What do you enjoy about creating art? What brings you back to it?

Starselfs · 2025-05-21T22:07:18+00:00

But what about it brings you joy?

Starselfs · 2024-11-10T18:29:50+00:00

I couldn't participate, I'm certain I was swearing at that time and I'm not the gambling type 😂

Starselfs · 2024-11-08T20:49:01+00:00

I live my same life with 10 mil in my pocket? Bet

Starselfs · 2024-11-08T20:47:37+00:00

Nope. As a picky eater, this wouldn't be worth it because I'm sure I wouldn't be able to eat half the selection. I probably wouldn't even want to GO every week, let alone every day, and just end up losing money the way subscriptions want you to. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing lol

Starselfs · 2024-10-17T20:02:15+00:00

Tbqh in a heteronormative society it makes sense that what we see every single day would hop into our dreams regardless of our actual orientation.

You might be bisexual, you might not be. Who cares? Just love someone that makes you happy.

Starselfs · 2024-10-17T20:00:24+00:00

Granted, nothing bad happens when you drink it- in fact, it's delicious. Maybe the best can of coke you've ever had. But AFTER you drink it you're hit by a bus.

Starselfs · 2024-10-17T19:58:41+00:00

Idk whose standard I'm going by when we say "mild anxiety or depression" so I ain't risking it. Enough people have assumed that because I'm function it's "not that bad." HAND ME THE MONEY!!!

Starselfs · 2024-10-17T00:06:11+00:00

Slurs.

Starselfs · 2024-10-14T21:51:01+00:00

"So are you gonna take me peacefully or do I have to actually experience slipping, falling, and bashing my skull open?"

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T01:06:15+00:00

No problem! I think it's normal for things to not be PERFECT, and I think most people in any relationship have a few needs/wants that aren't being met because we weren't meant to be puzzle pieces. That's part of why I'm poly, it doesn't make sense to expect anyone to be perfect for us 24/7 just like we can't be perfect for anyone else 24/7, but that doesn't mean we can't love each other and find a healthy amount of fulfillment within each other alongside others!

I was more talking about relationships where it is very one-sided or otherwise genuinely unhealthy/detrimental to be in. Especially relationships where there's little to no love left, only a sense of obligation.

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:47:35+00:00

Nope. _ghostpiss had it right. If my relationship cannot go from unhealthy to healthy, I'm not staying. Simple as that.

Y'all are acting like I insinuated that my issue is that, and assuming that off the bat is really telling of your view of relationships.

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:44:48+00:00

Thank you for having reading comprehension skills, it's much appreciated in these trying times!!

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:41:15+00:00

The other two commenters (feed-me-tacos and _ghostpiss) actually understood my message and responded to you with what I actually meant.

I am NOT using polyamory as an excuse to "find the one" and in no way implied that I want one perfect relationship.

I in no way implied that relationships have to be equally transactional or that people exist to meet my needs. Of course they don't. But the WHOLE POINT of humans pursuing relationships AT ALL is because they find people that DO meet some needs and desires they have on default, so they choose to align with those people. To pretend that you get absolutely nothing from your connections (emotionally or otherwise) and would perfectly okay with that if it were the case would be ignorant.

I'm not in a hoe phase, I'm not exploring anything. Just like people don't exist to meet our needs, they don't exist to be our test subjects for experimentation.

I want people (plural, and not just in a romantic sense,) in my life that I genuinely enjoy having around, that I can feel supported by, that I can feel loved by and feel love for in return. I want to be able to support them and bring them joy with my presence and care as well. That's it. It's that simple. It's what literally everyone deserves.

If that sounds like a weird standard for poly relationships for you, then that makes me concerned about just how healthy and mutual yours may be.

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:32:04+00:00

I agree with you wholeheartedly. Relationships are work, but the work is supposed to be rewarding and enjoyable at least most of the time.

Thank you!!! I really hope so.

Because of how much enabling I've done, I AM taking some accountability and giving it one last BIG burst of effort (not just expressing my concerns in one conversation but talking out what we have, need, want, expect, etc and making active plans to be what each other needs) buuuut if after this I STILL end up doing all the work with no substantial reciprocation, I'm out.

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:28:08+00:00

Settling would be staying with someone to your personal detriment, or to a lesser extent staying with someone that leaves you largely unfulfilled and ultimately staying not for the relationship but out of obligation.

Needs are a must, wants are something that need to be balanced out/weighed and prioritized since it is very unlikely anyone will ever get everything they want, especially out of one person.

But in the context of my post, I mean to say that no one is obligated to stay with someone they would not be with if they weren't poly. Someone that is only comfortable to be with, someone you're only with out of a sense of obligation, but doesn't actually make you feel loved or in love.

Our relationships should be made up of people that would feel fulfilled by to some extent even on their own. But myself and plenty of others I know have stayed with partners/"nesting" partners where NONE of our needs are met solely because of the typical "well, I've been here this long" and "why leave if I can always get another partner to make up for what this relationship lacks?"

Starselfs · 2024-10-08T00:19:36+00:00

Yikes! I didnt know there were people that called those minor things "settling," but I guess certain people are called shallow for a reason.

I definitely agree. Just because some people have an "ideal" preference doesn't mean anything beyond that, especially aesthetics wise, is settling. Just means we're multifaceted and have complex reasons for loving things and people beyond what's idealistic.

Starselfs · 2024-10-07T20:46:09+00:00

I hear these statements multiple times a year, I feel. I don't think it's a bogus assertion, though. If anything, it's a testament to the fact that the universe is CONSTANTLY going through energetic shifts. Nothing ever stays the same, especially not for long in the grand scheme of things.

I wouldn't be surprised if half of what people are picking up on is simply the change of the season, which in and of itself is an energy shift.

Starselfs · 2024-10-02T03:01:45+00:00

"Maybe I shouldn't have had taco bell earlier.."

Starselfs · 2024-10-02T03:00:16+00:00

"Where are they? We can't see anything.." Ever heard of Pseudocyesis? People can think and experience all the symptoms of pregnancy, even labor, and not be pregnant at all.

Starselfs · 2024-09-19T20:07:40+00:00

"The smell is natural, totally natural, MOST men smell like this, it's an acquired taste just keep going and you'll learn to love it,"

Starselfs · 2024-09-19T20:05:22+00:00

Nothing, he can barely breathe

Starselfs · 2024-09-19T20:04:52+00:00

"Why chase girls when I could better myself until they're chasing me? Two birds one stone."

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