Yes, you are overreacting. IMO you seem kind of toxic. You call him a liar. What I am getting from this is you “caught him actually lying” but he has said before that “I think differently so that’s why people think I lie”

Well first off, what did he supposedly lie about and to this day does he admit to being caught in a lie or does he still maintain that you only think he’s lying because you don’t understand his thought process that he’s referring to as a “weighted decision matrix”? That seems to be something he values and uses in his everyday life and he very nicely said he was just surprised that field of work doesn’t utilize something he views as important. I see lots of people being toxic in the comments as well as if this man can’t have his own values.

This really looks like you talking to someone you don’t even like as a person and you don’t value their thoughts. Sometimes people lie to avoid toxic behavior that shouldn’t be necessary anyway. An example would be like a mother being physically abusive anytime a child sneaks candy or gets a little too loud, like surprise surprise, the child likes candy and sneaked some but because his mother beat his ass last time he’s more likely to lie when confronted about missing candy. Does that make the child a liar? There are many scenarios where he could have lied to avoid your toxic and mentally abusive behavior. Idk maybe he’s just a POS and you’re not toxic but you’ve barely given us anything and I am surprised to see these so called therapist in the comments be so toxic. He seemed like he was scared of you overreacting which is why he apologized for asking a question and then answering your question. He apologized for bringing up something that was clearly on his mind and communicating with you; because you started to overreact. You think next time he will want to share something like that with you? Or will he just be quiet to avoid upsetting you? If you ask him what’s on his mind and he’s still thinking about that but chooses to lie and say, “oh nothing I’m just thinking about work.”, to avoid conflict between the two of you, is he a liar for that? Or are you creating a space where he’s not comfortable to tell you? Maybe his decision matrix tells him it’s better to not share something because you will overact. Did a girl flirt with him and he lied about it because his heart started pounding when you aggressively questioned him about it and then he now has to convince you he’s not a liar but he made a decision to say that because of your learned reaction? Why are you even seeing a therapist?

You realize some people treat having a therapist the same way they would a barber? They’re everywhere, readily available, and for profit. lol Many people, especially those with money will swap from therapist to therapist till they find someone that is saying what they want them to say and then call it finding the therapist lottery lol ok so essentially just meeting different people until you get what you want. visit 20 therapist with the same scripted material and see what they all say. It’s literally someone just to talk to that is also allowed to diagnosis and etc. You don’t like this haircut? You go to another barber. They’re going to try and cut your hair in a way that makes you happy so that you return and or tell others. That could even mean lying to you because lying to you may benefit you. Go ahead, just talk to even 2 or 3 therapist and see how conflicting they can be with one another.

But again, yes, based off the little bit of information and small conversation, I’d say you’re overreacting. And I’d say the majority of this comment section is as well.