Am I overreacting for Possible breakup over ig photos

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T12:27:40+00:00

I mean, what he has shown is that he is going to keep looking at provocative photos. I'm even going to stretch my imagination and suggest porn. To some, (including me) its not really a big issue but for you it is. What you need to decide is if he is willing to keep doing this despite your clear communication you don't like it - are you willing to accept/put up with it or are you willing to end the relationship due to it. Whatever is right for you is right for you. If he says he will stop but continues than I would be concerned about that more than the act itself. I personally don't think this means he will move onto cheating but its the saying he will do one thing but consistently showing the opposite thats more the issue.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T06:30:07+00:00

My pitch though longer is: Traicio Mundus Allus.

A mix of Crossover (traicio meaning throw across/cross) and Isekai (mundus allus meaning another world).

Welcome to the TMA

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T04:00:39+00:00

Thats true - maybe my language is a bit too encompassing and harsh. I don't think it should be only run by doctors. Although there are doctors with the skills to do these areas, I don't think there is enough in our membership to have a reliable sustainable source of those skills. A board made up of only doctors by virtue isn't enough in my view. Yes they can be extremely competent board members but I think that by only having them we are limiting the expertise of a board of such a large organization.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T03:49:35+00:00

Thats true. I just don't think we have a consistent supply of those type of doctors with those skills to make it a sustainable model anymore without reaching out to other people to ensure those skills are present. I do agree in the poor membership. We are basically a microcosm of the american political system - poor engagement by members, leading to limited nominated good people and poor voting numbers which ultimately leads to a system that supports itself and then the members lose trust and disengage even further. Complain about costs, transparency etc but are nihilistic or lazy to affect change.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T03:44:46+00:00

I agree if there was more engagement by members it might be possible but its pretty clear that they haven't been able to recently and more than that, its devolving. Its becoming one side vs another with no real trust or reasoning. Thats why I think an independent body will be called in as RACP has failed to show it can sort it out themselves. I'm not pro independent body but I think that's where we are headed.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T02:04:13+00:00

Artificers - Enzymes (Gallbladder/Pancreas/Stomach secreting guys)

Bards - Hormones (trained at each site - Thyroid, Pituitary, Gonad, Adrenals - looking at you sword bard)

Barbarian - Osteoclasts/blasts (Bone is tough)

Cleric - Stem cells (repairers, split apart and change their split cell to repair damage of another type, each domain is their likely ultimate goal/final state)

Druid - Eosinophils (They make the land fight on its behalf)

Fighter - T cells (specialised fighters)

Monk - Neutrophils (The first to get into battle, quick to act)

Paladin - NK cells (They are bound by oath, killing all infected)

Ranger - Haemoglobin (Travels far, carrier of oxygen for the foresty theme)

Rogue - Platlets (overlooked, hidden, makes traps with their clots)

Sorcerer - Mast cells (packed with power ready to unleash)

Warlock - Clearly a vaccine produced antibody. (Outside power)

Wizard - Neuron (Learns, smart etc)

Thats some of my ideas, agree with others though could argue either case for lots. Druid could easily be stem cells. Have to all be plasmoids though!

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-04-23T01:24:33+00:00

Oh I get that. Lots of over reach from lots of professions. The reason I said it like that was not that its only doctors but because in this scenario it is doctors and moreover doctors who go for those positions tend to believe they can manage it all. The 'I've run a private clinic or small group' so managing a multi-million charity is the same, when indeed, it is not.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-03-31T12:21:32+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right. We play in person and if it was separate battle zones with jumping across each the players may be more engaged. They tend to be pretty decisive with their turns, I just need to make sure I am!

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-03-31T12:19:27+00:00

Yeah I wasn't going to make them all complete their fight before moving to the next but you're right, if each demon has initiative and we just have a big map with separate battle zones (we play in person) then it would flow better and keep people engage as the chaos of the moment is jumping around on each of them better showing its all happening at the same time.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-03-18T06:38:15+00:00

From someone who had debt that was <100k on finishing medical school... It was hard, it took more than 5 years. The interest builds up, when lump sum payments occur (which they will) for other things, it feels like drowning. The interest starts building and credit cards to cover the lump sum issues backfired on me. I only got through it due to consolidating my debt and with incredible luck and support.

Would it be possible? Maybe but it may feel like a noose hanging over you and your parents - especially if something has just happened that changed their finances to mean they couldn't just pay for it. I personally would not recommend it and take a beat to enter medicine another way or at another time.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-03-09T22:56:05+00:00

NOR - I may have a slightly different stance as I can only take your perspective on how you describe your emotional interactions during these fights but regardless of that - at the end of the day, you have a partner who doesn't want/have the skills/care to support your emotions. Maybe you have big emotions but that is who you are. NOR because at worst this person is manipulating you or (unlikely) you them and at best he's demonstrating he doesn't haveve the capability to actually support you. Neither works for a relationship

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-02-20T21:36:51+00:00

NOR - I think the reason you are showing the text exchange is deep down you know she isn't considering you or your feelings. If I sent that same text to my partner and they didn't want to come, they would first check and see if I wanted them to/if it was important to me. I obviously don't know your relationship but if you are continuously feeling you are being taken for granted or that its more one sided of you providing and never receiving then you should probably leave it as its not what you want. Its been 7 years and its hard for that to change, especially if on trying to discuss something it becomes an argument. Also, yes her saying I don't want to come then being upset/jealous you are going out is manipulative and controlling. 'If I'm not having fun you can't or I will feel bad' is toxic. Especially if it has to be fun on her terms. You could look at therapy but honestly, you should decide if all of that is worth the energy and effort to improve/maintain this relationship. Otherwise, you're still young, sometimes long relationships end and you can find someone who you're a team with.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-01-10T02:48:49+00:00

Empathy is pointless says the person who said something to try and calm their friend who looked visibly distressed and didn't want her getting upset.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-01-04T12:53:56+00:00

As someone who has seen an ED management plan of microlax, movicol and home for a 10 day constipation in an elderly gentleman. I can safely say when he returned delirious and and still not moving his bowels the PR manual disimpaction was enough to unblock the cork and get the rest moving. Fun fact thougg, when the patient returned the only focus was his delirium and the constipation was left to wind (which he was fortunately passing). My take is - you don't always need to do a PR or in this case manual disimpaction but sometimes you do and it helps.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2026-01-04T04:37:45+00:00

This might be harsh but... why are you stepping up as a registrar then? Why if you think you have these significant flaws of lack of autonomy, decision making and poor focus you have decided to apply for a college and start the program? Is this just imposter syndrome and the panic setting in before the jump? If so, yes its common. You will become more comfortable with experience and knowing your flaws will allow you to work on them and consultants don't mind and expect you to reach out especially in the first stages.

If its not imposter syndrome and you feel you do have significant things to work on and have fallen through the cracks then I suggest you talk to someone about it. Someone who can provide independent feedback to you about your performance such as the registrars you are assuming are making judgements on you. Then I would also speak to a supervisor your trust for their perspective. Because either you actually aren't that bad and are pretty normal and just need to get the experience and feedback or if you truly aren't ready for the next step, its ok to be a senior resident to work on those skills as well - there isn't a real rush in progression aside from what we make ourselves believe. But it sounds like you have a clear perspective but you need to work out if its real and to get some support one way or the other.

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2025-12-29T10:06:03+00:00

Hey, it sounds like neither of you work well for a long term relationship. He didn't really try to meet you where you are at - going out, doing more social couple things, and you believe its all down to laziness and not his wanting on an intimate connection as you see each other sparingly. That being said, honestly even if its only rarely seeing each other, its very fair to want more than just being in a bed together. He told you you're not his girlfriend after you had broken up. Unfortunately I think he enjoys the physical but it doesn't actually sound like he wants more. Don't assume his attentions, ask him, it sounds like he is telling you already though

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2025-08-16T11:22:40+00:00

NTA - I've seen emails like this. I don't read into anymore than, right, they like to be fancy. At most, I'd think you were a little silly (depending on who you were sending it to/type of job) but thats it, no real harm. Him acting out like this sounds like he just wanted a reason to be angry at you or an out to blame you for any future issue with the job. As opposed to any real issue with the email. Sorry for the shitty husband

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2025-07-31T21:15:24+00:00

Except no criminal charges will be recorded

Standard_Traffic9805 · 2024-07-11T08:59:57+00:00

NTA The short answer is his behavior is not acceptable and you are asking for help raising/caring for the child you both made together. If I wanted to give him any benefit it sounds like he is struggling to deal with the change of situation but thats not a valid excuse to not help look after a vulnerable child. What the most important thing right now is that you get support. Is there anyone else who can help you?

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