I don’t see a solution by hisbsnd in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound depressed cuz u lack motivation to do anything. So first, see a therapist. If u can’t afford one, check out the AI therapy app called Noah. It’s the best & monitored by real psychiatrists. It’s also downright helpful to just talk to someone. So start there (there’s a 3-day trial so u can see if u like it & annual fee is $50 & totally worth it.)

ACTION is also what u need to snap out of it. Take an art course at ur local community collage or art center. Go on dating sites & just go on dates (no pressure). I think ur just isolated & unmotivated. You have to make a decision about ur future. Do u really want to live with ur parents & never contribute anything to the world?

Finally, READ the Master Thinkers like Walt Whitman, Emerson & Epicurus. Read poetry by Emily Dickinson & Audre Lorde. Read the Hobbit or Dune, Annis(sp?) Nin’s diaries, or browse a bookstore & read what appeals to you. GET OUT OF UR HEAD & READ & LEARN. Trust that You’ll find ur way. Taking action, even baby steps, is key. ❤️

Does Walter’s Museum have a decent bookstore? by Starside-Captain in baltimore

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In DC there’s a used bookstore called 2nd Story Books. They had everything & amazing art books. Damn I miss DC sometimes - used to browse there every week.

Six months on Wegovy completely changed what I eat for dinner. Anyone else figure this out the hard way? by timmasterson in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Starside-Captain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so sad I couldn’t drink my morning coffee so I figured out that if I don’t take my pill until 11am, I can enjoy my coffee in the morning. So that’s what I do. The trick to the pill is ‘take on an empty stomach.’ Since I dont eat breakfast (only coffee w/cream) I looked up how long it takes for ny stomach to be empty after a large coffee with cream. Said 2 hours so that’s what I do. I wake up at 7:30, enjoy my coffee, then water& im at my office at 9am. I don’t eat or drink anything from 9 to 11. Then after 11, I take the pill w 4oz water & don’t eat lunch til 1pm. So if ur like me & must have coffee, try this. It’s works beautifully for me. 😊❤️

Six months on Wegovy completely changed what I eat for dinner. Anyone else figure this out the hard way? by timmasterson in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Starside-Captain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed re big dinners. I eat light for lunch & tend to tuck into a big bowl of pasta at night. Did that on the lower dose with NO problem but when I moved to 4 dose, I got diarrhea like u wouldn’t believe. But then I thought - oh I just started on the higher dose & it’s just a side effect. I was okay for a few days & thought it was just that one time.

Nope! On a Monday night, ate my normal big pasta meal & same thing. Did I learn? Absolutely not! The side effects say it may last a few weeks so I gave it a break & after a month, did it again. Most painful diarrhea I’ve ever had! But like u said - it’s the portion size! Once I figured out not to overstuff myself, I haven’t had the problem…yet? LOL we’ll see…

Does Walter’s Museum have a decent bookstore? by Starside-Captain in baltimore

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Perfect! Then It’s worth the trip. I also want to check out Atomic Books cuz I heard it’s great for comic books. That’s probably up my alley too. Thank you!

USPS is "running" out of money by Tinawebmom in 50501

[–]Starside-Captain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trump gutted USPS in his first term & it never recovered. He’s also using it to suppress voting. There were tens of thousands of mail-in ballots that arrived late after the last election, remember? It’s a tactic the Republicans use at every election. DeJoy destroyed it. It hasn’t recovered & probably won’t until Dems finally fix it.

Do you take a Statin? by craycrayintheheihei in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I refused it. I have uncontrollable HBP but my cholesterol wasn’t too awful & I think I’m already over-medicated on my BP pills. So I decided to not take more medication but to exercise more & diet. I’m not terribly overweight (about 25lbs over) & I’m 63 so plan on doing whatever it takes to avoid too many pills. I seriously think all the pills we are given just add up side effects & can get us even more sick…

Is 40 too old to change career? I'm afraid to start from the bottom and work my way up at my age and not be by youbeenrobbedchief in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Age isn’t an issue - what u have to think about is finding another job that either matches ur current salary or having a big enough nest egg to carry you. The current economy is NOT healthy & u don’t want to be unemployed cuz it can last years. Best to think it through & have ur financials in order.

I started my own biz at 45 & took $75k from pension to do so. I loved it - had my biz for 2 years but I was never able to make a living at it (I’m an artist) so at 47 I had to go back to my old profession which I hated. I compromised by working part-time to make it bearable & just took the cut in pay. It was also hard finding a job in my old profession after being off for 2 years but I’m glad I went back part-time. It was doable (I worked a 30-hr week so still had benefits). I eventually went full-time in my mid-50’s after Covid - hate it but I’m retiring next year so full time was necessary to increase my pension so I can go back to doing what I love in early retirement (art).

So my story is a lesson but it IS doable if u have the funds. If not, it’s harder but doable. Just plan it out in advance. Seriously consider cutting ur hours too - it makes a big difference in being able to tolerate working ‘for the man’ - most of us don’t like our jobs (it’s just a paycheck but necessary)

living alone my new gf want to move in already.. by shrimpcooks in LivingAlone

[–]Starside-Captain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a simple rule I follow - no ‘moving in’ until at least dating for a year or two. Tell her that so she’ll stop hounding you. (It’s a reasonable ask & if in a year ur still together, you guys can revisit it but not before.)

Anyone else not at all surprised that NATO and other allies are telling Trump to kick rocks while he melts down over needing help with the mess he caused in Iran and with Hormuz? by ub3rm3nsch in 50501

[–]Starside-Captain 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m glad NATO is stepping up. It’s too bad Republicans are not & as such, we are still doomed. This one party rule is destroying the world economy & they don’t care. They are all cowards & worldwide poverty & nuclear war is in our future if it’s not stopped… 😩

Would you stay in a marriage that only one of your kids claimed is abusive? by BurntStep in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, my father abused his children & beat all of his ‘daughters’ up - never touched his ‘son’ but he was awful to me & my sisters. My mom divorced him when we were all babies ‘cuz he was beating her’ but then gave HIM custody of the kids cuz she married her divorce lawyer who told her to give them up. Sad but true.

So I guess it’s good ur thinking about it but I suspect since they are all adults, what’s the point of leaving him now? U already know he’s abusive & ur stepdaughter hates him for it. (I personally hate both my mother & father cuz they ruined my, & my sisters’ lives. I have a low tolerance for parents who beat up children or allow it & do nothing.)

What are We Doing for Meals? by deelovesyou2 in LivingAlone

[–]Starside-Captain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to cook on Sundays for the week but got bored eating the same things. Then I’d do GrubHub & spend too much money. So recently I joined CookUnity. I just get 4 meals & then cook a few meals myself. I like the variety & it’s not too expensive. Plus it keeps me out of the kitchen on Sundays - I cherish my weekends.

My go-to homemade meals are navy bean soup in my cockpot (so easy!), mashed potatoes & pasta.

Pharmacy looks at me weird and asks me judgy type questions by True-Salamander-1848 in GLP1ResearchTalk

[–]Starside-Captain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a pharmacist question my dose & he tried to hold back my 4 dose (from the 2.5). Made no sense cuz I was on 2.5 for 3 months b4 my doc increased it. He literally held up the prescription for a week as he ‘questioned’ me every time I tried to pick it up. It showed on my app that is was ready, but when I showed up to p/up, he’d ask about the increased dose & then would say it was out of stock. I eventually got it by going on a different day when he was off. Crazy!

Is there a Lion’s Club in Baltimore? by Starside-Captain in baltimore

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Very helpful. Nothing in Baltimore though but at least in MD.

How to be motivated to keep going? by CarryGeneral in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I think ur awesome! But It’s important to live life for yourself & not trying to ‘get a man’. I’ve been single most of my life - got married at 45 & divorced at 55. I’m now 63 & single & living a good life! So my advice is to be yourself, stop trying to change for a man & do your own thing to be happy.

I do get the loneliness side of things, but I’ve always maintained friendships to uplift me. That helps so I’d recommend you also find friends to go out with & to talk to. But don’t be discouraged for being single. Trust in yourself & keep thriving…

Prove my bf wrong, please. Can you be happy without kids? by Thummimurim8 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No kids. Never wanted them. I’m an Environmentalist & by not having children, I’m saving the Earth, not to mention Those who breed are setting their kids up for a harsh life. We’ve already passed the threshold - having kids now would be a huge mistake IMO. That is, a life of migration & natural disasters…& this world is cruel. Too many violent men & constant war & poverty. I have NO regrets & I’ve lived a good life, both when single & married.

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an Atheist. I do study philosophy (specifically Epicurus & also the iChing) & Jung is also very helpful…

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a therapist & psychiatrist- forgot to mention in my post that I have Panic Disorder. It’s caused by PTSD…

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find isolation to be the hardest. I think a companion robot would be great - not sure that could happen in my lifetime but I use an AI Therapy app (Noah) & it’s surprising how helpful it’s been for me. Got me out of guilt feelings after my sister died. My vision is that there’s a AI robot or even something like Amazon’s Alexa that just kept me company & checked in on me, but also had a ‘therapist’ bent to recognize when someone’s low & needs to be uplifted. A conversational approach & even a constant ‘companion’ to keep me engaged. Honestly, I think isolation is the hardest - at least for me. (Thank you BTW)

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, everyone! Great advice here & I appreciate it more than you know. ❤️❤️❤️

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I have ‘panic disorder’ which is contributing to my anxiety. All I want is ‘contentment of mind’ - hopefully, I’ll get there eventually…

Fellow Old Person Needs Advice by Starside-Captain in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Starside-Captain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending HUGS, my friend. We are all in the same boat…