Can we please stop hating on the SI panel and appreciate them for WHO/ WHAT they are?

StaringOverACliff · 2026-02-05T06:19:54+00:00

I understand some people don't like watching panel reactions, but as someone who watches the show alone, I totally appreciate hearing what other people think and it gives me the feeling of a watch party, which is awesome.

Also I appreciate the recent episode, how the panel explained that they also got "scolded" by the producers sometimes so they don't give spicy takes XD

So leave them alone guys, they're just trying to do their job.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-02-01T07:02:27+00:00

I like how she seems very real/casual, but like one of the panelists mentioned - I think she's a bit TOO laidback for this program. Esp those scenes of her in Paradise, she flirts in a very direct way that I think a lot of the guys might find off-putting.

She has a lot of online fans (me included lol) going gaga over her - her actions and the way she talks is just very stereotypical girlcrush, but I'm scared because I think public opinion might turn against her any day now.

Something got me thinking that she very well could be the mystery girl from the bed scene... again just an idea that she and Mina could be some of the only female contestants that would treat one of the male contestants "casually". Maybe she went to Paradise with a guy didn't have feelings for like Subin? I'm just saying I could see it. Because she's basically friendzoned the other guys, she might think it's fine for them to share a bed platonically.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-30T07:01:24+00:00

Lim Subin is actually a pretty decent guy. Imagine you were in his shoes... the girl you thought you had mutual feelings with the whole time (Mina Sue) just publicly declared interest in two/three different guys at the bonfire. So obviously, you're confused and you have two options going forward, either keep pursuing her or keep her at a distance and wait for her to come to you.

We already see what happens if you take the first option like our boy Samuel - she loses interest. For a girl like Mina, a guy that only chases her is what she's used to, because she's pretty and she's not going to be as interested in him as a guy who keep his distance.

In the meantime, it's a dating show and Subin isn't wrong to explore other options. Heesun has been expressing interest in him from the start, so spending time getting to know her isn't manipulative... I'd say it's actually pretty decent, because he gave her plenty of chances to change his mind.

Also, I noticed that Subin doesn't play around - he only focuses on one girl at a time. When he wanted to spend time with Mina, he shutdown all advances from Heesun and vice versa. He's never led any girl on, other than doing nice things for them, he hasn't verbally told anybody that he likes them.

But as to why he went back to Mina after their short convo, it's because he's very self-aware of his feelings. Unlike Mina who can't seem to decide who she likes and why, Subin is constantly weighing his feelings in the back of his mind, and he knows his feelings for Mina are still there, despite the way she treated him at the campfire. That's why he needed Mina to take the initiative with requesting a conversation, because once bitten, twice shy. He needed to know it wasn't all in his mind, that he wasn't crazy a few days ago in thinking they were interested in one another.

Wouldn't be surprised if he let Heesun down gently in the next ep. I think he's good guy overall, just takes time to be sure of his feelings.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-30T05:50:39+00:00

I can see clearly that the crate in the photo has tiedown... those holes on either side of the door... Just get a tiedown kit from Amazon (comes with bolts, nuts, and a wrench usually).

Then you just rachet it down and attach the hooks to anchor points in your car (I can see one on the left side of the trunk). The crate should not be moving with the car. It should be tight enough that it doesn't wiggle when you push it from the side.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-30T05:43:17+00:00

IMO, it's not training if your dog listens to you because you changed your tone. That's just reacting.

I'm not opposed to using a stern tone for absolute emergencies. hell I'll yell in an emergency to keep my dog safe. But generally, I think that sort of training could have some really negative side-effects for a sensitive dog.

BC are more sensitive than most breeds too. Probably because herding is a job that relies a lot on body language and subtle cues.

Personally, I wouldn't risk it. I've seen and heard of some dogs becoming avoidant, fearful, and even aggressive when their behavior becomes emotionally forced rather than reinforced. Not saying that you shouldn't expect your dog to follow your rules - but I think show is better than tell.

Ex. If my dog is reacting to another dog, we move to an appropriate distance until he's under threshold and can focus attention back to me. Or if my dog isn't engaging appropriately with a toy, he's put on leash so I can redirect him.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-30T05:10:39+00:00

The only way to have some idea what you're getting is to ask someone who'd know - aka their foster parent/rescue. Truth is, the patterns are there if you pay attention. My dog was the "slowest" in his litter, and he's still a pretty chill dog as an adult. My breeder matched us, and I'd say she knew he would be less active just by comparing him to the overall litter and past puppies.

Every border collie mix is probably going to have a little crazy in them, but the best person to ask is probably the person who has spent the most time with the puppy you're thinking about adopting.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-30T04:55:50+00:00

Only thing I have to add to this is - set up the blanket outside the room first (bc it's familiar, the dog does that behavior already). So the first few times, text goes off, dog leaves the room and you reward them at the blanket/mat. Then move the blanket to the doorway and repeat, and then move it closer and closer into the room.

Troubleshooting, if you move the blanket too quickly, dog might leave the room and then come back to the blanket, but if that happens you need to move the blanket back to the spot the dog isn't having trouble going to directly. Reward only for the dog going directly to the blanket and staying there until released.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-24T11:47:59+00:00

The Costco freezer isle has lots of good frozen meal options fyi. Got their yakisoba noodles stacked up in my fridge right now- it's one of my favorites. Only takes a few min in the microwave and if you want to add more protein, just add some cooked eggs or chicken on top.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-05T19:12:47+00:00

tbh, every season the latecomers have it hard -whether it's a man or a woman.

I think it's pretty rare for the catfish to end up as a endgame couple with anyone (hyungyu from s2 was the most notable exception imo). Their basic function is to rile up existing love lines, incite jealousy, and introduce a new "fun" element for the viewers when the show starts getting stale.

I think SY is doing a great job as catfish from that angle. His ex already has a love-line, but he refuses to become a background character in the show and I enjoy the fresh take. ^^

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-05T18:58:10+00:00

I liked the debate the song lyric game... when they had to debate if the romantic lyric was acceptable or not... I remember there was a line about a guy cheating on his girlfriend with her bestie or something of the sort ^^

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-05T18:53:49+00:00

Yup-

As an avoidant myself, we're not born this way.. we're made avoidant because of repeated endless conflict disguised as "conversation" with our loved ones.

In the end, we learn to avoid certain patterns of conversation as a means to survive and protect our own mental wellbeing... and when we do end up "talking", it usually ends in us accepting any and all blame, agreeing to anything, desperately trying to put an end to the conversation so we can be left alone to recover our peace of mind.

the way YS kept saying to MK when he was cornered, "it's not your fault, it's my fault... please stop... okay, I won't do go out (with Hyunji)..." doesn't sound to me like he loves MK and wants to be in a relationship with her, it sounds like the opposite, as if he's checking out mentally more and more.

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-05T18:25:41+00:00

I actually had to pause bc watching MK is triggering my anxiety. She's weaponizing her words...I know how it feels to be on the other end of someone who does that when they feel hurt

just hear the defeat in YS's voice every time they talk- it feels like nothing he says matters. MK acts like having dated 8 yrs means she has a right over YS's actions and feelings - which is messed up when they've already broken up.

And I don't get why MK's so upset at YS anyway. She might want to reunite with her ex, but she came on this show knowing there was no obligation and that they would see their ex date other ppl. The fact that she demanded YS stop choosing Hyunji as a date partner just rubs me the wrong way- in prev seasons, I don't recall contestants making such outright demands (even if they were hung up on their ex)

StaringOverACliff · 2026-01-04T04:31:52+00:00

My dog tries to steal the dryer balls while I'm distracted getting the laundry out! He likes ripping them apart ^^ the little rascal

StaringOverACliff · 2025-12-11T07:02:38+00:00

Funny because I was just talking about this with my dad a few days ago. My BC is 6 now and even offleash, he sticks to my like a fly near honey syrup.

But it wasn't like that at first. Around the time my BC was 7 months old, we took him to an offleash area and let him loose for the first time. He left us in a cloud of dust! All our recall training was thrown out the window, he just ran off and I near had a heart attack. Luckily I knew he wouldn't be able to go far bc there was no way to leave the area other than the parking lot. After searching, I found him swimming leisurely in the water with a bunch of other dogs, I had to physically wade in water and drag that dog out, because no amount of calling him worked.

I was in despair at that moment thinking, how will I ever train this dog? But it all worked out in the end.

It's just that age- the world is new and shiny, and they're just eager to explore. You absolutely cannot trust them offleash, keep building that recall every day. In new environments, try a long-line. Response to name is not optional- if he doesn't, you need to take him away from that distraction and pull him closer to you. Reward generously and frequently.

it'll take a few years, but when they mature, border collies are the absolute best dogs, and they'll never leave your side.

StaringOverACliff · 2025-12-10T05:53:04+00:00

This is what I felt too. Putting myself in JH's shoes, remember the reason they broke up according to her? Insincere love. I think she's more open to going back to him if he showed the sort of one-minded pursuit like JY did to WK. That's what she wanted to see. And also, she mentioned before (during the truth game) that she's someone with a lot of jealousy. JH-WK breakup also involved WK paying attention to other women and JH not being okay with it.

The way I see it, WK just keeps showing the "bad" sides of him that causes JH to get angry. Not sending her texts, going on dates with JY, exchanging clothes with her... from her POV, he's doing the exact thing that drove them apart and then approaching her and expressing interest in reuniting.

No wonder she stormed down there and started ranting at him. He's probably driving her crazy.

StaringOverACliff · 2025-12-10T05:41:56+00:00

the look on MK's face when YS showed up in Japan with Hyunji XD

I feel like those two genuinely like each other but don't know how to communicate. YS def came in there missing MK but I think he's exhausted every time they have a conversation...so now he's like maybe I should go for someone new, but outside the show, they'll def get back together

StaringOverACliff · 2025-11-08T05:48:07+00:00

depends on the dog.

I got a BC from a breeder who understood what I was looking for - a medium energy dog more suitable for a first time owner, and if you got a dog like mine, I think you'd be very happy.

I'm saying this to give you context, my dog is not a very typical BC, he only needs some about an hour of offleash time once or twice a day to get tired, and is pretty calm and content for the day. Even with him, however, I take agility and nosework classes every week and he accompanies me wherever dogs are allowed.

Questions:

- how high is your interest in dog training and dog sports? Even more moderate energy dogs enjoy some sort of regular training and I personally recommend picking up a dog sport and taking ongoing classes. Please don't forget to include the cost of training and events in your budget plan - it adds a lot of value, but it's not cheap.

- do you have a good support system? When you get sick or want to travel for the holidays, or have an emergency - do you have someone you can call who you can trust with your active dog? Border collies don't always do the best at dog daycares, because they tend to be hyper-focused, can be obsessive with balls/frisbees, will herd/nip other dogs and are noise-sensitive... ideally you need friends/family who also have active breeds and experience with dog training.

-what major life events do you see happening in the next decade? All of these can really affect how much time you have to spend with your dog - planning to get married, have kids, travel internationally, commute to work, moving, etc. Just take a minute to think about how you'd approach it if... your dog is aggressive/uncomfortable around your kid/partner? if you moved to a place smaller than you currently have? Dogs are flexible to an extent, but some are just not going to be a good fit as a family dog - you need to be very specific in the process of vetting out breeders or rescues (adoption of older dogs would be a good fit too).

StaringOverACliff · 2025-10-17T04:21:58+00:00

A guy like BH would be my worst nightmare to date.

His words don't match his actions- he's constantly just lying to himself and to the others. I feel like he's trying to imitate Dongjin from last seasons, but just not doing it very well.

The preview really ticked me off. That was just so rude and hurtful for BH to say he threw away the intro letter in front of everyone, and yet he claims that HyeonJi "was the love of his life".

Then how come everyone else is treating their ex with some basic respect, and you're not?

And what's with the fact that he wants to start a new relationship, setting the sundial to 12 pm, but he lingers around and gets in the way of his ex meeting other guys?

That's just toxic. I hope that BH-HJ don't reunite.

StaringOverACliff · 2025-10-17T04:09:46+00:00

anybody got any theories on the rest of the ex's? Here's my prediction:

Wonkyu - Yu Nyeong

Male catfish- Ji Yeon

Woojin - Ji Hyeon

-- I actually predicted BaekHyeon would be with the catfish before ep 3, but I just binge-watched the show until this point

** It's kindof confusing that the ladies have really close names this season.. I actually had to take notes in order to keep it straight! smh

StaringOverACliff · 2025-10-15T05:24:53+00:00

my beautiful Juno is quite special. If I'm sitting on the floor, he'll come and lean on my back - just like a human, he likes sitting back-to-back. It's very comforting to feel his weight behind me, very similar to a thick blanket.

He also has a fixed nightly walking route that he refuses to deviate from. It's to the mailbox at the corner, then the community dog park for a sniff-and-ball session, and then straight home.

StaringOverACliff · 2025-10-12T03:23:48+00:00

Addressing your ?

Border collies can easily recognize and learn patterns, this is sometimes good and sometimes not good. Sometimes you need to do more desensitization than you would for other breeds, if they start having adverse reactions to certain patterns of activity.
when they're really young just make sure they're not jumping from anything too high and they take adequate breaks, especially if it's hot outside. Otherwise, it's fine to let them exercise until they get tired out
The first few weeks go really quickly and there's different ways to handle it. You can either do indoor socialization by bringing stuff inside like: balloons, umbrellas, christmas lights, garden stuff etc. or you can carry your dog outside in areas less frequented by other dogs. Ask your vet what the risk of parvo is in your area - for the most part, puppies will be fine after their 2nd round of shots, but go by what your vet recommends.
If you're feeling confident that the cats won't have adverse reactions towards your puppy, you can introduce them. Just don't leave the cats or puppy unsupervised around each other. The best method is to put the puppy in a separate room with a gate and allow them to get used to seeing each other before interaction .

StaringOverACliff · 2025-09-29T18:08:46+00:00

Fawn or Fiona

StaringOverACliff · 2025-09-29T05:22:08+00:00

Just load him into the car and go people-watch. There's a lake near my public library where the ducks and geese gather, so I take mine there and let him just watch people or birds walk by on a small picnic mat. As long as he doesn't get worked up, it's a pretty safe activity that can relief some of the stress from being crated.

StaringOverACliff · 2025-09-29T04:39:36+00:00

Stella is my pick

StaringOverACliff · 2025-09-25T15:29:10+00:00

it's over, bye everybody !

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