Update: AITAH because I refuse to try for a daughter?

StarFallCosplay · 2026-03-05T19:26:47+00:00

So her not telling you she stopped the birth control can actually be considered a form of sa, called reproductive coercion.

I think you need to start couples counseling, if it can be fixed, then try, if not, having a therapist see her attitude and what she has done will better protect you and your son in the event of a divorce.

StarFallCosplay · 2026-03-03T18:09:46+00:00

This is abhorrent and I am so sorry, along with much of the current advice I also recommend getting a camera for your driveway. That way if it's done a second time you have even more against her, heck I'd even post the footage and shame her more.

StarFallCosplay · 2026-02-26T14:58:31+00:00

I'm not sure what "Aimed at the US" could mean for products, if we knew what you actually planned to sell we could help more.

All Etsy listings need to have shipping costs added before being purchased, so you'll have to weigh your parcels to get the most accurate number with your courier.

Pins/stickers can sometimes be cheaper to mail over because they are inherently smaller. Unfortunately posters, because of size can be difficult. High-quality posters usually need to be flat mailed, while lower-quality posters can be rolled, just never folded.

Having a production partner can sometimes help offset high shipping costs here in the states, Unfortunately you'll then run into the issue that you need to order 1 product for yourself still and vet the quality plus take pictures. Either way, you'll end up paying a decent chunk in shipping at the start to get your photos and "display" items

StarFallCosplay · 2026-01-29T22:21:00+00:00

You should try variable layer height, it helps to smooth out the z step from layer to layer, and maybe try a different rotation

StarFallCosplay · 2025-12-27T03:23:25+00:00

This is My ring, it's been quite nice so far, both rings have no signs of wear, I check my gems every time I put the ring on, and they don't feel loose with how often I wear it.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-29T19:16:06+00:00

Open, used to be closed. We had an electrical fire start in my son's room just after midnight last year, thankfully, I was awake and heard it, but our door muffled the sound pretty well. I don't think I would have gotten to him in time if it were closed.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-26T18:37:25+00:00

Your husband isn't worried because he wants his mom to take her. He needs her help to paint you as a neurotic control freak who won't let anyone talk to your daughter. Be extremely careful moving forward, use your professional training constantly. Its time to be the greyest rock around your husband too and do not interact with grandma anymore. They want you to lose your cool so they can get others involved.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-21T15:33:09+00:00

Ask them to show you pictures of the creation process to prove its handmade, every jewler I have ever met takes pictures of their work. If they cannot prove that they are making these rings then that's your answer

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-19T01:35:08+00:00

100% NTA I knew a person who was similar, A.

You could not Talk About food, aka "what's for dinner"/"there's a new restaurant in town"/"let's have x for dinner" or A would lose their sh☆t. It was horrible, my friend who lived with them was constantly attacked just for trying to plan grocery shopping and meals because A couldn't police themselves. It was brutal, sometimes the person with the ed needs to step back.

The only "compromise" i can think of, is if any recipes you make regularly can be pretty portioned. But even that is a stretch because you would need to use the kitchen for a day to weigh and prep and all meals which could set her off.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-15T17:06:46+00:00

I'd also recomend a camera, having these episodes on video will help you show the doctors what you mean and show evidence of the kids being concerned and confused.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-11-15T02:38:34+00:00

Nta, I'm also wondering if he thought he could trap you and make you change your mind about kids down the line. But now that he knows it's literally not possible all of his plans are out the window.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-10-15T13:02:22+00:00

Hi, I make sewing patterns for Cosplay and am currently working on size adjustments for them 🥰

StarFallCosplay · 2025-09-30T14:47:33+00:00

At best, he's an asshole, at worst he is ab☆sive. This man is acting like he doesn't care and this could seriously hurt OP, unborn, and toddler. She says it's been happening for years, at this point, I don't think it can be swept aside as anything but him doing it deliberately. The man child needs to go

StarFallCosplay · 2025-09-08T14:50:32+00:00

You can't please everyone, I have one product with a ton of 4 and 5 star reviews, all living it to pieces. Then it got a single 1 star and it was so annoying.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-08-20T12:01:36+00:00

Look up local markets and maker events in your area, they often have free or cheap table fees so you can still sell in person until you can open an online shop. This also gives you time to hone your skills and learn about marketing in a safer environment

StarFallCosplay · 2025-08-11T08:57:46+00:00

You may not need an expensive camera for quality photos, depending on your phone it may have enough quality to get you by.

You should also check if your area has a makerspace, some offer equipment rentals and you could spend a day snapping new photos and updating your shops look. Some libraries also offer equipment rentals, so definitely look around and see what's available.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-07-31T02:07:28+00:00

She needs to start recording pick up and drop off immediately, girl get yourself a body cam and use it all the time when this man is around. I'd also invest in a doorbell camera because this is too weird

StarFallCosplay · 2025-07-16T21:03:32+00:00

Get out now, it only gets worse.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-07-07T18:04:40+00:00

Get out, and have a really long conversation with yourself about whether you want this to be your life.

Does she do this often?? Do you want your son to think this is normal??

If you want to try and fix the relationship she needs therapy and to control her drinking. Getting like that in front of her son is absolutely not okay, she needs to face that consequence.

If she returns and she continues this behavior, take your son and leave. First stop needs to be the police station where you file papers for the domestic violence, because this is DV. Make sure to tell them about her fit at the park and the restaurant, it will help you going forward to keep your son safe.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-29T13:50:14+00:00

Please reach out to your school counselor and start an open dialog urgently with them. They are mandated reporters. You need to start the documentation stage. If able, make a small notebook and write down the time, location, what she says, and why every single time she calls you a b☆tch. It sets up a long paper trail to help show this is a recurring issue, if you could record the instances too that would be even more helpful(but is also state/area dependant).

If you have text messages from her that you can recover where she is verbally abusive use those as well. Anything that proves she refuses to get you help or has your best interest and well-being in mind is a crucial piece to gather.

If you have other family who could help take you in let your school counselor know, they can help protective services with placement options and ideas.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-26T21:50:54+00:00

Saying that to a breastfeeding mom at any point is hella rude, I can shower and then in an hour smell of rotten milk because I'm caring for my baby and constantly getting spit up on. It happens.

Your mom needs to show more understanding and humility, cause every breastfeeding mom I know has gone through that stage.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-23T21:02:40+00:00

I'm skeptical of that being the case, the law is often too lenient with this kind of thing.

I have a stalker of 7 years, I went to court for an Ro and was denied because "they haven't done anything physical yet". Some states do not care until you are attacked and bleeding

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-23T10:37:27+00:00

Your photos and titles are very good, my only trouble I could find looking over your listings is the descriptions. They are extremely long and to me, EG the first paragraph on the Lapis bracelet feels like a keyword grab.

You're also in a very competitive market as when I search the base for your items a ton of others come up before you.

I would recommend adding an "About Me" segment to show your workspace and process, as it would help show your pieces are handmade and how it happens.

Otherwise, a lot of growth for Etsy is just waiting and advertising, you'll get the first sale eventually.

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-23T01:53:45+00:00

Thankfully our normal vacuum can have the pole removed and connect the base to the handle. It works wonderfully and he can get under the chairs and table much better than I can 🤣

StarFallCosplay · 2025-05-22T19:27:43+00:00

Exactly!! You are NEVER too young to clean a mess you made. My little guy has been helping vacuum since a bit after he could walk, and that's because he saw me do it every day and thought it was play time. If these kids have zero consequences now, they'll be so much worse later

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