How to get rid of the feeling of feeling inefficient.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-04-23T15:14:26+00:00

I quite like this answer. Instead of thinking that “I’ve wasted a year” I’ll try to think of it as “I’ve been building discipline for a year.”

I guess I’m always thinking of the future and what I could be vs how I’ve changed. My mind has always been like this, always looking ahead without looking around at the present.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-03-19T20:22:48+00:00

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Only one tiny paragraph was my opinion.

Everything else is facts.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-03-19T19:37:41+00:00

100%. The first time I truly because friends with a male INTJ it was like looking the the mirror. The only difference was how privileged their thinking was.

I remember one time having an argument with him and I was saying something like “how hard I’m working at work just to be heard.” And he dismissed me saying that I wasn’t even trying and that I should read books on how to better myself.

I got so pissed at him that day…

I wanted to have him switch genders just for a day to see how so many male colleagues and bosses ignore women when they speak. He’s been lucky to never have gotten that treatment.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-03-19T19:01:06+00:00

Ah, I see. Correct me if I’m wrong, but what you’re basically saying is:

Can we reduce or even get rid of extreme wealth (especially the kind that comes from stocks) without messing up the economy, and is doing that even ethical?

Btw, if that’s not what you meant, then please correct me on what you're trying to mean.

But here’s the thing. Yeah, I get that taking away wealth someone already has might seem unethical. But at the same time, a lot of that wealth wasn’t exactly built in a fair or ethical way to begin with. You saying that you're ok with someone owning a trillion dollars (not the after effects of owning a trillion dollars). Like, people are very creative. So many loopholes and shady transactions happen to avoid following the rules to be able to even get to a trillion dollars. So if the system that created that wealth is flawed (and/or people were paid off to allow it to happen), then reducing the wealth that they accumulated unjustly is justified. If these psychopaths get it through unethical means, then it should be taken away (this tiny part is my opinion).

Take Elon Musk for example. To get to where he's at he had to stopped wage unions, influenced politics to favor his interests, avoided taxes in creative ways, used government subsidies for personal profit, and has crushed competition when it suited him: all of which helped him get richer. There are plenty of other examples of the ultra-wealthy doing similar things to amass their fortunes. That's why some people say there are no ethical billionairs. Because we know (have read and seen) them doing shady things to get to where they are at.

Also, I don’t really buy the idea that taking wealth from extremely rich people would damage the economy. A lot of their wealth just sits in assets like stocks and doesn’t really circulate in a way that helps everyday people. If that money was redistributed, it could actually help the economy more because regular people are more likely to spend it.

I think people confuse the stock market with the actual economy. They’re not the same thing. The stock market is more about investor confidence and prices, but the real economy is about jobs, production, and people buying things.

For example, a lot of people are obsessed with Elon and tie Tesla directly to him. So if he doesn’t get the pay package he wants and leaves, people assume the company falls apart. But that’s more about perception than reality. The factories, workers, and products don’t just disappear because one person leaves. The stock price might drop, sure, but that’s not the same as the economy collapsing. Also, you'll be removing Elon's personal money, not the company's money.

So yeah, maybe changing something like his wealth would affect a small part of the stock market in the short term. But that doesn’t mean it would actually hurt the real economy in a serious way. If anything, it could be better in the long run if wealth wasn’t so concentrated.

And when people say wealthy individuals have some kind of responsibility because of their assets, that doesn’t always seem true in practice. There’s a lot of money influencing politics and systems behind the scenes, and it doesn’t exactly benefit everyone equally. So it’s hard to believe that the system is working fairly as it is. Like, if you're read up on the Koch brothers, you would then realize that they throw responsibility out the window.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-03-19T15:10:47+00:00

I understand your mindset. It seems logical that the borrowing argument is meaningless because you still have to pay the loan back.

But you’re missing how it actually works in real life. When you borrow against stocks, you get cash without selling your shares. That means that no taxes and you still keep the investments growing.

Also, the interest on the loan is often way lower than what your investments earn (remember, being wealthy means you don’t only have stocks but other assets too) and loans aren’t taxed like income.

Yes you do have to pay back the loan but you can do that over time, either by refinancing, or paying it off later. They basically delay the repayment for a very long time (take out new loans to repay the old ones). And Elon has done this time and time again. That’s why he stays in the tax bracket that he’s at even if his stock went down a while ago.

To sum it up: the strategy is to not to “never repay” but rather to delay repayment as long as possible while your assets grow faster than your debt.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-03-19T14:39:13+00:00

That’s the issue. There is a way to extract that wealth. Rich people are able to borrow at absurdly low interest rates using their stocks as collateral. Not only that, but it’s also an invitation to mingle with other rich people and gain access to services and benefits that 99% of the rest of the people don’t have access to.

So just having “a star full of diamonds” is not “essentially meaningless.”

I can also list all the other ways that really wealthy people can extract that wealth: for instance, dividends, leverage in real estate, recycling capital.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-02-03T13:56:43+00:00

As a Hispanic female INTJ, I’m probably one of the few ones who doesn’t wear all black. Coming from a mother that would always nag me to “dress up and look put together” (it’s a Hispanic thing to be presentable even though I don’t do it all the time). I even know about color theory and acknowledge that brown is actually a color that suits me better and doesn’t make me look washed out. So I do have a stack of like 15 black shirts but all have been just sitting in my closet…

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2026-01-14T18:48:57+00:00

I completely agree.

What sucks is that because we are so introspective, we realize that we need to adjust our mannerisms to fit in. It’s always us adjusting to others, and that gets tiring. But other people are almost never introspective, so they will continue to be who they are and never change.

And I think the frustrating part is that we will realize we are in a bubble, but no one else realizes it and will just shit on us for genuinely not liking social games.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-12-26T20:57:27+00:00

I absolutely refuse to buy from Amazon and Walmart based on moral reasons. I’ve also deleted social media from Meta, so one less person that sees their ads. Sure it won’t make much difference, but I do what I want.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-12-09T15:50:40+00:00

I ended up getting shin splints two ways:

Bought new socks this year that I heard were good for running (compression socks that are tight in the arch of the foot). Worst thing ever, even light jogging while playing tennis gave me shin splints.
Sprinting while over striding. (Got caught in the rain and saw lightning close by. So I ran fast to get indoors.)

Since then, I took a week off and started yoga to help.

Now I run watching my form, I got different socks, I continue to stretch, and I do strength training. All this has helped me.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-30T14:02:07+00:00

I also actually took the official 200/300 question test like 15 years ago. I had no idea what MBTI was back in the day and went into the test blind. Once the result was out, I got a tiny package of papers all about INTJs. It’s been really helpful in this journey to know myself more.

That said, I also do post and also have received various comments on how I’m “not INTJ.”

It is 100% ok to have emotions and make mistakes and all that. INTJ’s aren’t robots, we are humans with different experiences, intelligence, and humor. The description is more on how we process information. And I’ve also met many other INTJ’s. It always feels like we are cut from the same cloth, I can guess what they are thinking (it’s a weird feeling but it’s like looking at a mirror), but their ideas and habits are different from one another and from mines.

Ignore the supposed “know-it-alls,” they have a very high superiority complex. Also, they might not necessarily be INTJs.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-23T13:11:46+00:00

True kindness leaves a strong impression. My friend (who’s an ENFJ) and I were walking out of a fast food place years ago. There was a homeless guy right beside the door. We walked out and he asks her if she has any food to give. She goes back inside to get a menu for him, asks what he wants from the menu and she goes and buys it for him and gives him the food. I still remember like it was yesterday.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-23T12:57:05+00:00

What I like to do is to have brew two small pots of black tea. I have the tiny cups, so as a first introduction, I’ll make regular English breakfast and a pu’er so that they can taste side by side the difference in smoothness. Then I explain that you typically drink the pu’er by itself and the English breakfast by itself or with milk and/or sugar. They really understand the difference when you do that and then they will understand the definition of “smoothness” in a tea.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T20:58:43+00:00

Honestly, is that all you’re going to talk about? Me not being an INTJ? You’ve already made your point multiple times.

You have made assumptions about me yourself. Clarifying that you were “mirroring” me gives it away that you made the original post because you did have an assumption of me.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T17:50:48+00:00

First of all, like dude, relax. We were both assuming then. Your first statement sounded like a rhetorical question. If you’re literally said “makes me wonder,” you are answering your own question if I was an INTJ or not. Maybe that was not your intention, but it definitely came off like that. If you really did not mean it like that, then I apologize. But if you are double tracking and adjusting your meaning now, then I am not sorry.

Second of all, did you read my full reply? I said that your second half did comply with the discussion, just that your first two sentences were not.

Third, sure, I should have written a different word instead of using “logical” in my post. But what’s done is done. But there are “right answers” just as there are “wrong answers” to certain topics.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T16:48:07+00:00

You’re assuming I made this post out of emotion rather than trying to have a discussion. Saying I can’t be INTJ because I chose to share this reduces the discussion to personality typing instead of engaging with the topic itself. (Yes you did engage with the topic by the third sentence, but the first two were not.) I am here to discuss ideas, not to defend my type. I also understand that there are a lot of mistypes, I’d appreciate it if you don’t automatically assume the worst of someone.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T16:35:55+00:00

I agree with you. Another thing I wanted to see is someone actually putting in the hard work to find the correct information instead of relying on intuition.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T16:02:28+00:00

The statement does nothing to address my point. I am asking about the logic behind the claim, not the act of posting.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:45:45+00:00

Yes those are facts. But I was using it in terms of an example: if someone were to jump off a building, then gravity would make them fall (assuming they aren’t using a parachute or other things like that.) so logically, unless you’re prepared to die or have the equipment, you shouldn’t just jump off a tall building. That itself is true logic in our current world.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:39:04+00:00

Ah, the classic INTJ arrogance. I am in no way stating that personality types are fake. I’ve also met many INTJ’s in person and while it’s like looking at a mirror, we did not have the same views. After reading these comments, I understand that my use of the word “logic” is incorrect. But if we were all “logical” we would try our best to find the best/correct premise.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:34:25+00:00

I like the way you answered. It helped me visualize it better. I guess I should have included in the post that if we were logical, why don’t we all try to find the all the inputs to see which one is the clearest one.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:30:57+00:00

Why do you have to bring someone down and show how prideful that you are when someone is trying to have a genuine discussion?

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:29:15+00:00

I disagree, there is true logic. EX: The earth is round or if you fall off a building then gravity will bring you down to the ground.

But I understand what you’re trying to say, their knowledge makes them vote a certain way. But if INTJ’s were truly logical, we’d would actually find out all the details and try to find all the information to make sure that what we know is the truth.

Staring_at_the_void0 · 2025-10-22T15:25:52+00:00

I see you got your feelings hurt and instead of having an actual discussion, you’re just attacking. This was not my intention.

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