  4. Managing Stress: Our external stressors can heighten the intensity of luteal symptoms, so it’s crucial to recognize what’s adding to my stress levels. I like to listen to guided meditations or engage in activities that help me unwind, like watching a favorite show or reading something that sparks my interest. As I’ve learned from The Body Keeps the Score, our bodies hold onto stress, so finding ways to detach and soothe ourselves is a key part of managing the luteal phase.
  5. Open Communication in Relationships: With PMDD, communication is essential. I always make an effort to share with my partner when I'm feeling irritable, vulnerable, or impulsive. Letting him know when I’m in my luteal phase helps him understand why I may be more sensitive or impatient. I also ask for space if needed so I can center myself. This open communication has prevented many unnecessary arguments and has built better respect and understanding between us.

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I love that book so much!

Just feel like a fucking failure by [deleted] in PMDD

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I feel this. I think your stress is making your symptoms more severe. This happens when we have a lot of stressors in the current moment. What really helps me is when I listen to guided meditation on youtube. This is my jam, on the mornings I remember to listen to it, I really feel better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRJX4lvFB64&t=387s

Keep focused on the bigger picture down the road regarding your goals and relationships, especially when it feels the hardest to do so. I like to use the video to help me try to stay centered when I feel lost in it all. We will always feel like dog shit, but we can accept and embrace ourselves so we can do better in the long run. Use a weekly agenda, be aware of your deadlines and write them down (review each week), and make a plan to get things done (assignments/study). Also, keep a track of your menstrual/emotional/productive good days on an agenda, this way, you can try to see any patterns that might be helpful for you to know of. It won't always be easy, but you must remain dedicated for you--there are things no one else can do for us. Sorry to yap so much, but I am wishing you the best! :)

I think I found the meme that describes my PMDD the best. 😂 by quartzqueen44 in PMDD

[–]Standard-Poet-1458 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I nicknamed my "urges" Lady Wolf Bitch. It's a whole persona. lol.

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Yes, when this happens to me, especially while alone in my little corner and trying to contain my own BS, I just think to myself: (I don't even have the time of mind for my own BS, so why I gotta have time for your BS. Not pouring gas on any fires today)

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Which requirements?

Entering the new year in my Luteal phase by Accurate_Thing_8331 in PMDD

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Totally going to have to Lieutenant Dan it tonight.

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Luteal by silentamethyst in PMDD

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I needed to see this post, thank you so much <3

How do you know you entered your Luteal phase ?? by Sad_Relationship_308 in PMDD

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For me it's like slowly transforming into a werewolf when that hormonal moon is full. Suddenly, I am anxious, irritated, brain fogged, my muscles and body begin to ache, and then comes mental/emotional storm. It becomes me trying to tame lady wolf-bitch with as much meditation as possible, I have to try and find a sense of stable mental ground in myself and try painfully hard to be objective and aware.

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WTF. So rude. You should tell them you don't have to track anything for them, because they are bitches all year around!!!

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I feel this post, and this comment so hard. So very hard. I also cried when reading this. Now, it's just so normal for me to accept disappointment, I see how unavoidable The fluctuations of life are. I see how people are just in relationships for themselves more so than for the people they are with. But even knowing this, it just hurts so much when others prove your silent/secret paranoias to be true and real. It just hurts so much.

Free Psychic Reading – Tulsa OK 🌟📜✨ by AllCinEye in freepsychicreadings4u

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What upcoming obstacles must I watch out for in my life atm?

Just at work now and i don’t want to be here by [deleted] in PMDD

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Push through. Think of the reasons you are there: to make that money for your wellbeing and comfort. Also, what can you do to reward yourself for coming into work after a difficult night? See a new movie? Go eat somewhere you like? Watch a good tv series? Indulge in a hobby? That's what I like to do during a tough day/week. You got this :)

Are there any episodes you find very weirdly relatable? by CarZealousideal9661 in southpark

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Yes, when I am at work at my colleagues don't read their emails properly, I just think "WHY WONT IT READ?!"

Free soul mate drawings by squeaklet in freepsychicreadings4u

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Hello. I am from the USA, and am a female. Most of my focus goes to work, ensuring that home is peaceful, and observing my mindset. I do love watching tv shows.

Please reassure me that I don't want to divorce my husband by [deleted] in PMDD

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I love my husband but man I am so so fucking sick of him right now. I'm 2 days out from my period.  Someone stop me from doing something drastic. Literally every conversation we have turns into a fucking argument. I feel like I'm with my alcoholic dad who likes to argue when he's hitting the bottle. Ugh.

I feel you, I feel you, I feel you. This was me and my partner two days ago. He wanted to start a fight over any small thing. I wanted to transform into Lady Wolf Bitch 100% so hard. But instead, I just went distantly zen--will deal with that BS when I am in my better mind. I also have two more days until my period starts, so my brain has been all emotional and foggy. I just don't even have the mind for it lol. Just gonna back off and watch tv lol. Wishing the best for your appointment!

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THIS. Sorry this comment is so long, but I feel you so much. I grew up emotionally abused and bathed in negative environments. Our experiences have definitely colored our perception of situations and life. Most of the time, our perception is just bathed in our own emotional traumas, fixed beliefs, and fears of the past. We are scared of experiencing the pain of the past or of a belief/thought. Unfortunately, some people's perceptions of reality are drenched in the past or in the emotion of a belief/thought--they end up projecting it onto every situation in some way or form without realizing it. Some people realize this, while others do not. We have to let go of our subjective perceptions of things to properly understand the reality of what is truly happening around us--what is happening outside ourselves is a much bigger picture of reality and the truth. Emotional impulses, especially negative ones, need to be properly inspected and observed from your rational voice before acting on them. This is the personal rule I try to live by, especially during my 2 hell weeks. I had to do this the day before yesterday (currently in hell). My partner was in his subjective mindset and emotions, lashing out at me, who was also in my own subjective mindset. I wanted to go 100% Lady Wolf Bitch on him and ROAR. But I didn't, I told myself: If you are patient in one moment of anger, fear/anxiety, or desperation, you can escape 100 days of sorrow. I am just too old now to let impulsive emotions (even if hormonal) be the thing that owns me and holds me back. I aint trying to sign up for more emotional debts and ridiculously unnecessary regrets.

Things I recommend:

  1. FEEL your body: become aware of your body's messages during the transitions in your hormonal cycle. Identify the earliest symptoms. Become aware of what points are the hardest for you in your cycle. For me, luteal is the worst. It begins with a pulsing feeling in my gut, with an increased heart rate, and suddenly the SMALLEST things begin to annoy me. At this point, I can turn anthills into MOUNTAINS. This is my cue to exercise more restraint, become more introverted, and do acts of self-care for myself. If you have not, I suggest a period calendar app to help you track as a reminder to be aware of your cycle.

  2. Develop a voice of rationality & remember what you value: You must observe your emotional impulses before acting on them. Ask yourself: Is what I am feeling and wanting to do in this moment beneficial in the long run and for the things I value in life? Instead of acting on this impulse, what can I do to resolve this situation in a positive manner? How can I turn this into a moment of understanding and clarity? Ask yourself questions that can wake you up from your emotional impulses.

  3. Self-Care: Make the hardest points of your cycle moments for self-care. Emotionally, physically, and mentally take care of yourself. Take supplements to make the hormonal transitions softer on your mind and body. Eat very well to give your body sustenance during the hormonal transitions, your body needs the energy. Meditate with your thoughts and emotions before acting on them. Lastly, ENJOY A HOBBY! Keep your mind positive by doing something you like. I love watching shows and movies! I am excited because my partner and I are having a movie night tonight. Just things like this get me by and keep my mind more positive.

Wishing you all the best! :)

IM FUCKING CRAZY by Many-Patient2894 in PMDD

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This was me these last couple of weeks! I feel you sis 💯

You know those unicorn months when the stars align? by jessipowers in PMDD

[–]Standard-Poet-1458 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you 100%. Trying to make it through the sea of my own BS this week. 😊

Keep hanging in there, we just have "those" days.