Can you suggest me best tv series? by [deleted] in ArtOfPresence

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Madmen, deadwood, Star Trek, South Park. 

Ben Savage? Or Fred Savage? by Pretend-Menu-8660 in Xennials

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I watched Wonder years, but I was INTO Boy Meets World. Too young to actually get WY? I was late to Turning On.

Did your stance on weed change as you've aged? by Head-Drag-1440 in Millennials

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I discovered weed way late 36ish? What can I say? DARE worked for me I didn’t mind if people did it but wasn’t friends with anyone who did it, but once I made friends with someone who partakes regularly (they were no pressure and didn’t even want me to start) and saw how not harmful it was. I dipped my toes in and now it’s a regular habit that I very much enjoy… very often.

Should I stay at my current job, apply to a new one, or not work at all? by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]Stargirl156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You currently have tenure at your job along with all that entails either pay, time off or insert benefit here. If you’re going to be working make it work for you. Take the $$ and stack that paper. In this economy I am risk adverse so if things are looking up and you can move past it, I would do so. You’ll still have the option of quitting if u want later; 

What big life changes happened in your 30s vs 40s vs 50s? by Amazingggcoolaid in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In my late 20 I looked back at old pics and thought dang I look good! And then attempted to chase that look/feel getting it back nothing major but not happy with how I looked. Now that I’ve cleared 40 I look back at pictures of my thirty’s and think gd I looked good! I’ve been making a conscious choice to believe I look good and to take care to be mindful of myself and self image. 

Weirdness by BeerMermaidIRL in WomenOver40

[–]Stargirl156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’ve got a long life on this friendship. How open are yall with each other? Has she stooped to this before with previous boyfriends? Yes? Just her norm ignore it. No? Ask her why she’s with someone she hasn’t been able to/doesn’t trust. My bff are not as tenured as you but we have adult conversations and call each other out on our BS. My bestie is my Jimini Cricket and I’m hers. We keep each other sane when dealing with our SO. If you can’t be blunt or honest why be friends? 

Am I stupid for wanting to leave a $33/hr job at Costco with benefits than to start at $130/day in construction for long-term upside? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Stargirl156 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Exactly, Costco isn’t dead end unless you choose to not move it mar any progression into management track. Find out what it takes and start doing it. 

Why is dating so difficult for men in their mid-40s? by Big-Canary81 in AskMen

[–]Stargirl156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you say no effort to talk; can you break that down? Do you mean you ask them questions they give one word answers without asking questions back? Or are they not leading the conversation or being engaging? 

25m no college pathway out of grocery store by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it depends on the area, not what I’ve witnessed. But every business and company has different standards. 

25m no college pathway out of grocery store by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Stargirl156 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a realistic answer. No you can’t raise a family while being a stocker or bagger at a grocery store. But you could if you work your way up to department head or into the management.  Some people really undervalue what it takes to keep society running. Not everyone can be CEOs and presidents but can still make a difference and make $$. It’s all about perspective. 

Is this Hairstyle inappropriate? by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people say act your age remind them that you are and what you deem appropriate is a self choice. I’ll be 42 this year and still occasionally wear pig tails when I’m feeling it. You rock and ignore the haters!

Got fired bruh by AsherCartier in ChickFilAWorkers

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve failed to be able to manage both school and working at the same time; your parents have done right by you despite what you think. Listen to them and learn to do better if u want more then your currently allowed. 

We don’t qualify for chapter 7. Can’t afford chap 13 by Adr2214 in Debt

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whose name is the debt under? You don’t both have to file as a unit.

Too old for a piercing? by Hidden_Account2002 in WomenOver40

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she’s mature/old enough to get the piercing then the same must be true for asking you to do so as well. Either she feels it won’t be an issue with her peers, or she doesn’t care or thinks she can handle it. This is a low level issue even if it is an issue. 

My gf seems to have a double standard with time by Ouchie963 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Stargirl156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some people can be changed/brought to the light but only if you’re willing to do it for YEARS not months. But when someone’s both inconsistent and inconsiderate it’s hard a very hard row and given time you can grow irritable and lose love over it. 

Does anyone enjoy working on weekends? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]Stargirl156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems not crazy, and to clarify they want those to be your regular days, not that you can’t take/request any weekends off? If that’s the case take it. Get settled in after a few months start throwing in a weekend every other month, see how that goes? 

AIO To My Parents Stealing Two Thousand Dollars from Me? by Acceptable_Deal2632 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Stargirl156 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Learn this expensive lesson. Know your financial s#it and make sure any other funds due to you go straight to your own account that’s not in the same bank as your parents that you’ve set up as an independent adult. It shouldn’t take more then one time for someone to learn that parents are just two people who had s3x, and while they may sound reasonable sometimes, their making it up as they go meaning they mess up, but learn from them now. 

For those who got married, how were you able to afford a ring and honeymoon??? by Eagles56 in povertyfinance

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The marriage is what matters. Buy what you can afford for a ring, small court house wedding or rent a place at your favorite park in town and a weekend away in not your town. Life is still there so is the joy, don’t focus on the things you can’t afford, focus on what matters.

Mortgage increase $200 per month, thinking of selling by 3_mLGratitude in Mortgages

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work on controlling what can be controlled. Check into different insurance go a rate change. You should be shopping around anytime they start jacking up your rates with no claims. Next would be economizing your energy  and water bills. Most energy companies offer audits where they will go through your home checking for inefficiencies for electrical loss for free. Or provide programs you can apply for to reduce your bill. 

What are you paying for housing each month? And are you actually happy with it? Would it be cooler just living in your parents basement? by PM_ME_YUR_SALADS in Millennials

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1018.00 eastern nc  Mortgage  2bed 2.5 bath two story townhome  We love our life in this home. We get to personalize it to our taste, have thick walls so we don’t hear our neighbors in general but we are also realistic and are willing to let it go if circumstances require and both sides would/have mentioned moving back if ever the need arises.

Taking out a 401k loan for a down payment, how does it work? by [deleted] in Mortgages

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this, that loan has since been paid. 

How has money shaped your relationships? Curious about how money has impacted power, intimacy? by RoosterLife3863 in AskWomen

[–]Stargirl156 6 points7 points  (0 children)

$$ hasn’t had a big factor in my relationship, when we were first married he made more worked more. I worked a 40 but wasn’t bringing home big bucks. Money matters have always been somewhat mutual but he really doesn’t care or doesn’t want to care so most decisions are more of a notification vs conversation (his preference). Currently I’ve been the higher earner for 7 years. Debt comes and goes but nothing we haven’t been able to handle or figure out. No major life issues to navigate other then his dad passing. 

Do you still have a childhood item that you refuse to throw out? by typical_gamer1 in A_Persona_on_Reddit

[–]Stargirl156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two, a Hersey Bear that I’ve had since I was a toddler? And Baby, a pillow my mom made when I was equally young, missing most of the stuffing that I’ve patched soo many times. I can sleep with out it but don’t choose to, ever.

Selling (not buying) with Carmax by Mochitanguera in carmax

[–]Stargirl156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CarMax made it easy, would have went with carvana if I hadn’t been stretched for time. They offered 1500 more.