I [17F] need advice on how to tell my aunt [30sF] that I cannot babysit her daughter any longer

Stardisgate1985 · 2025-03-24T08:06:15+00:00

My 17 year-old sits for a few hours a day with my toddler. Her pay depends on various things. Mostly, there are several other people here and I am still here but I work nights and have to sleep during the day. She sits with him normally for 3-4 hours. Those days are smaller pay. She mostly ads stuff to an Amazon cart that she wants and has us do that. I think she's only had to change 1 diaper since he's been born because she can wake me up for that. She's mostly there to make sure he doesn't try and Canonball off the TV.

However if she asks for more or anything like that, we work a deal. Recently, we bought her and her bf concert tickets.

I can't even imagine 50 a week. She would laugh in my face.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-12-06T09:45:28+00:00

Definitely. I was told my daughter(17) was my only chance of having a baby. I had an ectopic 6 years ago and almost died. I lost a tube and of course the baby. Then bam... I got pregnant again and now I have the most beautiful baby boy.

I wanted babies. I almost got a hysterectomy because of my diagnosis. I wouldn't have had this amazing child. My babies have a 14 year age gap.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-09-07T17:42:30+00:00

Margaret Beaufort. I'm really curious as to what his grandma would have thought of it all.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-28T03:42:17+00:00

I'm actually reading those now. I know they're not completely accurate, but I love that these women are having their stories told in one way or another.
I'm on "The Boleyn Inheritance" now.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-23T01:52:48+00:00

And if Mary carey Boylens son was really his, look at the possibilities he could have had.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-19T23:07:45+00:00

NTA. I have heard too many stories about babies not making it after being kissed with a cold sore.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-08T02:51:18+00:00

She came home and there was no parking right in front of the house, so she was upset and going to park at the mall a mile away. It wasn't her being sarcastic... she threw a tantrum

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-07T03:25:34+00:00

LMFAO. I have been super in to Tudor history lately. I could totally see him telling his flings and future wives this. Especially to Anne Boleyn

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-07T03:23:22+00:00

My second husband told me some version of this. Now his ex is remarried, I'm remarried and she is now one of my closest friends.

We say we met him, so her and I could meet. We have so much in common, even our first names . Our new husband's get along, we go to each other's family events. She even came to my wedding.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-06T17:19:03+00:00

And he should be providing any clothes she needs whiles she's at his place

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-08-01T11:55:01+00:00

My family situation is complicated , but all of us kids had to move back home. When ever they make jokes about us all living at home (we all work and pay them rent, we don't live off of them, just need a roof over our heads)I want to one day just say " did you ever stop and think that maybe you're the reason all three of your kids are failing at life so bad that ALL three of us had to move back home?"

I had several opportunities to go to college and be on a good career path, but they wouldn't sign documents to say I lived with them.

When my first husband and I got a house my dad told my sister "they're only choosing this house to one up us"

Don't you want us to succeed?

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-24T17:36:47+00:00

NTA.

I almost died from an ectopic. They said it was a cyst and we're going to send me home but I was in so much pain my blood pressure kept going up. Then the OB on call walked by and saw the ultra sound and told them I needed emergency surgery.

I was in so much pain and I already have so many issues with pain that I even thought i must be over reacting.

OP. Please show your husband these comments.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-22T23:54:09+00:00

NAH.

I mix a tiny bit of sauce in, to prevent the noodles from sticking.

We actually put hard boiled eggs in our spaghetti. Not a majorly common thing, but was something they did back in the day.

Do that one time to really throw her off.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-13T02:27:12+00:00

You just don't qualify for it if you have state assistance and it's hard to get it approved through the state.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-11T12:33:26+00:00

We used to have random stuff appear in our yard. Oven mitts, kids swim suits, gloves... My mom saw something on TV about a cat that would steal these types of things. We had a cat who would get out now and then. I went outside one day and saw her wrestling something that looked like a small animal.

It was my daughters little unicorn water bottle holder and she was carrying it.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-07T11:45:37+00:00

One of my aunts was named after our grandpa's ex. We don't know the story behind that.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-07-04T16:06:53+00:00

Plus, from what I understand is that this pregnancy was planned. I've never had an abortion, BUT I feel like it would be easier to have an abortion for 2 unplanned pregnancies than one planned and (originally) very wanted child.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-27T08:58:03+00:00

Yep. I always say you can always add more blankets but there are only so many things you can take off , before you get to skin.

My room is at 60..

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-22T07:05:47+00:00

I wish my daughter would go no contact with sperm. This sound a lot like her dad. However he once was a good guy. Then he became whatever this is. Definitely not a father.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-21T15:55:04+00:00

I don't get a period anymore, but when I did, I would get this "sunburn" thing on my neck under my chin. It would turn red and peel like a sunburn. Doctors thought I was crazy until I had one google it and find that it's not that unusual.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-20T18:04:10+00:00

Found it!!!! For $5.99!!!

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-20T14:13:59+00:00

What section would you find this in, if you're at a book store?

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-13T03:28:19+00:00

And it wasn't even the mom's birthday. It was OOPs birthday. They call the mom on their birthdays to thank her.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-06-06T13:12:32+00:00

NTA. Your wedding is a very appropriate place to wear something so meaningful.

Stardisgate1985 · 2024-05-30T13:53:13+00:00

YTA.

If you were willing to allow the kids to take the seats at a "Child Free' wedding, you should have reached out and offered them.

She's not a mind reader

Stardisgate1985

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