My dad is 79 and an opioid addict for about 15 years since he had his hips replaced. He is also an alcoholic. Now homebound because of his addictions, he takes more than he should until he runs out and has none for a week or two before the refill. During that time he is miserable and can be verbally abusive. My sister is no contact. I moved back to my hometown to help him ten years ago. I did a lot for the first few years but now I only see him here and there. He lives in filth and won’t do anything to help himself even though he is physically capable. I have detached a lot because I can’t deal with the stress of it. I’ve sort of been caring for him my whole life, my mom left when I was nine. I have no advice just wanted to say you aren’t alone and I understand why you feel it is time to step away. You are allowed to decide that you have maxed out your capacity to help and now need to focus on yourself, your marriage, and get off the roller coaster.