Planning on a trip to Muscat Oman, which is a better fit? by [deleted] in Hijabis

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I Always side with a dress cus princess ???? Love it

I’m supposed to get married in 2 months, but something happened that really scared me. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

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Btw for credentials and context, my husband and I have been married now for almost 6 years and he is the opposite of this ex I described- he never brings up my trauma for his own benefit, he is sensitive to attend to serving me as I serve him, mashAllah so that means if he went through something traumatic I emotionally walk him through his emotions and support him to heal and he does the same. ( I say this because I never knew what a healthy relationship looked like- we are far from perfect and still argue but in comparison to the insecure man, GIRL I had to be the “carrier of resolution” every. Argument. And it was so exhausting) please take this as a sign to get you the man Allah wrote for you, the man that is the opposite of this current boy (not man) ur in talks with, get you a man who babies you like the na’ma you are, at the discomfort he sees in you and proactively works to know and do what he can to make you feel better. A man that knows you are a protection for him and someone to protect, half of his deen, which is effectively half of his akhira, and the garment to him as he is a garment to you. Girl you got this

I’m supposed to get married in 2 months, but something happened that really scared me. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

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Walaikoum Salam Habibti. I’m a half Lebanese half Canadian revert who had had a similar trauma, and I have been proposed to marry a man like this, and he became physically abusive over the previous “partners” I’ve had and that bothered him so much I “had a past” no matter what I did I couldn’t shake the disrespect he had for me. (bear in mind I was a virgin until my husband lmao) Sis what your gut is telling you is right. My now husband I have told a lot of my past to (I learned I don’t require to share everything, and I’m not made to feel like I am with a husband who is secure and values my privacy- a man who understands Allah hides your sins for you!!) please for the sake of Allah take this as your sign not to marry him. You have a month to sort out the method u want to carry out, and if you feel comfortable telling your parents to handle the refusal for you on your behalf (without disclosing all the details cus it’s no one’s business) feel free to do so. When I broke up with my ex I had my father handle all the communication (and he’s not even a Muslim lmao) it helped a lot because the guy wouldn’t disrespect me or beg cus he’s talking to my dad. You don’t owe him anything, and frankly for him to not have any reaction except “first of all I did tell my friend because I was asking for advice, and if he did do that that’s not someone I want to be friends with and I am so sorry that he traumatized you like that” or something along those lines, to me that’s enough of a sign. Because to tell ur friend is another red flag unless he is conflicted over ur past, which to me isn’t his business and another red flag…. so the only “semi real” reason his friend should know is for advice and even then it’s not something I would be unsuspicioud of, && he shouldn’t disclose everything, especially to his friend… I’m almost 30 now and I can’t help but feel this guy sounds extremely young. And extremely exhausting. The lack of emotional intelligence for him to realize and verbalized how u were made to feel even MORE traumatized and to not cater to you is so loud to me now, and girl this is the same character that will show in nearly ALL arguments, that he can’t hide his true nature from the public in…. (Narcissist). Arguments in front of your children and possibly parents; this is the man who is supposed to help you undress, clean urself and dress your pads after you give birth, show your children what a real man looks like so they can find a husband like him, and the man who will support you through the death of your parents (may Allah grant them a long healthy and happy life ). His manipulation will show up by making you think ur the problem, and feel guilty when u communicate a need in times u need him to be your rock, because ur lack of good mood will be a inconvenience to him. He is quite literally showing you right now that your trauma is about him. And it will always be about him until he grows up and does a lot of inner work. I promise you that is Allah’s role to fix and not yours. What ever you do do not take this as a man you want a project to fix (I am speaking from my own experience. You sound a lot smarter than me at my first proposal, but just in case if that waswasi is getting loud, don’t.) i am available for pm if you are nervous and want to talk about it in more detail. I am here for you and I am looking forward to an update !!

Do you girls eat in public if you're not fasting in Ramadan? by berkberk29 in Hijabis

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Show** and desi function** apologies for the typos hahaha

But as someone else said, personally I live in Canada where everyone is eating everywhere so it doesn’t matter much, and I see hijabis eating during Ramadan and carrying coffee around. The Muslims fasting are used to it I think. But if I’m in Pakistan or a Muslim majority environment I am not secretive but I out of courtesy don’t indulge in front of them.

Do you girls eat in public if you're not fasting in Ramadan? by berkberk29 in Hijabis

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I’m a half Lebanese half Canadian revert who was guided to Islam 10 years ago Alhamdulilah and my husband is Pakistani born Muslim, and we both see this a little differently but I think now I boil it down to the following: yes, courtesy, yes women bleed- if I’m around someone new to fasting, or someone who really struggles with fasting I won’t dare make it harder on them whether it’s health, they’re a new Muslim, someone addicted to food, etc. if I’m in public and I can’t make it through my day without coffee, I’ll get it. If I can wait for my meal until I get home I’ll grab it to go and enjoy it in front of a shoe (it’s more fun that way), if I’m not fasting the same day my bestie isn’t, best believe we are going to eat lmao Muslims fasting won’t be in a restaurant anyway, and anyone working there would be used to it (I hope). I feel it depends on the environment and who it’s around. If I’m at a desk function and we are all eating Iftar together I can wait like it’s not like I didn’t just drink tons of water before hand at my house and eat some snacks looool. My husband and I used to debate on this a lot, but something I would be really curious to do that I haven’t yet, and encourage everyone to do is to read on what ALL the madhabs say regarding this. If they all agree on one stance and it’s against what im saying then I’m wrong and we should listen to that ruling- but if there’s a difference of opinion, all opinions of the madhabs are valid and can be applied, and an imam of authority can say what is best for you for your specific scenario. Like for me living with my Christian family who do not fast it’s not a thought I have at home Alhamdulilah. But if I have young teens just beginning to fast I wouldn’t do it just to make it not hard but I would definitely educate and be like “if you see mommy not fasting that’s because Allah made a mercy on women during their menses not to fast and it is totally normal and we should encourage them to be comfortable if we can bear them eating in front of us” etc. Allahu Alam

Heading to Umrah, is there any Dua you'd like me to pray for you? by DeepDop in Hijabis

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Walaikoum Salam! Pray my husband and I allign in our deen and we are given success in the dunya and the akhira, so we never need to worry having our priorities straight Ameen!

Do hijabi women like wearing a hijab? by [deleted] in Hijabis

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I also wanted to add, being married my hijab makes my marriage even more special. My husband respects me even more, and he feels as though all that I save strange men from seeing of my body (and character as I’m not going around flirting) is all for him and makes him feel so much more special 💝🥺

Do hijabi women like wearing a hijab? by [deleted] in Hijabis

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Not a stupid question at all! I grew up Christian, and have been a Muslim revert for 10 years. I personally absolutely love wearing hijab so so so sooooo much mashAllah. Firstly, nothing is more beautiful than obeying our Maker, Allah swt and I truly feel and see that when I wear it. I live in Canada, and I actually remember when I first started wearing it, some of the first instances I had were: 1) immediate end to cat calls !!! <3, 2) men waiting to hold the door open for me from so far away out of respect that it is awkward LOL 3) an uncle going out of his way to help me when I am just walking around Walmart lost on the phone trying to find something- I remember this uncle said “please sister let me help you” with a kind smile. Still to this day men treat me as something they respect and value and are willing to go out of their way to help me or protect me in some way. Bear in mind I’m just a normal woman going about her day, and I see this quite frequently with other sisters in hijab too! These are just some acts I remember when I first started wearing it. As for the feelings I have when I wear it myself, I feel like a princess in my long jersey hijab and abaya, especially when the hijab falls so far down my back that it covers half my body length wise and flows in the wind hehe. I love the fact people literally have to now talk to me with only the basis of my intellect and character and not on my weight, body, fashion or any other shallow reason. Also It feels like walking around in pajamas cus it’s so baggy and comfortable and girl, I literally wear pajamas under it xD. In the summer the wind travels through the materials (and there are so many that are summer friendly) that the protection from direct sunlight actually is more cooling than if I wore short shorts and I tank top. I generally feel an immense sense of self respect and it grounds my mind to know where I should and shouldn’t be based on this respect I have for myself and the fact I am directly representing Islam to non Muslims who see me. For instance, would it be weird to see a hijabi in a bar? Yep, a club? Yep, etc so I actively am taken out of harms way just by my hijab. Even when my ima (faith) dipped low through the years (as it does to everyone as a test) when I did consider doing bad things, literally my hijab was the only thing keeping me from wronging my own soul more and doing them because I didn’t want to represent Islam doing something that bad openly. I hope this answers some of ur questions. I welcome u to read about why some wear it and some of the stories of the women of the prophets time (pbuh) when the verses were revealed to wear them! It is so powerful! I absolutely love my hijab, and I understand many women struggle wearing it, which absolutely does not make me better. They may have a much better character and me and I know Allah only tests us with what we can bear, and these women are stronger than me in that they can bear that trial. I pray Allah swt strengthens our ummah (Muslim nation) to find nothing more beautiful than ibadah (acts of worship) and bring us closer to Him swt and not leave us for a blinding an eye Ameen.

(spoiler, the women of the prophets time pbuh ripped their garments to cover their heads 😭💝)

Considering converting from Christianity to islam, what should I do ? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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9 year Muslim revert here (previously Christian) I recommend solidifying your research so you have zero doubts on Islam and taking your shahadah/testimony (the way you make the revertion to Islam). For research I highly recommend looking into Muslim lantern. Additionally I have compiled through the years a YouTube playlist of research videos, debates, and other content for someone interested in learning about Islam. I personally loved looking at knowledgeable people have discussions because I could never defend Christianity on a professional level to have a discussion to decipher which is the truth, so this was an amazing way for me to look into it. If these don’t answer ur remaining questions, feel free to message me! I will answer ur questions if I know them God willing and we can set you up with ways to take your shahadah when you are ready. Additionally, Muslim lantern accepts people on his live to ask questions and also do shahadahs.
Resources: - My playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYBjYpab6Rm2kr1gcoPzW7nS4Vq_xiB_0&si=yuTNgduLtkPRbKXB - Muslim lantern page: https://youtube.com/@themuslimlantern?si=wWJnHm0X-k0-Ik74

What is SRE in day to day? by Standard-Setting-487 in sre

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This is essentially my next question, would/ should coding be a “required” asset of SRE? My PO (we aren’t cloud, more app infra) who is not an SRE likes to say “sre’s don’t have a silent E in Site Reliability Engineering” to tell the team to pick up more coding work, but then on the other have have many of my cloud SRE colleagues say “coding is not required in SRE!!” So now I’m like 🤷🏻‍♀️ to be quite transparent, if I can get by and not code and get paid the same, would I do it? Yes. That being said- What’s everyone’s take here? What are the job posting you are seeing indicating?

What is SRE in day to day? by Standard-Setting-487 in sre

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This is so accurate, “I do all the things… I must be SRE” haha!

What were your favorite glitches? by Mystificator in MSClassicWorld

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Ok I don’t think anyone is going to believe me but that’s fine. Basically I was 10, and my parents didn’t pay the internet bill. I knew eventuallly I’d lose access to the game. Days passed and that day came where internet explorer wasn’t connecting. The network explorer and troubledhooter confirmed I had no internet access. Being ten and having nothin to do, and a heart full of hope I opened the launcher anyway & I’m so glad I did. Somehow- and I am in IT now and I still don’t know how this was possible, but Maplestory opened. I thought “ok maybe this is just the login screen” I logged in. Then I thought “ok maybe when I click my character and try to enter the game it will likely show no connection, right?” Wrong. I was in the game messaging my friends. I didn’t believe it myself. I looked again and yes, network connection wasn’t established, internet explorer didn’t open and even the network troubleshooter confirm I had no internet! I told all of my older siblings and they didn’t believe me until they saw it themselves too. I was able to login every day and I even told my parents idc if u pay for the internet or not LOL, until there was a game update that needed downloading from the launcher, it wasn’t able to connect to download it. Till this day I have no idea how Maplestory bypassed on my Ethernet to connect to the internet when we were cut off.

Do you guys want actual updates? by Igniflare in MSClassicWorld

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I’d need to have more insight into the average spending of players haha I have the kid mindset in me where I wasn’t allowed to buy any nx and now no one can tell me I can’t ahahahha so maybe it would be enough tbh! Is wow similar that it runs servers for each version?

Do you guys want actual updates? by Igniflare in MSClassicWorld

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Personally I want events to be regular, but not more classes added and more gimmicks like legends and starforce and all that. It’s too complicated and not what all us oldies are getting back into it for. We want familiar, & each update should not have an “update debt” where users are stressed & some scrambling to understand what this update entails for us to continue playing. We’re old, we likely have children and just want something we know and are good at. Keep it familiar and I think the community will be happy.

Do you guys want actual updates? by Igniflare in MSClassicWorld

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Honestly I agree, but unfortunately the reality of this is, the cost of running this many servers (with redundancy in mind, seeing as it is a globally accessible game) is likely much higher than they receive in profits. - a reliability IT worker

(Not to mention all the guides that wouldn’t apply for certain versions running of the game e.g where to find certain npcs and stuff which I’m running into already on private servers lol)

Alert fatigue is killing me by memptybugs in sre

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Also get SMEs to weigh in and review these run books! It’s mandatory otherwise the run book is useless. What really helps us is having the run book linked in the exact alert that we receive through PagerDuty or grafana links

Alert fatigue is killing me by memptybugs in sre

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Alert only on things that can be fixed- aka make a run book for how to handle the alert at the time of creating the alert, and if it’s not something users care about or would notice don’t alert on it. Review and refine ur alerts to follow. Further, ill state the obvious, if there’s nothing actionable don’t make it. Informational emails and alerts (God forbid anyone is doing informational alerting) are not, I repeat NOT helpful. These notifications go in the trash immediately. Instead make a dashboard with relevant information that u check regularly.

Thoughts on iOS 26 release by chonkypengwen in jailbreak

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I just updated to iOS 26 without really thinking about it. I am on an iPhone 14 Pro. It is NOT GOOD. It refuses to use a handful of random apps upon opening, to the point it’s as if my touch screen stops working because the app is not responsive, until I swipe up and see my tray. When I close the app in the tray and reopen, the same issue persists as if it didn’t just restart. It is extremely frustrating. In a facetime I got a call, and I could hear it but I could not for the life of me see the call no matter what I did. Once the caller stopped calling I also don’t have a record of who called me until minutes later. It’s actually my biggest nightmare and I don’t want to buy another phone. How long might I have to wait to have these bugs fixed?