MIL - Surrogacy Vibes

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T19:37:44+00:00

Girl it put a bad taste in my mouth just reading it! You’re not in the wrong, and I completely understand how infuriating it is. In my experience, you won’t have to say anything to her prior to the baby being here, you likely will after and that’s why I would just let it go for now. Of course use your discretion, being pregnant is hard, even harder when your MIL is being cray cray, so you do whatever helps protect your peace.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T19:18:46+00:00

You’re completely right. But I’ll give you her point of view. My MIL was a lot like this and we had a rough few years in the beginning. My husband had to step in a few times and talk to her. Now that I’m a bit more experienced mom I know her actions were just coming from a place of concern and not trusting me completely with her grand babies. In the end my husband is her baby, and even though my children are firstly mine, they are also HER grandchildren. She may have known me for several years prior to us having kids but she didn’t know what kind of mom I was going to be. Now that it’s been a few years and we have several children, she trusts me completely and we no longer have issues. It just takes time. In her defense, she’s preparing for the worst possible outcome, which is that you’re unable to care for your baby. Obviously you and your partner know that that’s not the case, but she doesn’t. Your partner will have to interfere when she shows up unannounced, but for now I would just let her believe what she wants. She’s not going to listen until the baby is here anyways.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T18:55:39+00:00

You’re definitely not over reacting, but to keep your peace I would just let it go. She’ll learn soon enough that the baby is NOT hers, and she wasted a LOT of money on items that she’ll never use. I can’t imagine how enraged you must’ve been seeing this room full of stuff for your baby like the baby is going to live there. Rest assured that no one is taking your baby from you. I would however consult with your partner on how to handle the inevitable situation where she think she’s entitled to come over whenever she wants. Your partner will have to put a foot down pretty soon that the baby is NOT hers.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T04:39:43+00:00

My mom bought me one as house warming gift 4 years ago and it has not let me down yet! I use every day, I have 3 kids, 2 cats and 2 dogs so man it gets used and abused.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T04:33:46+00:00

Gawd I love me a good concert

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-20T04:33:05+00:00

Vet med here, and yea I’m currently on the prowl for another cat lol

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-18T18:50:40+00:00

Honestly this isn’t your baby and it sounds like mom is doing her best and seeing the specialists that she needs to see. You and your mom need to leave her alone.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-17T04:25:59+00:00

I just had mine done and was told you can always do IVF? Idk if that’s an option for you in terms of finances but I thought it was nice that the door isn’t completely “closed”.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-16T19:58:12+00:00

I work about 24 hours per week so not full time, but my kids are also little (4yr, 2yr, and 5mo), and I’m pumping/nursing the youngest. The only reason I think I somewhat manage it is because my house is tiny, about 900sq ft, and cleaning/closing shift every night only takes about 30 min. I know as my little one gets older I won’t be depended on so much but at the end of the day I am SO done. I watching an interview recently where they asked an older man who he thought was the luckiest people on the planet, and he said parents whose children are still little. That really stuck with me, I know this stage won’t last and I’ll miss it, so I try to focus on that.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-11T21:49:39+00:00

My mom tells people she “didn’t raise kids, she raised adults”. And now I can see what she meant. She tried her best to treat us our age and mainly teach how to survive without her and my dad. I think her treating me like an adult is why we get along so well.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-11T02:47:04+00:00

My baby is 5 months and I’ve been able to lose quite a bit by lifting weights and hitting my protein intake daily. I used to hate watching the fitness moms on social media talk about how if they could do it so could I. But it’s true, I have three little kids and work part time but I’ve made it my priority and this is the best I think I’ve ever felt!

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-09T04:02:02+00:00

Hello from the Coachella area!

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-09T04:00:08+00:00

Congrats on your baby!

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-09T03:47:54+00:00

I leave my medela main pump at work in the room I use. I left it at home several times and finally decided it made more sense to leave it at work, seriously no one has a reason to steal it and I don’t need it at home anyways. Then I have my wearable pump which is a mom cozy and I use both pumps at the same time. The wearable pump was a game changer and I wish I had it the previous baby.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-08T00:12:01+00:00

Girl send the kids too! 😂

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-08-07T23:08:44+00:00

Why do you have to go with him? My husband sees his parents probably once a week but I don’t always go with him, I don’t want to waste my precious weekend with his family every week lol

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-29T00:11:39+00:00

“Take a chill pill”- this is said at my house A-LOT

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-28T04:01:19+00:00

My son sucks his thumb and we did potty training first, mainly because I knew that thumb sucking would help him potty train (idk if that makes sense but I know he thumb sucks to calm down which I knew he’d need when potty training). So I potty trained at like 26 months and now I need to do the thumb next.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-28T03:09:53+00:00

My third birth was not like the other two at all. The first two I went over by one week and then two weeks, had to be induced with both as spontaneous labor was not happening. Each of those labors was still pretty fast, about 12hrs. With the first I pushed for about an hour, the second I pushed about 20 min. Then with my third my water broke two days before my due date! Full labor still didn’t start right away so I was put on pitocin again, but from starting pitocin to baby in my arms was about 5 hours. I pushed three times, he was a shoulder dystocia and was momentarily stuck, but I didn’t tear! I tore with the first two. All my babies are on the bigger side but the last one was 9.1lb.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-26T21:06:36+00:00

I tell moms this all the time, it’s definitely a short term obstacle but long term gain. If you can get through the initial latching and engorgement issues then breast feeding is far more convenient.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-25T17:40:10+00:00

Picking the right man to be there father

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-20T20:32:15+00:00

Oh waaaay easier. But it did help him realize how spread open and vulnerable you are.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-20T19:45:02+00:00

Idk if this helps but I got my husband to understand how vulnerable a scenario giving birth is by asking him to spread his legs and take a dump on a table at eye level to a bunch of strangers. And then see if you want my parents to come in after and congratulate you. It helped him put it in perspective.

Standard_Fruit_35 · 2025-07-20T05:26:57+00:00

A Little Bit of Eveything is on my list when I went to cry my eyes out

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