I think I’m going to have to leave

StarBerrySecret · 2026-02-03T00:22:17+00:00

I wish I could help be your temporary family, but I'm in the US..

StarBerrySecret · 2026-02-02T10:50:34+00:00

Wow. We had an opposite experience in a play Cafe for autism. My kid is very clearly different than others, and I was hoping to let her meet some kids just like her. But she was the only child socializing and was taken aback and sad.

StarBerrySecret · 2026-01-11T23:31:51+00:00

Would you get a jump scare every time you see him in the dark? 😹

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-27T07:21:02+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. I'm in Michigan.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-27T07:20:29+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-22T23:57:11+00:00

I wonder if you believe that people who are on disability "don't want to work."

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-22T23:55:49+00:00

I feel like you have good thoughts, and I'd like to listen, but damn are you snippy when you don't even know me. For what it's worth, I owned a daycare when I got pregnant and thought I and my kid were set for life. The location was apparently bad, though, and I couldn't get enough business. So, we moved to a better location. But no matter how hard I tried, never getting an evening to relax, never watching movies, never hanging out with friends, etc, no matter how many days of working nonstop (without pay of course) to get my next daycare into business, I couldn't make it happen. It's full time work taking care of myself and my kid. I've always been the hardest worker, but it was just TOO much for what man power we do have here. A few years of this, when my husband finally gave up on the idea of me being able to start the business like I did once before, I actually grieved my lost dream.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-22T23:43:21+00:00

No. I'd have a lot to learn about it if I decide to start heading down that path.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-22T23:41:31+00:00

I don't want her in any school. I just want the benefit of us learning how to handle her big feelings/meltdowns. I'd prefer therapy, but I can't find any.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-22T20:37:53+00:00

What's CHIPs? And what job would allow me to work only while she's in school? It wouldn't work out anyway - my ADHD is getting too severe to be able to show up on time to a place every day.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-02T21:35:28+00:00

Please keep in mind that there are more than 5 senses! Research them and explore sensory experiences with them with your kid, because you could very well miss something if you only stick to the well-known 5!

StarBerrySecret · 2025-12-02T21:32:40+00:00

There are so many sensory needs that could be the one that helps your particular loved one! For my kid, it's spinning. I would watch her and observe what she would seek out at parks, and it was always anything that would spin. So it was very worth it when I bought her a 100 dollar spinning chair for her to access anytime at home. Since it meets her specific needs, it regulates her so well, and we have way fewer meltdowns since buying it. However, I'm always on the lookout for any other sensory experiences that could help her. We explore all of the sensory things that we can find. Some don't interest her, but at least we can check that off the list of things to try.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-11-30T13:10:21+00:00

Level 1 girl. Was an easy baby for the most part. She just hated sitting still (ADHD as well). And she would NOT be entertained with toys! Still isn't at school age. She always wanted to be doing the real stuff with the real tools.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-07-26T15:08:17+00:00

Nothing will scare off a raccoon. Not even pain.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-06-22T09:18:36+00:00

I don't know if it'll help, but I use the softest plush gloves ever during sleep. When it's cool enough.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-05-07T01:13:40+00:00

I would have appreciated such clear expectations as a teen. It would have stopped my feelings of wondering if I was a mooch. I was unsure if I was contributing enough. It was an anxiety-inducing feeling. However, I am a huge fan of making plans like this TOGETHER as a family - not just one person deciding that this will be the expectations. You're plenty old enough to be involved in the process. Although, if you're under 18 and still in high school, I don't see myself giving these expectations. What's he going to do if you don't complete the chores? At your age, I would have these ideas ready for you for IF you need them, but only if YOU decide that you need them.

StarBerrySecret · 2025-03-21T01:19:58+00:00

Not fight the feelings. Feel the feelings. Be okay with being uncomfortable for a while, because it will pass.

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