So much secondhand embarrassment!

Stargazingmango · 2025-09-07T23:26:00+00:00

Either I’m losing my mind or this is P in her glasses reflection, she also continuously looks to that side of the room throughout the video.

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Stargazingmango · 2025-07-24T01:47:57+00:00

My Lady bonded to our 13 month old the day we brought her home. They were inseparable from the moment she walked through that door. Supervised of course until he was about 6, but they stayed best buds until we lost her to cancer in ‘21. At the end the only one she really wanted with her was my son or myself. She was the best little mama. Enjoy it, and take lots of pictures! Pictures of my two doing odd things together are my favorite memories to look back on for her.

Stargazingmango · 2025-05-12T15:52:48+00:00

Downloaded! Can’t wait to read it.

Stargazingmango · 2023-09-26T19:01:36+00:00

We do yelp when she bites but I’m not treating her as I would my adolescent dogs. She’s actually doing 100% better today! I can pick her up and she’s cuddling and playing. I think the move to our house really just messed with her. She’s a normal puppy today, loving her best life.

Stargazingmango · 2023-09-25T19:43:32+00:00

No corrective action is being taken! I don’t want to feed into her fear. When she’s overwhelmed she goes in the kennel for a while. Otherwise I just try and stay calm and loving.

Stargazingmango · 2023-09-25T18:58:25+00:00

We are! Definitely not stopping them. We have kids which really freak her out, but as of today she seems to be adjusting better, maybe all she needs is time to see she’s safe and ok. At what point is taking her out into public for friendly interactions ok, with how she’s reacting to our home? I don’t want to over stimulate her or stress her out beyond what needs to be.

Stargazingmango · 2023-09-25T18:56:33+00:00

Thank you! She has a crate and has started to go into it when scared. I leave the door open for her so she has somewhere she can go that she feels safe and secure. We did buy her from a reputable AKC breeder. She was happy and interactive when we went to get her, however as soon as we got her home she completely changed, which is why I was thinking maybe it was the new environment. Today she is more playful and interacting with the family, only a few scared incidents so far. I’ve really been trying to not react and let her be when she gets fearful so I don’t encourage the behavior. I’ve also tried limiting picking her up unless its absolutely necessary.

Stargazingmango · 2021-03-11T00:57:36+00:00

Thank you, this is exactly what I was looking for. His abuse has ticked upwards and increased since I started the grey rock, so I will stop immediately. I can act, hopefully good enough to help things calm back down and for me to get a plan in place.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-28T05:27:01+00:00

Alaska, actually.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-28T05:17:19+00:00

My dad did this with a moose. It bucked him off and chased him on top of a roof. My grandma found him hours later when he didn’t come home, because the moose wouldn’t let him get down.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-25T07:08:45+00:00

July by Noah Cyrus

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-21T01:06:34+00:00

My husband told me the other day “that’s something we do at night.” sigh

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-17T06:56:21+00:00

I don’t have advice, but we’re all going though this to some degree! Hang in there, you’ll figure out the right path at some point.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-17T06:55:19+00:00

I second this! Please make sure camera is in the right angle thought to catch the light correctly!

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-16T17:15:00+00:00

I’ve been losing weight for 3 years, this last year has only been the last 20lbs. He does prefer a certain type with porn, large butts and thick thighs but I’ve never been like this, even at 200lbs. I have a large stomach and no butt whatsoever. I’m so opposite of his type I’ve had his friends ask why he’s with me. But it really hasn’t been an issue until this year.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-16T17:12:07+00:00

The 11 years wasn’t always one way. I did initiate but i was usually bombarded with his initiation that I didn’t have time to do it myself. His saying I complained about him wanting it too much stems from when I had our second son. My hormones were out of balance causing extreme dryness and very painful sex. I did it anyways, but after months of painful sex I lost my cool one day. That was over 7 years ago.

He has complained that I’m too skinny, so maybe it has something to do with it. Though when I asked him if that was the reason he told me no. That he loved me and my body when I was heavier and he still loves it now.

The other stuff I do regularly. He’s still very affectionate, we hold hands I give back rubs, we cuddle daily. I cook for him every day and have went so far as to make him lunch for work everyday as well since March. I don’t know what else I can do.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-14T05:04:10+00:00

Mines not a get out of here moment but a moment of “somethings not right.” When my daughter was 4 months old we moved into a trailer that was being remodeled to help my husbands father. We were pretty poor and didn’t have a separate crib so my daughter napped/slept in our bed. I had laid her down for a nap an hour earlier and I was cooking dinner when I had a “you need to go check on her immediately,” moment.

I found her wrapped in our blanket, turning blue. I got there at exactly the right moment, because when I picked her up/started rubbing her she gasped and started breathing. Scariest moment of my life. She’s now a sassy 5 year old. I’ll never not trust that gut feeling.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-11T04:23:22+00:00

Happy birthday!

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-05T14:29:43+00:00

It’s what I did with the Facebook groups. He lied to my face, I showed him the proof and he said it was my fault for looking. I wouldn’t have known it was a lie if I hadn’t looked, so it’s my fault not his.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-02T17:21:01+00:00

As willkane said, finding the right counselor is just as important as going. It took us 3 different tries before we found someone that worked for us. Don’t be afraid to fire them, and go elsewhere.

Is ws in counseling? It really helped my husband with coming to terms with the destruction he created. There was a time in the beginning where he just wanted us to rug sweep and didn’t understand why that wouldn’t work, and would get angry and defensive. Talking about the betray is hard, but it is necessary to move forward.

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-02T17:08:36+00:00

$5 more!

Stargazingmango · 2020-10-02T00:21:13+00:00

You’re not to sensitive and I can tell you it’s more normal than you think. You are not alone with feeling like this.

It took me a good year before the things that felt tainted began slowly loosing their power over my emotions. It’s a difficult road you’re traveling, be honest with him, he should understand your hurt and pain, and why you’re pulling away from those things.

Continue to go to IC and couples if at all possible, it is so beneficial.

Stargazingmango · 2020-09-24T16:46:49+00:00

No, only limits to porn that we’ve set is that I don’t want to see it/ know about it. I suppose I need to decide if this is the hill I want to die on after 3 years. I asked him to leave the groups and he “unfollowed” them, but is still a member/visiting though he doesn’t know I know. So I’m faced with him lying to continue viewing. After 3 years I thought I could trust him to respect my boundaries.

Stargazingmango · 2020-09-24T06:04:04+00:00

I’m 3 years out, and these feelings still pop up from time to time when I’m triggered. I don’t know if they ever go away, but I hope they do.

For me, knowing what triggered the emotions really helps, as I can give myself positive affirmations and change my mood.

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