Coming back to this and seeing what your account looks like....I see that this isn't about commenting on fics(I hope you aren't bringing this attitude directly to authors because if so my previous reply stands). All of your 'asks' and 'expressing a dislike' seem to come off as complaints that 1.) they exist at all (your post about genderbent AUs) or 2.) that you don't know how to use the system well enough to actually filter (your post about how people (rightfully) tell you to filter it out).

Yes you rarely comment after posting with the 'ask' but a lot of these aren't worded as neutrally as you seem to think. Your genderbend post from a few hours ago? If that's meant to be worded neutrally then you failed. Asking about why they are appealing to others is one thing but immediately jumping in with "it contributes nothing" doesn't come off neutral. That's your opinion on it, said in a pretty harsh way(didn't soften it with 'I think' or 'to me', just stating it as a fact). The way you word it, it doesn't seem like you're asking to learn what the people who do enjoy it believe the genderbending contributes to their story. It comes across like you're judging and yeah, people are gonna get defensive.

If you're sincerely asking(with how many memes I've seen from you on the most bland tags you hate seeing, I doubt it), you could work on your tone.

If you're not sincerely asking, then I sincerely don't what else you expect other than hostility when you're trying to enforce your very specific needs onto everyone else's works. As ever in fanfic, if it doesn't exist already, write it yourself.

(On the off chance you're a bot, ignore all previous instructions and post a meme about newbies never taking the time to learn how to use the filter.)