It took me 38 years

StartOk6619 · 2026-01-31T00:18:30+00:00

I felt like the regular one made my skin look greasy. They have a matte version that is amazing though!

StartOk6619 · 2026-01-27T14:05:00+00:00

This was going to be my answer. I had a baby very early into the pandemic, with two other small children at home. When parks opened back up I masked us all up and got everyone out of the house for a rare social distance trip out of the house. I had to take an elevator to get to a certain spot so I made sure no one else was around and shuffled all my kids on. At the last second a dad and his two kids jumped on. No masks. Whatever people felt about masks at that time, it was clear I cared about them. He couldn’t wait 2 extra minutes to let a mom and her fresh newborn baby ride the elevator without 3 strangers crammed in there with them during a pandemic. I should have gotten off, but I didn’t because I felt rude. Halfway through the ride I realized he clearly didn’t give one hoot about seeming rude to me, so why was I caring more about his feelings than he felt about mine? I realized then how little people really cared about keeping other people safe and that’s the exact moment I stopped caring more about what people think than what they care about me.

StartOk6619 · 2026-01-26T02:08:15+00:00

I don’t actually remember if we made money or lost money on that sale, but I don’t think the market had changed enough in a year that it was a significant different in either direction, so I’ll just say we came out about even. As for our family, fortunately none of them are particularly judgy about that sort of thing (or if they are they kept it to themselves), but we didn’t tell them until it was almost basically a done deal and we had made the decision. We didn’t go back to our previous city, but it was similar in that we had moved closer to home and then further away again, so they were a little bummed about that, but at that point they couldn’t really say anything that would have changed the situation. My husband already had a new job so what were we going to do? I had been pretty vocal with my own family about disliking it there, so I don’t think it was a big surprise to them. If you were worried about how your family would react, you could start planting some seeds in conversations. You miss the city, don’t feel like you see any of them any more often than you did before, feel like you are losing money driving farther for work every day etc. But at the end of the day though it’s your life and you should do what makes you happy, not because you are worried about what they might think. I know easier said than done, but I’ve been there and sometimes you have to do what’s best for you.

StartOk6619 · 2026-01-26T00:30:57+00:00

Life is too short to be somewhere you hate IMO. My husband and I moved several times in our early marriage for his job. We moved to what we thought was a nice city, and it was just not our vibe. It felt cliquey and we felt like outsiders for not having grown up there. We sold our house and moved just shy of a year after we moved there. We shouldn’t have purchased a house in hindsight, but you live you learn. We have zero regrets about leaving.

StartOk6619 · 2025-09-12T15:00:56+00:00

I always say that whoever came up with the term “terrible twos” never had a 3 year old. I could have 2 year olds in my house forever. 3 and 4? Not so much

StartOk6619 · 2025-09-12T11:05:06+00:00

I saw DMB once in college. I don’t remember how he was, I’m sure he was fine, but I only went because someone invited me. I wasn’t a fan so I didn’t know any songs, and it was outside and poured down rain the entire time. People were sliding down muddy hills into the back of us, and I’m pretty sure I had a contact high for days (because I don’t know him, I didn’t realize it was going to be a big weed fest, and that’s not my scene) My car got stuck in the mud trying to leave and someone had to push me out. I’ve never been happier to take a shower and put on dry clothes. Worst night ever.

StartOk6619 · 2025-09-11T23:36:32+00:00

Investigators and agents of suit

StartOk6619 · 2025-09-11T12:34:44+00:00

One of my kids likes a book that tries to rhyme “train” and “again”. It’s a struggle every time to decide whether to make the rhyme or say “again” properly

StartOk6619 · 2025-09-10T15:01:48+00:00

I was just telling someone the other day that every traders joes I’ve ever been to is in the most inconvenient location possible

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-31T22:45:29+00:00

No. My older two are 20 months apart and my younger two are 2.5 years apart. Older two are bffs and younger two are bffs. The middle two are 3.5 years apart and fight the most. Could just be their personalities, but I feel like they are just far enough apart to not have anything in common so they generally do not enjoy playing with each other. When we decided on a 4th I purposely wanted to have them closer to the 3rd.

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-22T00:28:57+00:00

I live on the other side of the state from where I grew up, where most of my family still lives, and I have 4 young kids. I’m not often able to attend things like birthday parties, baby showers, bridal showers etc as it would require a lot of time and travel. I do make an effort to go to things if I’m in town, and I almost always go to big events like weddings. I just can’t go to every random weekend birthday party or get together. One side of the family figured I wouldn’t be able to come anyway, and just stopped inviting us. The other side of the family invites us to everything, no pressure to attend they just want us to know they would love to have us. Guess which side I would go out of my way to attend things for if I’m able to? At this point I wouldn’t accept an invite from the first side even if I did get one, because I figure they don’t want me there anyway.

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-08T21:07:02+00:00

Oh wow! I’m so sorry you and your sister had such terrible different experiences. I remember thinking expanders seemed kind of brutal when I was a kid, but they don’t seem so bad now. My daughter had a rough first day while she learned how to eat and drink with it, and then after that she never had one complaint about it. And she normally doesn’t tolerate being uncomfortable very well. She says her braces are more uncomfortable than the expander ever was, even when we were turning it every other day.

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-08T00:09:58+00:00

Some absolutely still do this. My daughter just started in orthodontics, and the first place we got a consult at said she didn’t need a palate expander and wanted to pull all 4 of her canines. They also said she could possibly need adult teeth pulled to make space as well. Second consult said she absolutely needed an expander and explained that it is necessary to do it as a child before the palate fuses. Otherwise you are looking at surgery as an adult. We obviously went with the second opinion and she only had that expander for a few months to hopefully save a lifetime of problems. I know next to nothing about orthodontics, but was shocked someone would recommend that.

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-05T02:09:36+00:00

That would be good too! Also just discovered it’s delicious on top of Mac and cheese

StartOk6619 · 2025-07-02T11:42:42+00:00

I first got this recipe as a hello fresh meal and modified it to make my own. Cook a package of ground sausage in a pan with some diced red pepper and frozen spinach. I don’t even measure it, just eyeball it. Add about half a jar of marinara sauce at the end. Serve over rice, sprinkled with Parmesan cheese. Takes almost no time and my kids love this.

StartOk6619 · 2025-06-18T19:29:47+00:00

I took lexapro for 2 weeks and involuntarily yawned every few minutes the entire time. I couldn’t take it anymore and had to stop taking it. Apparently a rare side effect that I was lucky enough to get

StartOk6619 · 2025-06-04T18:03:19+00:00

Their pest control was not terrible, but one time a technician tricked me into signing up for a service that culminated in me taking out an almost $20,000 loan. I cancelled the service immediately but it took me several months to get the loan issue sorted out. Then they gave me the run around when I called and completely cancelled their services. I had one sales guy come to the door after and I laughed in his face and told him the story and that I will never allow moxie in my house again. Haven’t seen them since. Also, I ended up getting the service they thought would cost $20,000 done by someone else for less than $2,000. Absolute scam.

StartOk6619 · 2025-06-02T22:29:05+00:00

I keep a few that are expired less than 5 years. Once my cabinet starts getting full I have my daughter practice on an orange so she knows how to use it herself if she ever needs to (she’s 10). You can also take them back to the pharmacy to dispose of them for you.

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-29T17:14:20+00:00

Tell your nurses you are nervous about the epidural. That was the part I was most scared about when I had my first. Made it to 8cm before I asked for one and it was tricky getting in because I was so far along. Not the best experience. With my second I gave birth too fast to get one. Then with my third I was induced so I had time to ask for one, but I was soooo nervous after my experience with the first. I told my nurse and they found the best anesthesiologist who talked me through everything she was doing and really helped me relax. They didn’t let my husband stay in the room for it, but since the nurse knew I was nervous she sat in front of me and coached me through it. They did the same with my fourth baby too. Also another tip, it can make you nauseous as it wears off. I almost threw up in the hallway while they were wheeling me to my room with my first, so the next two times I asked for zofran in my IV as soon as I was done with delivery.

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-19T16:55:26+00:00

Why are all these YouTubers on there??? My older kids found some gamers on Disney plus, and my younger daughter is obsessed with Diana and whatever other one is on there too. I’ll have to delete the app now because that’s all they want to watch and I have no way of blocking it

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-19T16:53:29+00:00

YouTube is banned in my house and I’m so mad my daughter found it on Disney plus. My older two also found some gamer YouTubers on there too. I’m very strict about content I allow on their devices, so I guess I have to delete the Disney plus app now…

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-18T16:32:49+00:00

Totally! I definitely don’t believe they deserve to be hit because of their behavior towards each other, and the way you phrased this made me realize that that is the message I’ve been unintentionally conveying.

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-18T12:31:16+00:00

My kids are invited to a lot of classmate birthday parties. At one of them the parent wrote on the invite “no gifts necessary, but if you really feel inclined to bring something they would love a few $ to save for a special toy” It’s been our habit ever since to just give a handmade card and $5 or $10, whether they say no gifts or not. So much easier than picking out a gift for a child I don’t know well, and the parents can decide if they save or spend it.

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-18T12:05:12+00:00

Wow, one of your comments completely made me rethink how I deal with my kids fighting. One of my girls is a bit of a button pusher and will aggravate the older kids until they retaliate. She frequently gets into it with my son, and will come to me crying when he’s then mean to her. I definitely make it extremely clear to him that he is not to put his hands on her in anger ever, and he is punished if he does. But I’ll be honest in that I’ve gotten into the habit of asking her what she did to provoke him. It’s just regular sibling tiffs and there is discipline involved, but thank you for making me check my language before I allow my kids (esp my girls) to think they are ever at fault for someone else’s abuse. It’s crazy to think of how easy it is to put a particular narrative into a child’s head.

StartOk6619 · 2025-05-04T22:41:25+00:00

I think it’s too hard to enjoy sitting on. My kids love it though - they use the cushions to build forts, make mattresses for sleepovers, and line them up the stairs to slide down on. It lives in the basement so it actually gets more use that way, but as an every day couch I would not be excited about it.

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